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Well, Jem,
Don't tell anyone, but I cried as I read this. It's sad how so many suffer with a parent's illness/disease especially when the parent is able to see the hurt it is causing and not do anything to change it. I'm sorry this is/was your case. I empathize with you; as my mom is quite ill, too, and won't do a damn thing to better herself.
All we can do is pray for their wake up call; before it's too late. Hugs to you, my friend.
posted by
SpitFire70
on March 26, 2004 at 12:34 AM
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Wiley
Thanks hun!!! *hugs*
posted by
Jemmie211
on March 25, 2004 at 12:40 PM
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Jemmie,
You and your mom are on my "24HAD" prayer list.
posted by
WileyJohn
on March 25, 2004 at 11:24 AM
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jemmie, I found that Al-Anon helped me for about one year. It also gave
me skills that I use alone now without attending their meetings anymore.
There really is nothing that will bring it all back, make it all go away, erase it all from your mind, heart and soul. However, writing about it helps and soothing yourself helps and staying away from their pain and hurt helps. They exist in another dimension of their own creation and you cannot go there.
Some things will just hurt whenever you pick them up or look at them or touch them. I forgave my daddy, understood his needs and inability to control it and rejoiced when he couldn't drink anymore because he was too sickened by it to continue, but my teen years with him are no fun to look back upon, so I don't. We had twenty good years of his barely drinking at all before his death, and, it was good to have another life with him.
Wishing I could give you a little hug just now, Your Abuelita
posted by
benzinha
on March 23, 2004 at 2:43 AM
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msaries
Actually I have gone to a few Al-Anon meetings. I found they didn't offer what I needed.
posted by
Jemmie211
on March 22, 2004 at 3:34 PM
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Jemmie, how poignant and sad.
I heard once that addicts don't have loved ones--they have hostages.
Have you ever attended Al-Anon meetings? They're for the loved ones of alcoholics.
posted by
msaries
on March 22, 2004 at 3:14 PM
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