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xeno--
I will go look for that now. Thanks for coming by.
posted by
Julia.
on August 15, 2005 at 7:24 AM
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boopster--
yes I completely agree with what you said about self preservation.
posted by
Julia.
on August 15, 2005 at 7:23 AM
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i posted the story
it's called "The old man, the boy and the donkey".
It's in my WHATEVER blog in "Religion and Spirituality".
posted by
Xeno-x
on August 15, 2005 at 6:09 AM
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So true...
Rid yourself of people who drain the life out of you - indeed. I have always been a bit of a people pleaser myself. But self-preservation must dominate over any desire to make people like us.
Sometimes we have to put up with a little crap, for example at work. But even there, if it is bringing you down, look for a better situation.
Life is full of enough stress. Best to avoid adding to the pile.
posted by
bettyboop1967
on August 15, 2005 at 6:01 AM
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there's a story I think I'll post it gotta find out where.
posted by
Xeno-x
on August 15, 2005 at 5:56 AM
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sassy--lol--
it doesn't hum just a little quiet tune??
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 10:24 PM
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That is some sound advice my lady
but my refridgerator better not be humming or I am kicking some ass down at the store that I just purchased it at.
posted by
Sherri_G
on August 14, 2005 at 10:06 PM
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Vibrance--
not really but thanks for reading!
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 9:40 PM
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hi jacenta--
"no one else can be us better"--I like that---
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 9:40 PM
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wow
You are so wise.
posted by
Vibrance
on August 14, 2005 at 9:29 PM
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cfarmer--
there was a specific incident that inspired the post, but I'd rather not say what. Thank you for reading, though, and I appreciate your question!
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 9:27 PM
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thank you BrightIrish!
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 9:09 PM
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oh katray---
now I'm practically blushing!
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 8:33 PM
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poet--
I hope you get the job if you want it!
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 8:32 PM
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ginnie--
alas the Blogit bar only serves
...and so I think we shall have to venture outside the network for our little drink.
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 8:32 PM
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How's Quirkyalone,
It is so true, that it is impossible to be all things to everybody or to make everyone happy. We can only be ourselves, for no one else can be it better. I say, do our best at all things. Nice post! Catch ya later......
posted by
jacentaOld
on August 14, 2005 at 7:58 PM
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Just curious: What spurred you to write this? I find it interesting when people offer their views on universal life-lessons, and I always wonder what exactly brings it on. Were you or are you in a situation in which you felt you had to do something for somebody?
posted by
CFarmer
on August 14, 2005 at 7:06 PM
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Very well said and very true.
posted by
BrightIrish
on August 14, 2005 at 5:32 PM
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Very profound and wise Quirky, Thank You!
Perfectionism is often a destructive force for sure.
Hey, Yay, you are NUMBER ONE!! Congratulations!
posted by
Katray2
on August 14, 2005 at 5:26 PM
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I had a job interview Friday and did my best, it's all I can do.
posted by
poetjpb
on August 14, 2005 at 4:38 PM
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Congratulations Quirky!!
Number 1!!!! Way to go!!!!!!!!!
Now...for that drink!!
posted by
ginnieb
on August 14, 2005 at 4:20 PM
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MW--
thanks!
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 3:36 PM
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Medusa--
"chips" flying--lol...never say that to a country girl.
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 3:35 PM
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Wise Words
posted by
Bel_
on August 14, 2005 at 3:20 PM
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I loved this post, Quirky. Sounds like my late dad speaking....
You are so right about doing your best! Because that is all you can do. Then let the chips fly where they may. Well-written....
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on August 14, 2005 at 3:20 PM
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Joe Love--
It's all we can do....thank you very much for catching up on all my posts. I see you are making your way up the ranks---to #5...maybe you will be #1 by the end of the week!! That would be really cool...go Joe, go Joe, go Joe...LOL! Don't say you wouldn't like it, I'd never believe you!!
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 3:11 PM
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Spitfire--
Come to CA and I'll get you a whole damn cake and a gallon of ice cream!!!
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 3:08 PM
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Yep
You should always do your best.
posted by
Joe_Love
on August 14, 2005 at 3:05 PM
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Quirks,
Great post. Now where's my chocolate cake and vanilla ice cream?
posted by
SpitFire70
on August 14, 2005 at 2:40 PM
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MayB--
yes, I had that post of yours in my mind when I wrote that line. If I had some chocolate cake I would share it with you, and you could even have the bigger piece.
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 2:35 PM
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QuirkyAlone, good post. It has slight overtones of my "getting" the artist post the other day and for that I'm flattered. Now where's my plate of chocolate cake and vanilla full dairy cream ice cream?
posted by
Azur
on August 14, 2005 at 2:31 PM
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Q-A, oh, ok...OH, OK!! I get you now!
posted by
kingmi
on August 14, 2005 at 2:27 PM
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xeno--
tra la la...now I'm singing that song in my head!
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 2:27 PM
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kingmi--
I don't know what you mean about tactics. I was just saying I saw your comment.
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 2:25 PM
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Q-A, No fascist tactics now. That wouldn't be seemly!
posted by
kingmi
on August 14, 2005 at 2:20 PM
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thanks Kingmi...
btw, I saw what you said to A about "24 hours"--
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 2:18 PM
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what did Rick Nelson say?
"You can't please everyone so you got to please yourself."
da da da da da da da
posted by
Xeno-x
on August 14, 2005 at 2:18 PM
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Q-A, kudos on your new #1 status. Enjoy!
posted by
kingmi
on August 14, 2005 at 2:12 PM
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MysticG--
Yes I agree 200%, thanks!
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 2:11 PM
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quirky-girl
our best is good enough, has to be , its our best. Good post
posted by
MysticGmekeepr
on August 14, 2005 at 2:00 PM
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Isa--
Oh...re: writing...now THAT is a whole 'nother story! lol.
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 1:51 PM
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I'll do my best, Blackcat.
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 1:50 PM
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word.smith--
it's preconditioning, and maybe even a little bit an inborn trait...but we can always change.
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 1:49 PM
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yea i know...
but each time i write an article...i am dissatisfied...lol it is never good enough
posted by
Marshallengraved
on August 14, 2005 at 1:47 PM
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krisles--
Twister...that's a good analogy...trying to please everyone does make things all twisted up, eventually you fall down.
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 1:47 PM
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Pat B--
Yes, very true, it is nice to be something to anyone...
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 1:45 PM
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Hey Quirks...
while you're at # 1 be careful not to step in # 2.... LOL
posted by
-blackcat
on August 14, 2005 at 1:42 PM
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It's the old approval sydrome and many of us are
preconditioned from childhood. Sadly, if we continue trying to please everybody else, we run the risk of losing ourselves in the process. Good post.
posted by
word.smith
on August 14, 2005 at 1:37 PM
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Quirky
Good post....and congratulations. I am always reminded of the game, Twister, when I see someone trying to please everyone - I always recognize it because I mastered the game for so many years myself. Now, I spend my time trying to just please myself....amazing how much simpler life is, and how much more rewarding.
posted by
Krisles
on August 14, 2005 at 1:35 PM
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too good!!!
All things to all? Unattainable. When I was shuttling kids to games, we had a saying: you're nobody till somebody loves you -- and then you're a Little League mother. Not too shabby to be something to somebody, when you think about it. :)
posted by
Pat_B
on August 14, 2005 at 1:32 PM
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thanks Blackcat
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 1:30 PM
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Merry--
lol. In terms of parenting skills, I'm positive there are worse things than rice-krispie-treat clothes!
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 1:27 PM
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Isa--
Well, I can relate to that...but perfection is an impossible feat.
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 1:26 PM
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I agree wholeheartedly.... focus on pleasing those that care about you
and most importantly, yourself! The rest is just filler. It's a good lesson to learn.
Congrats on #1.
posted by
-blackcat
on August 14, 2005 at 1:25 PM
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Quirky,
one thing I've learned as a Mom is that each day I get to start fresh and try to be the best Mom I can be. Somedays it's a good thing I get to start fresh other wise I would have both kids wearing rice krispie treat clothes!
posted by
MerryAnne
on August 14, 2005 at 1:17 PM
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I'm never satisfied enough...
as the perfectionist i am lol
posted by
Marshallengraved
on August 14, 2005 at 1:08 PM
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thanks Dylan!
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 12:56 PM
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Congrats on your number-one status!
posted by
Dyl_Pickle
on August 14, 2005 at 12:52 PM
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Whacky--
but what does that accomplish??
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 12:35 PM
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You know you are right
there are days I think I should have stayed in bed.
posted by
Whacky
on August 14, 2005 at 12:30 PM
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mmm-w, thanks.
Could you tell me what it was that confused you? Perhaps there is something I need to work on to make it more understandable without that second read.
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 12:27 PM
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this WAS a great post! read it once, it confused me. read it twice and then i felt whipped into deep thought. thanks :)
posted by
mmm-w
on August 14, 2005 at 12:23 PM
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Passionflower--
well at least you got something??
Coulda been worse...lol.
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 12:21 PM
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avant--thanks.
I actually didn't think of it that way, but that makes perfect sense!
posted by
Julia.
on August 14, 2005 at 12:20 PM
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All I got out of this was a deep desire for cake and ice cream.
posted by
Passionflower
on August 14, 2005 at 12:14 PM
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this is a good post, quirky
like attracts like. if we busy ourselves with those who dislike us, then we are being unlikeable. thanks for the reminder.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 14, 2005 at 12:13 PM
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