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- Go to I'VE BEEN DUPED!! AND THAT MAKES ME FEEL LIKE SUCH AN DOLT.
Long ago, I accepted that I'm gullible. I don't get mad at anyone for dupping me. I just try to learn from it and not let them do it again. I guess I hold a grudge. Good post.
posted by
Kay-Ren
on July 17, 2004 at 11:01 PM
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RachelAnna, maybe all people do it, but some more than others,
unfortunately. I guess we know which group I belong to.
posted by
Julia.
on July 17, 2004 at 12:40 PM
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I can SO relate to this...
I think most people beat themselves up to a certain extent. At least, I hope so! Great post!
posted by
RachelAnna
on July 16, 2004 at 10:59 PM
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well, I'm in my second childhood, the more roller coasters, the better.
Getting to 48 was okay but the last two were killer...
posted by
Julia.
on July 16, 2004 at 8:22 PM
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50?? Oh, I'd be in the hospital after the second one, lol! When I was a teenager I could ride 'em cowgirl, but after my second child, something weird happened to my whatever. Got real weak bellied; go figure, haha...
posted by
Katray2
on July 16, 2004 at 8:16 PM
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Hey, I once took a trip, 50 roller coasters in 14 days, my mind
and my soul were sqeaky clean after that tip I assure you.
posted by
Julia.
on July 16, 2004 at 8:13 PM
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Hey, whatever works Quirky!! A rollercoaster ride would probably do the trick; a healthy jolt of adrenaline is an excellent mind and soul cleanser. Well mostly, just don't overdo, lol. 
posted by
Katray2
on July 16, 2004 at 8:10 PM
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I probably just need to go ride a roller coaster and then I
will be good as new!
posted by
Julia.
on July 16, 2004 at 8:04 PM
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Oh Quirky, don't give up yet. Sometimes short breaks help. (From one who has taken a few during heavy blog fogs.) Yes, I agree about dupees. Definitely a self esteem problem. 
posted by
Katray2
on July 16, 2004 at 8:00 PM
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*sigh* I've lost the will to live...I mean...blog.
But about the dupee/duper (no I don't know if those are words, but I like them anyway) I always thought it was a self esteem issue.
posted by
Julia.
on July 16, 2004 at 7:49 PM
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Oh yes Quirky, me too,
I think ultra sensitive people tend to feel that way. And perhaps it's easier to beat yourself up instead of confronting or blaming the duper. (is that a word, I wonder, lol.) Hey, I just saw your comments over at Passionflower's place. Don't leave!! You're an awesome blogger and writer, one of my top favorites.
From what I saw, the majority of bloggers who commented on your posts were supportive. Maybe, what 2 or 3 were not nice? We can't let a few bad apples ruin the cider!!!
posted by
Katray2
on July 16, 2004 at 7:45 PM
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katray, surely not YOU. Well, yeah, it is hard to see that it's
mostly the other person's crap, glad I am not the only one who takes it on, though. I'm trying harder, though.
posted by
Julia.
on July 16, 2004 at 7:37 PM
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Interesting post Quirky,
Yes, I feel the same. Call myself all kinds of nasty names, haha.
I suppose because it seems like I've been unknowingly suckered into the person's "game" and I didn't have the good sense to know it or how to play.
posted by
Katray2
on July 16, 2004 at 7:32 PM
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Wilds, yes you make a lot of sense, actually. Thanks for taking the
time to articulate that!
posted by
Julia.
on July 16, 2004 at 6:24 PM
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Quirks
I don't know. It's just a natural progression, I guess. It usually only takes me a day or so. Mostly what helps me is to write it out. I don't like feeling hurt and angry and it helps to vent it and let it go. Usually a solution or a resolution comes with writing. I guess another take is that people have their own issues and it isn't about me. Whatever motivates someone to manipulate and take advantage of me certainly isn't about me. Same for you. Same for anyone, I guess. I don't want to become a bitter person. I don't want to give anyone that much power to transform me with negative energy. I choose to empower myself. Does any of this make sense?
posted by
Wildwoman_Laloba
on July 16, 2004 at 4:43 PM
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Original, thank you for your nice words. Maybe someday I will be
able to follow them.
posted by
Julia.
on July 16, 2004 at 4:41 PM
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wodsmith...there's that little old thing called hindsight again, lol.
posted by
Julia.
on July 16, 2004 at 4:22 PM
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Wilds, that's a great perspective. Perhaps you can tell me how
you get there??
posted by
Julia.
on July 16, 2004 at 4:21 PM
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shadow, no I really don't think they do. Well, I hope not.
posted by
Julia.
on July 16, 2004 at 4:20 PM
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Talion, LOL, yes you are, and one mean mutha, too!!
Maybe you can share some revenge secrets??
posted by
Julia.
on July 16, 2004 at 4:20 PM
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Hannah, well, it's good to know I am not the only fool.
posted by
Julia.
on July 16, 2004 at 4:19 PM
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Stupid things happen.
posted by
TARZANA
on July 16, 2004 at 3:52 PM
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Fool me once shame
on you, fool me twice shame on me. I always want to give people the benifit of the doubt, until I find out otherwise. Of course it's not fun to feel you've been taken advantage of and there is always that emotional baggage of being mad at them and at yourself, but I would sooner deal with that than to close myself up in a shell to keep it from happening.
posted by
Moondawg
on July 16, 2004 at 3:03 PM
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Quirky,
I think we all try to think the best about everyone
and that is what makes us such easy targets. Don't beat yourself up
for being one of the nice guys!
posted by
Original_Influence
on July 16, 2004 at 1:14 PM
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I think all of us run the gamut of feeliing
slightly foolish to anger at others and ourselves when we've been fooled and we wonder how we missed the signs. Things like that will always happen and we just have to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and keep moving again.
posted by
word.smith
on July 16, 2004 at 1:09 PM
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Think I need to take a page out of Talion's book!
Revenge...yeah, I like it.
posted by
Hannah_B
on July 16, 2004 at 9:40 AM
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Quirks
Initially I'm hurt and angry when I've been duped. I do, though, eventually reach a place where I realize that it's the duper that should be feeling bad for taking advantage....because I still have my dignity where the duper apparently has none.
posted by
Wildwoman_Laloba
on July 16, 2004 at 9:37 AM
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Quirk,
I always blame myself, think most people do. shadow
posted by
myddrin15
on July 16, 2004 at 9:30 AM
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Quirkyalone
Thoughts that I am to blame surely arise, but they are fleeting, quickly replaced by those of revenge. Afterall, I am Talion.
posted by
Talion
on July 16, 2004 at 9:21 AM
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Quirks--
Oh, yeah, I pretty much blame myself for everything.
posted by
Hannah_B
on July 16, 2004 at 9:14 AM
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