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RAD,
thanks very much for your kind words.
posted by
Julia.
on August 11, 2004 at 12:34 PM
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groucho,
yeah my sister is pretty great. (oh...kidding! thanks for the compliment). I'm lucky to have a mom who loves me no matter how F---ed up I am.
posted by
Julia.
on August 11, 2004 at 12:33 PM
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Poor woman
I am so sorry for your mother and the fact that she has had to go through this!
posted by
Runs_at_dawn
on August 11, 2004 at 12:10 PM
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quirky
your mother has a great daughter, too.
tg
posted by
tbgroucho
on August 11, 2004 at 12:07 PM
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HarveyG,
that is an interesting story, and yes, it illustrates my point perfectly. Parents are the first to get blamed for their child's actions...sometimes it IS largely their fault, and sometimes it isn't. But they usually aren't given the benefit of the doubt.
posted by
Julia.
on August 10, 2004 at 11:02 AM
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Evangeline, thanks.
I agree, people feel a false sense of safety by "blaming" someone. That way, it feel less likely that it could happen to them or in their own family.
posted by
Julia.
on August 10, 2004 at 11:00 AM
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I don't know f I told this story on BlogIt or not . . .
but its true and,perhaps, appropriate. As a child I attended a methodist church in my neighborhood. The minister and his wife were wonderful, loving, caring people. They had two sons. The youngest went into the seminary to follow in his fathers footsteps. The oldest engaged in a life of crime and wound up in prison. Same parents, same home, same rules -- vastly different results.
posted by
HarveyG
on August 10, 2004 at 9:06 AM
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I feel for all of you.
Even though studies reveal that people who commit crimes do so because of some mental abnormality (like the frontal lobe studies where people who damage this part of their brain become sociopathic and violent, even if they were mild as milk before their trauma) or because of the influence of peers (peers are a stronger influence than parents), society still wants someone to blame. It makes them feel safer. People don't want to accept that it could happen within their own families. And it's always the mother they attack. Horrible.
posted by
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on August 10, 2004 at 6:30 AM
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Shadow,
thanks.
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 10:44 PM
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Quirk,
No problem as long as the words are there either said or written, then the message is delivered. shadow
posted by
Keshet
on August 9, 2004 at 10:21 PM
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shadow,
I'm not so good at saying it out loud, but I can write it.
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 10:13 PM
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And mine.
posted by
RachelAnna
on August 9, 2004 at 10:07 PM
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RachelAnna,
thanks. Especially mine.
posted by
Julia.
on August 9, 2004 at 10:06 PM
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Very proud of you Quirk. It takes a big heart and lots of love to show others where you stand in someone's life and tell others what they mean to your. love shadow
posted by
Keshet
on August 9, 2004 at 10:00 PM
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I think it's awesome that you validate your mother like that
as even mothers need that every now and again!
posted by
RachelAnna
on August 9, 2004 at 9:49 PM
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