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bettyboop--
Yes, you are so right...thanks!
posted by
Julia.
on July 19, 2005 at 8:37 AM
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The good memories live on through love.
I'm sure you and your mother both have fond memories of him. She, as most mothers would, remembers the beautiful baby and child he was and all of the good things that the bad can never erase.
posted by
bettyboop1967
on July 18, 2005 at 9:01 PM
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Sassy--
No, of course it doesn't make a mother bad for loving someone who did bad things! Thanks for letting me know you were here.
posted by
Julia.
on July 18, 2005 at 1:45 PM
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I may not always like what they do
but I will love my kids unconditionally until the day I die. Even from the grave I will try and protect them if I can. It does not make a Mother bad for loving her child no matter what they have done or not done.
posted by
Sherri_G
on July 18, 2005 at 1:16 PM
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Shadow,
thanks again. You are like gold to me. Precious, rare and beautiful.
posted by
Julia.
on July 18, 2005 at 10:49 AM
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UsualSuspect--
I still love him--he was obviously mentally ill or deeply troubled...and he was my brother...so he will always have my love. thanks for commenting.
posted by
Julia.
on July 18, 2005 at 10:42 AM
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Akyterine--
for some mothers, yes...but not for all.
posted by
Julia.
on July 18, 2005 at 10:40 AM
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Wow.
I understand the question is would I love my child unconditionally, but I have to wonder first is yours? How do you feel about a brother who commited "unspeakable crimes"? I love my brother more than anyone else and hold him in the highest regard. I have no idea what I would do if I were to learn of him doing something like that. My heart aches for you....As for the question, I don't know. I've never had children and for reasons mentioned in my post yesterday, may never have them. I'd like to believe, though, that parental love is unconditional in most cases.
posted by
UsualSuspect
on July 18, 2005 at 8:27 AM
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I think I would. I would be very very sad and dissapointed, but I would still love my child. That, I think, is part of being a mother.
posted by
Akyterine
on July 18, 2005 at 4:40 AM
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OI--thank you for letting me know you were here.
posted by
Julia.
on July 17, 2005 at 8:24 PM
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always....
posted by
Original_Influence
on July 17, 2005 at 8:02 PM
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Quirky,
I know you are sweetie and I'd be proud to know her too. Shadow
posted by
Keshet
on July 17, 2005 at 7:51 PM
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Shadow--
My mother is by no means perfect, but I am very thankful for her all the same.
posted by
Julia.
on July 17, 2005 at 7:49 PM
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Quirky, That I can't answer truthfully simply because I note how many women are harsh with their children in public, or I see kids out on the street late at night and wonder why mom allows it. Yeah, I really wonder how many moms today, especially those who are still in their teens would stand beside their children. Shadow
posted by
Keshet
on July 17, 2005 at 7:43 PM
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Shadow,
Wouldn't every mother wonder if it wasn't somehow her fault, even though she might know in her heart that it wasn't??
posted by
Julia.
on July 17, 2005 at 7:37 PM
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Quirky, True, but, how many mothers would is the question here? She's one wonderful lady because of her strength and love. She's such a prize rose. Shadow.
posted by
Keshet
on July 17, 2005 at 7:32 PM
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Shadow--
my mother questions herself as well...probably every single day. The guilt is unavoidable, really.
posted by
Julia.
on July 17, 2005 at 7:28 PM
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mmm-w,
thank you very much!
posted by
Julia.
on July 17, 2005 at 7:27 PM
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FactorFiction--
that's nice to hear. Thanks for stopping by.
posted by
Julia.
on July 17, 2005 at 7:27 PM
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Quirky,
Yes, I would still love my child. I'd question myself for the rest of my life, wondering if I had done something to cause it, and I'd grieve the rest of my life as much for the victims as I would my child, but I would never hold back the love. Shadow
posted by
Keshet
on July 17, 2005 at 7:26 PM
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LLM--
I know, it is a difficult hypothetical question to answer. Thank you for the wonderful things you said about my mother, she would be happy to hear them.
posted by
Julia.
on July 17, 2005 at 7:25 PM
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what an absolutely beautiful post.... i have a great deal of admiration for your mother...
posted by
mmm-w
on July 17, 2005 at 7:24 PM
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Yes, I am sure I would.
The pain would always be sharp, but I would.
posted by
FactorFiction
on July 17, 2005 at 7:04 PM
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Quirky,
I'll be honest here and say that I honestly don't know...I have not been in that situation and therefore can't give a satisfactory answer. What I will say is this...I wish my father could be the way with my brother that your mother was with her son. You are absolutely right...More parents should and could take great lessons from the amazing, strong, wonderful woman who is your mother. May she be blessed.
God bless you.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on July 17, 2005 at 6:43 PM
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