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So glad you guys talked...hope it's the beginning of something good...
posted by
Ariala
on November 18, 2004 at 10:46 AM
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UH - it took my father and I 40 years to get back together- even though
I lived with him for 18! So good for you and your dad.
posted by
Hollee
on November 18, 2004 at 6:15 AM
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its great to get things out in the open
I did this with my mum and I can now accept that she will never change...she is who she is and just because she is my mum does not mean I have to like her all the time...just as long as I can tolerate her.....
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 18, 2004 at 4:25 AM
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I hate to smile at someone's misfortune, but damn, some of them sure do deserve it don't they? Well off to bed =) Goodnight
posted by
Unidentified_Hacker
on November 17, 2004 at 11:27 PM
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yeah, little shits they are. Like I said I hold my tongue good, but I swear
I wanted to kick this one kid. Not even for being mean to her, just a little shit. But you are right, those who stick by your side when some others are on your ass, thats a friend. I was horribly picked on all through school, I was a horrid looking child and teenager. Skinny freckles , and poor to boot. So I was sportin the pro wings and the buddy jeans. Well, I run into some of those mongrels now. I don't even recognize some of them, huge, aged and wrinkled. Ugly is , is ugly does. Fate slapped a good smoten' on they ass!
posted by
Kiddo75
on November 17, 2004 at 11:23 PM
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lol, kids can be little shits too. I would say also let her know that not everyone is like that. I managed to form some pretty strong friendships in my younger years despite being called several unsavory things due to my always looking around at everything and spacing out, mixed with my not so straight train of thought. Most people were alright once they actually got to know me, but at first I would get a whole bunch of weird looks when I would sit there looking around during class. But ah well, little shits they were. And you know what? They're probably in a pretty crappy place right now, not sure who they are or what they've done with their life. Also, on a good note, it's been my personal experience that people who are physically "unattractive" tend to develop the best personalities, and are the friends you can always count on to get your back.
posted by
Unidentified_Hacker
on November 17, 2004 at 11:14 PM
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Ya, lol.. Thats what I want to tell some of them. And when she comes home
and tells me about these girls who laugh at her, or call her "burnt girl" (real original), I have to bite my tongue. I dont want her to think that she should be bitter or angry at these comments. Hurt is different, I let her tell me how she feels, and talk through it. I try to explain that some people in this world are just ugly, and maybe they have bad feelings about themselves and thats why they lash out at someone with an obvious target. Easy prey. But I also tell her its ok to stand up for herself, just not push it in and let the little shits ------I mean the mean kids--- take away from her special heart she was given. She asked me once what was wrong with her that they didnt' like her. I told her she asked the wrong question, it should be what was wrong with them that they didnt like her. The fact that they dont see what a loving sweet beautiful little girl she was, there must be something that aint tickin up there that they dont see it. Or maybe they do see it, and that s what the problem is. But ya, bite me just sounds a lot easier!
posted by
Kiddo75
on November 17, 2004 at 11:03 PM
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I would have to say that's an excellent thing to tell your daughter. It's really horrible how some people can be so utterly heartless, but something that we have to deal with. I've been called some pretty nasty things because I can be odd or eccentric at times, but you know what? They can bite me. What it all boils down to is that I'm happy with who I am, and they obviously need to get comfortable with who they are.
posted by
Unidentified_Hacker
on November 17, 2004 at 10:52 PM
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Ya, but you a braaaave one.. lol.. If I put out a journal.. whew. My daily
crap alone is bad enough, but to put my actual thoughts down? And let someone see? :crawls under covers-hides head in shameful agony: lol.. I think it's great you have the balls to put it out there and accept that you may hear crap thats hurtful or mean. My little girl was burned, and she has scars, but I don' t hide em one bit. We have to learn together to deal with the people out there who can be flat out assholes. I tell her, "the world around you can say whatever - sometimes nice, sometimes mean. But scar or no scar, the meanies would find something mean to say. But at night, you go to sleep a beautiful compassionate person who grows stronger and stronger with each mean word. And they go to bed weaker and weaker, for trying to break down someone with a special heart."
posted by
Kiddo75
on November 17, 2004 at 10:45 PM
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Thanks Devil
I will always be honest in my journals. It seems to defeat the purpose of a journal if you lie to it, you know?
posted by
Unidentified_Hacker
on November 17, 2004 at 10:30 PM
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Wow, I think it's great your able to step up and put yourself out there..
never know when there is someone reading that is trying to hold secrets hurtful for them. What caught my eye was the situation with your dad.. I had a rocky past to say the least with my mom and dad. My mom died a few years back, and there were some things left unresolved, and I know she was sorry and she knew I forgave.. but it would have been so much better if I could have had that end I needed. I am trying to do that with my dad as well.. so I don't have this same empty feeling again. So you do what you need to do for yourself. Bitterness or hurtful memories are a hard thing to fight.
posted by
Kiddo75
on November 17, 2004 at 10:18 PM
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