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Abuelita
You're so wonderful. I wish you were here with me right now. You're what I need to hug me and tell me I'm not so terribly wrong.
posted by
Jemmie211
on March 31, 2005 at 11:24 PM
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jems, your Gramma denies reality because she wants to remake her sad world.
It's nice that she wants all things fixed and normal and loving ( you do, too), but reality dictates otherwise. You have to stay away from your mom; you think so, you feel it is necessary, and you cannot imagine otherwise for now. Such is life.
If your Gramma dies unfulfilled by a reunion, it will not be your fault nor your doing. It will be your mother's decision not to or inability to, give up drinking as yet in her life. C'est la vie. This is life. It is life. No wishing and dreaming changes it from what it is. If we do live as though it were otherwise, we go quietly and dangerously nuts....
posted by
benzinha
on March 31, 2005 at 8:13 PM
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Jemmi
I feel so bad for you. Can't imagine being in your shoes, but I admire your resolve. Good luck..
posted by
Offy
on March 31, 2005 at 12:13 PM
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Jemmie she hasnt gotten to the part of being drunnk yet.... but its getting closer.... thanks
posted by
Tanoolicious
on March 31, 2005 at 12:10 PM
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Tanoo
I really hope your mom treats you decently when she is both sober and drunk.
posted by
Jemmie211
on March 31, 2005 at 11:58 AM
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lovelyladymonk
Thank you so much for your kind words. It always helps to know there are people out there who know what I am going through.
posted by
Jemmie211
on March 31, 2005 at 11:57 AM
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{{{HUGS}}} I hope youre able to work things out and your mom quits her drinking... my moms drinking has become so bad these days
posted by
Tanoolicious
on March 31, 2005 at 11:53 AM
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Jemmie,
Your post just broke my heart. Both of my parents are alcoholics, so I understand much of what you're now going through. The first thing I would say to you is know that it is okay not to put yourself through that kind of abuse anymore. I know it can be hard, but when your grandmother lectures you about bonding with your mother, stand up to her and calmly explain that this isn't yet possible.
Are you seeing a counselor or other professional about your depression? This can bring major relief. You may want to consider joining a support group for children of alcoholics.
You're in my thoughts. If you ever need someone to talk to, please don't hesitate to let me know.
Peace be unto you.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on March 31, 2005 at 11:47 AM
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