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MayB,
I agree with this post. Sometimes I just don't have a comment. I have tried to create comments before, knowing that I did it merely to let that person know I was there. I guess that some are ok with that, but I just don't feel good about it. When I do that, I honestly think that I am saying "hey, I read your blog, now you own it to me to click on mine." I read now because I want to. I comment when I want to. No one owes anyone anything. If I like what I read, I will most certainly be back.
Go Easy,
J.King
posted by
J.King
on July 24, 2005 at 12:01 AM
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UsualSuspect, yes it is possible to get that kind of feedback in this cocoon of ours. I use it for testing ideas all the time. That is the real value but I don't think that people should feel compelled to comment. Outside of here we have to write in a void sometimes for years which is tough
posted by
Azur
on July 23, 2005 at 11:19 PM
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QuirkyAlone, I wasn't comparing this place to a newspaper but was saying that in other spheres of writing you don't get feedback
posted by
Azur
on July 23, 2005 at 11:17 PM
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Dennison Mann, I never assume complete correctness either no matter how I contact people. On these matters I have a fairly strong sense of what will be regarded as MA or not. Even when you email people can over-react.
posted by
Azur
on July 23, 2005 at 11:15 PM
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I usually leave a comment, but there are times when I feel I have nothing to add.
posted by
-blackcat
on July 23, 2005 at 10:10 PM
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QuirkyAlone, I think that to let everyone you read know that you read them is unrealistic. In this day and age of information overload it is unfeasible. If we signed up to a class or support group that would be different. This is a community with all its foibles.
Sadly we all plug away until we come to notice. For example I see a lot of material here that is not very good. My point of view on that is that as long as the blogger is enjoying themselves I have no desire to diminish that enjoyment by commenting honestly. On the other hand if I sense someone is hungry for suggestions I will glady offer them.
I do comment on those who reach me and sometimes people who are not good writers in the traditonal sense of the word reach me.
Sadly as much as I do read here, I can't read everyone
posted by
Azur
on July 23, 2005 at 6:44 PM
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MayB--
No, but that is that, and this is this. Why compare them when they are so different? Anyhoo, I would really like to hear your take on the question I posed: is reading more, really more important than letting those you read know that they reached you??
posted by
Julia.
on July 23, 2005 at 6:19 PM
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QuirkyAlone, It is not the same but in the big world the reality is we don't get much feedback.
posted by
Azur
on July 23, 2005 at 5:15 PM
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MayB...
Getting to know your audience as a writer is very important...it help you to write according to their needs and wants...reader input is very important...At least I believe it to be...
posted by
SincerityAnna
on July 23, 2005 at 4:58 PM
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I don't agree with the comparison to newspapers, etc. This place gives people a very easy way to let someone know that their words reached them on some level...seriously, it takes so little time to leave a comment...is reading more, really more important than letting those you read know that they reached you??
posted by
Julia.
on July 23, 2005 at 4:52 PM
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Seriously, sometimes you just don't know what to say or have no constructive comment to make. At least not "in public" ("in bloglic"?), but one could send a supportive email then. Or the recipient of a "too much" comment can prune it?
Watch your counters, see how many hits you're getting. Most often it is only the latest post anyway.
posted by
majroj
on July 23, 2005 at 3:22 PM
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posted by
_Symphony_
on July 23, 2005 at 1:36 PM
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MayB
When I comment, it is because I was moved or made to think. I read many bloggers here, though a few attract me more than others. I agree entirely with what you say. Hemlocker
posted by
Hemlocker
on July 23, 2005 at 12:10 PM
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I usually comment and don't make a big deal about it.
posted by
scriber
on July 23, 2005 at 8:38 AM
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MayB...
'Brickbats travel quickly' - nice phrasing. I've lodged that one for future proliferation.
posted by
_dave_says_ack_
on July 23, 2005 at 8:36 AM
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May...
You opt to send them email while I prefer to discuss such matters in a public forum because I never assume that I'm %100 correct. I like to hear the opinions of others on such topics as aceeptable indecency.
Nonetheless, neither your method nor mine is more correct. The entire row (as you call it) emerged out of Lilane's inability to discuss the matter maturely. Over that, I have no control.
DM
posted by
Dennison..Mann
on July 23, 2005 at 8:25 AM
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I think part of the reason we're here, though,
is so that we are able to see who is reading us, what they think and why. If you're writing for publication it's understood that you will not likely intimately know your readership. Here, however, we come expressly for the opportunity to receive feedback or in some cases, just to vent and to receive support in our daily struggles. While it's difficult to comment on every post, I try to at least let the writer know I was there. In some rare cases, I honestly feel I don't know how to respond so I won't.
posted by
UsualSuspect
on July 23, 2005 at 8:06 AM
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Krisles, thank you. I am blessed or cursed with the ability to see both sides of most things. Sometimes I think it is a form of torture because it would be easier to be one-eyed.
posted by
Azur
on July 23, 2005 at 5:53 AM
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Dennison Mann. I don't believe that you made that accusation either and said so in my comment to Lilane. Nor do I "regard the protection of children from explicit sexual material as unfortunate".
What I do believe was "unfortunate" was that there had to be a "row" over this. This could have been handled discreetly. On a couple of occasions I have written privately to bloggers to alert them that their posts are likely to be moved to MA then at least they can decide what to do themselves.
I am just as concerned as you about how easy it is for children to access unsuitable content and in my comment to Lilane said that "there is concern that a child can access this section of Blogit and find quite explicit material"
posted by
Azur
on July 22, 2005 at 11:46 PM
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May
You have such a succinct and tactful way of stating what needs to be stated - without getting your panties in a wad!! (like I do!) Gee...is that why you are able to do this for a living (she says with finger on her chin!!!).
posted by
Krisles
on July 22, 2005 at 10:57 PM
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May...
For the record, I never accused her of being a pedophile. She's exaggerated that for whatever reason.
I don't regard the protection of children from explicit sexual material as unfortunate at all. Lilane seems to think that it's okay to expose children to any of her erotic writing. I feel obligated to contend such an attitude.
DM
posted by
Dennison..Mann
on July 22, 2005 at 10:49 PM
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Timmytales, no apology necessary and thanks for the inspiration
posted by
Azur
on July 22, 2005 at 10:46 PM
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MAYB
I humbly read your blog and say to myself that of course you are right.
It was wrong for me to jump on the proverbial "status" wagon and yell to the blogging world that they should leave a comment.
I stand now upon the same wagon and say that it is enough that you took the time to click and read what I had to say. My sincere and deepest apologies.
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on July 22, 2005 at 10:42 PM
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