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I didn't think I wanted to have children. I wanted to go to law school and have a career. Now, I'm an aspiring writer and happy, stay-at-home mother of a five-year-old boy and an almost-four-year-old girl. When you're in a relationship with someone you love and with whom you want to spend the rest of your life, sometimes you change your mind. Neither of my children were planned, by the way, and I was using birth control pills when I became pregnant with my daughter. I had bronchitis, and antibiotics make birth control pills less effective, you know.
posted by
whitworx
on March 25, 2004 at 10:23 AM
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Sunny gave you good advice. Lisa needs to know the depth of your feelings on this issue. By the way, thanks for commenting on my free inquiry blog.
posted by
aardvark
on March 10, 2004 at 12:21 PM
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And Some Wanted Them
and never got them. Nice blog.
Griff
posted by
Griffin
on March 8, 2004 at 12:33 AM
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I agree with Sunny...
but is sounds like you have that covered. Chilren change your life in ways you can't even imagine. To be a good parent, you become someone else, basically. Some survive, some thrive and some resent it.
posted by
food4thought
on March 7, 2004 at 10:42 PM
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I have told her...
Sunny and she understands.
Jeff
posted by
jollyjeff
on March 7, 2004 at 12:31 PM
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Jeff,
please just do me one favor, hun. Tell her that you DO NOT want children EVER. If you don't tell her that and she decides she wants a child afterall, she will be VERY depressed if you leave her for that reason. Tell her now before her mind is made up. All women want to have children sometime in there life. Tell her you will leave if she wants one. That way, she can think about it and won't get hurt later on from your leaving if she decides she wants your nightmare. Take it from a woman's side who has been there before.
~ Sunny
posted by
Sunny_Delight
on March 7, 2004 at 9:43 AM
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you obviously
know very much who you are and what you want out of life. having children is not something for everyone and in some cases it would be great if those people knew how to just say no before bringing children into a world that they (the parents) can't assist the children in growing up in. not just financially but emotionally and morally as well.
i know that i want kids, not right now but i want them with "M" - i even want them to be little "M"s! it scares me to think how we would afford them and how they would alter our lifestyle as we know it - so i think at this point in time i am too selfish and enjoying being me and being part of a couple before introducing little ones.
we have got two puppies though - i guess we'll see how we go with them!
if you're not ready for kids and you don't want them, then you've made the right decision, i doubt that at your age (no ageism intended) that you would change your mind on that one!
posted by
littlemspickles
on March 6, 2004 at 11:04 PM
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