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Spitfire,
about that last part...really?? No one would ever know that about you, lol.
posted by
Julia.
on August 13, 2004 at 9:37 AM
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If like, my boob was showing and I didn't know it or something,
I'd appreciate another woman filling me in on that fact. If it were something like someone telling me that my house stunk of cat pee or something else that was rude, then no. (Unless it was a very close friend...then I'd appreciate the heads up) But, I have no problem telling people how rude, obnoxious, or lame they are for making certain comments to me or others....particularly in Blogitville!
posted by
SpitFire70
on August 13, 2004 at 1:11 AM
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Curly, lol.
In that case, yes I agree with you.
posted by
Julia.
on August 11, 2004 at 9:46 AM
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Hey, Quirky -
Underwear flapping is underwear flapping. I must admit, I have kept some of mine way too long and I dare say, they would not look very good flapping in the breeze.
posted by
Curly-Jo
on August 11, 2004 at 9:40 AM
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Curly,
Sooner than immediately?? My, you are a demanding one!!
posted by
Julia.
on August 11, 2004 at 9:36 AM
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Do Unto Others
I like to think that others would like me to do unto them as I would have them do unto me. If I was standing there with my underwear flapping in the breeze and didn't know it, I would want to know immediately, if not sooner!
posted by
Curly-Jo
on August 11, 2004 at 9:33 AM
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cadence,
the person who made that comment to you wasn't being tactful...just plain rude!!
posted by
Julia.
on August 10, 2004 at 10:55 AM
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It depends on what it is.
If someone's breath stinks, I might let them know discreetly, by popping a mint or a piece of gum in my mouth and offering them one as well. If a woman has lipstick on her teeth, I'll let her know. I was mad once because I had apparently written on my face with a blue ink pen and no one bothered to tell me until two hours later. However, there are some things that I won't say to someone. A girl, supposedly one of my friends, once asked me if I was too poor to afford a pair of shorts that were a size bigger. I am very self-conscious about my hips, and that really ticked me off, especially because she weighed about ten pounds more than me and was about five inches shorter, so she really didn't have any room to be talking.
posted by
Cadence
on August 10, 2004 at 10:49 AM
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Shadow,
welcome to the Coward Club!!
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 9:15 PM
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Quirk,
I'm a coward, I just usually keep quiet, well except maybe on the underwear. Depends on how old or big the person is. shadow
posted by
Keshet
on August 9, 2004 at 9:02 PM
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Oh HarveyG,
how awful!!
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 8:33 PM
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Quirky,
I worked with a guy for almost a year who had terminally bad halitosis -- I could never tell him.
Me Coward!!
posted by
HarveyG
on August 9, 2004 at 8:17 PM
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Scribes, LOL.
That's good news!!
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 7:59 PM
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Quirky--as always, smelling like a rose. l.s.
posted by
scriber
on August 9, 2004 at 7:54 PM
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thanks Scriber. P.S. How's my breath today?
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 7:39 PM
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of course we must be civil--but good examples to study just in case. l.s.
posted by
scriber
on August 9, 2004 at 7:25 PM
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Hollee,
Ahhhhh.
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 6:49 PM
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I've had TP on my shoe and no one told me
and I was really embarassed. Now I always check.
Jake had a guy at work who had icky's comng out his nose after sneezing during a meeting with a client. Jake kept wiping his own nose and looking at the guy but every time the guy wiped, he just spread it. Jake finally whispered to him, "Go wipe your f**king nose."
posted by
Hollee
on August 9, 2004 at 6:41 PM
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Hollee,
Yes, I think I could tell someone that. Also, the tp on the shoe...
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 6:31 PM
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Skirt in the underpants
Yes, it happened. Was Christmas shopping. Passed the Tobacco Shoppe - high class place in Eastgate Mall frequented my men- older woman - grey-haired, glasses, grandma type - must have just gone to the bathroom - her skirt was stuck in her underpants covered by her panty hose and she had her back to the entryway.
I high-tailed it in there, said Tturn around, say nothing, you're skirt is in your panties."
She was hrrified but thanked me profusely.
So I'm glad I did it.
Bad breath and that - depends whether I know the hairdreser or not.
posted by
Hollee
on August 9, 2004 at 6:02 PM
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Klara,
It seems the general consensus is to keep quiet--we're all just a bunch of cowards!
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 5:52 PM
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Kay-Ren,
LOL. I think you were kidding, and I think you know the word in the quote is discretion" not cowardice...but I can never be sure with you.
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 5:50 PM
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T99,
I'll bet he did--and you should have gotten a raise!
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 5:49 PM
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I'm just too much of a coward to ever speak up, Quirk.
I'm not afraid of offending them, but of hurting them, which is a good possibility, so I usually always keep quiet. Great post, girl!
posted by
KlaraRoberts
on August 9, 2004 at 4:04 PM
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Quirky,
I think it’s cowardice, and I’ve been guilty of it. If I’m alone I’ll tell someone their breath stinks or their pants are ripped. If I’m with someone, family or friend, I’ll ask their permission first or I’ll just keep my mouth shut. I’m growing up, because I've learned that sometimes cowardice is the better part of valor. Isn't that a quote? J
posted by
Kay-Ren
on August 9, 2004 at 3:57 PM
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Hey - I got to tell the CEO of our company that he was XYZ (ie - zipper down) one time.....of course, he was about to go on camera, so he appreciated the warning.
posted by
Tamara99
on August 9, 2004 at 3:45 PM
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David,
I agree, the "bad breath" scenario is the hardest one to be truthful...I cannot tell, either...and yet, if it were me, I would SO want to know, (esp. if it were chronic and everyone but me knew).
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 2:07 PM
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I always tell or almost
always tell a woman when her tag is out and showing
The tag on her blouse etc
Bad breath, I have never been able to tell anyone, so
I just hold my breath and smile whenever they are talking
or sometimes I turn my head and hold my breath but I am
getting to the point with 1 person that I just might tell him
his breath is bad and has alienated me from him
He is my chiroprator :-( and I haven't been to see him
in over a month because of it
posted by
David_S
on August 9, 2004 at 1:55 PM
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Wiley,
You little devil, you!
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 1:37 PM
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Talion,
Rofl. Rabbit out of a hutch--priceless!!
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 1:37 PM
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Whammie,
I agree, every situation is different. But it's so hard to know what to do sometimes!
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 1:36 PM
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QuirkyAlone
I say walk away
Try not to laugh out loud
posted by
WileyJohn
on August 9, 2004 at 12:39 PM
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Quirk
Once at work my pants were unzipped. To make matters worse, both ends of my shirt tail was peeking through the opening, like a rabbit peering out of its hutch. Everybody noticed. Nobody told me. Bastards one and all.
posted by
Talion
on August 9, 2004 at 11:59 AM
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One time, a very long time ago, my shirt was unbuttoned and a person
had the courtesy to tell me!!!!! I was mortified because how long had it been that way?! Thank God I was wearing a bra!!!!!!!
However, there was another time. when I was stretching before a run, and an older woman came over and criticized me because you could "see things". I always run in discreet areas, so I took offense to her remark, because I was not "out in public" and I was minding my own business.
So, I guess it depends upon the circumstances. Yes, definitely, it depends upon the approach, the intent, the specifics and the circumstances!!!!!!
Wham
posted by
WHAMENATOR
on August 9, 2004 at 11:45 AM
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MelodyStar,
I think I would want to know, as well. I mean, what if you ran around town all day like that?
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 11:42 AM
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I would hope if it was me someone would tell.
posted by
Melodystar
on August 9, 2004 at 11:38 AM
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lackadaisial,
well...I have no comment on that and no experiences here to back it up...
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 11:37 AM
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MelodyStar,
I did tell the panty-lady, but she was mortified...so I'm not sure that was the right thing to do!!
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 11:36 AM
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posted by
lackadaisial
on August 9, 2004 at 11:31 AM
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I'd probably tell them
No wonder my husband says I'm a bitch, huh?
posted by
lackadaisial
on August 9, 2004 at 11:31 AM
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In some circumstances you should tell. Like panties showing ect.. Good Post.
posted by
Melodystar
on August 9, 2004 at 11:26 AM
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