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I completely understand that Darrke
I could still walk when I was 425 pounds. malnourishing my body took away my the health of my bones and joints. I have always thought the insurance height weight tables were just contrived. Your experience is proof of that.
Mike's Goddess
posted by
mikes_goddess
on March 24, 2005 at 3:36 PM
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I am healthier than I was when I was thin. Stronger, less likely to catch whatever's going around, and less likely to be on a diet all the time. Looking back at gaining wieght I think my ideal is between 175-190, instead of under 120. That's based on how I felt, and what I could do - not on a number on a chart. (I'm 260 now, and even with some joint problems I don't feel any worse than I did at 120.)
posted by
DarrkeThoughts
on March 24, 2005 at 3:03 PM
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I'm glad I touched you, Witchy...
I guess I am not the only one who feels this way.
I look forward to your follow up post.
Mike's Goddess
posted by
mikes_goddess
on March 24, 2005 at 12:13 PM
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Wonderful post, Goddess.
The fifth paragraph is particularly meaningful to me. I had a long comment here that just didn't seem to end, so I think I'll post it in one of my blogs.
Thanks for telling like it is for some of us, and perhaps helping someone with their self-image. Goodness knows, society does enough to trample on the image of overweight people. It would be nice if everyone would read this post and learn what we already know. We're happy, whether others think we should be or not.
posted by
Witchflower
on March 24, 2005 at 11:58 AM
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Thanks for the clarification, Ariala...
I picked a hell of an issue for a Thursday morning...
Mike's Goddess
posted by
mikes_goddess
on March 24, 2005 at 10:33 AM
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That was my point, Gyspy...
since you have been a beautiful fat woman I know you understand what I meant in making the post. I think that many people don't see the obesity issue for what it really is and I believe... my opinion only... that some people who go out of their way to treat the obsese shabbily are just terrified that they might one day end up that way...but that's just my opinion.
Mike's Goddess
posted by
mikes_goddess
on March 24, 2005 at 10:32 AM
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Well, like I said, it's a beautiful attitude and I think you're completely
correct in feeling as you do. I really WAS agreeing with you.
posted by
Ariala
on March 24, 2005 at 10:28 AM
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Goddess... I agree, everyone should love themselves no matter their size.
posted by
RedHeadedGypsy
on March 24, 2005 at 10:28 AM
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Ariala, many things in life are a health concern...
but many people fail miserably at diets all their lives and stay obese all of their lives. When you have done all you can to attain a healthier weight then you have to find reasons to feel good about yourself no matter what everyone else thinks. I am not sure if you have ever had a weight problem, but if you have not then, with all due respect, you can't know what the mental hell is like. More people fail at diets than succeed and for those of us who do succeed, its never enough. I will never be able to lose enough weight to reverse the health problems that were formed in me as a seven year old that stood five feet tall and weighed 120 pounds. My post was meant to give hope to those who have been down this road and need the uplift and was certainly not meant to advocate obesity for obesity's sake.
Mike's Goddess
posted by
mikes_goddess
on March 24, 2005 at 10:27 AM
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I know Gypsy...
And I prefer being 300 pounds that I am now than the 425 pounds I was before the gastric bypass. And I too am prone to diabetes... in fact I have it and it is under control, thank the goddess. I also have severe osteo arthritis brought on from malnutrition from the gastric bypass I had that helped me lose 125 pounds. I think the point of my piece was that there are things that you really have to look at when you are overweight. Weight loss is not always an option for some people, but self esteem, no matter you situation is.
Mike's Goddess
posted by
mikes_goddess
on March 24, 2005 at 10:22 AM
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That's a wonderful attitude...love and self-acceptance, but I agree with
gypsy, health is a concern.
posted by
Ariala
on March 24, 2005 at 10:15 AM
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Goddess..
I have to admit that while there are a few good points in your outlook the truth is that I'm much happier for being half of the 358 pounds I was. Yes, we're soft and cuddly.. look younger and some of us live up to that Jolly stereotype. But health is the overall issue. We're also more prone to diabetes, arthritis and joint issues. I don't mind being a chubby girl, I think chubby is more acceptable for me.
posted by
RedHeadedGypsy
on March 24, 2005 at 10:11 AM
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