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I hate your title, ie, "I write therefor I am" as much as I like your thought and your writings. I'm new and trying to stire up some excitement. And, trying to figure out how to get my stuff copies into anywhere the same format as I write and edit it. It all just goes into a big glob. zarrothepaun
posted by
zarrothepaun
on August 20, 2005 at 4:04 PM
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Good advice, Quirky! I'll take it!
posted by
Georgia
on August 19, 2005 at 8:11 PM
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yesterday...
i have learnt from a fellow friend on msn that the common person we used to have as a friend is a poser!!! there were so many obvious proofs...how can i trust ppl? good question!
posted by
Marshallengraved
on August 19, 2005 at 3:38 AM
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Once someone lies to me . . .
They're no longer on my list of friends.
posted by
Jemmie211
on August 19, 2005 at 1:34 AM
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Quirky,
That's the way to look at the situation. Personally, I've always tried to stand back and make sure if I'm the one at fault, then if I hadn't added to the problem, walked and walk fast. Shadow
posted by
Keshet
on August 18, 2005 at 7:51 PM
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quirkk--Then how come I'M the only one who keeps losing money? lol
posted by
Renigade
on August 18, 2005 at 7:44 PM
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reni--
maybe, maybe not...but...it isn't about you, it's about them.
posted by
Julia.
on August 18, 2005 at 7:44 PM
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I'm a sucker every time. I'm too GD nice for my own good...
posted by
Renigade
on August 18, 2005 at 7:32 PM
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wiley one--
I know it's been said a thousand times by a thousand different bloggers...but you are a dear, sweet man, and I cherish you. 
posted by
Julia.
on August 18, 2005 at 7:26 PM
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Quirkyalone
Consider all the living good you have done for people like that, and realize all for yourself what a lovely person you are to have been a higher power in your own way for others.
Yes, they may have moved on and it is hurtful to you, but trust me, you have taught lessons that will some day come back to those people and they will remember you with gratitude~~and perhaps a little guilt~~ but it is the love you gave that they remember my friend.
posted by
WileyJohn
on August 18, 2005 at 7:21 PM
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Ms N--
Yes I sure remember that!! It's a wise saying.
posted by
Julia.
on August 18, 2005 at 7:19 PM
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okay Hemlocker--
I'm going to need you to explain that a bit, please...I'm not sure I get what you mean, or what makes you say it?
posted by
Julia.
on August 18, 2005 at 7:18 PM
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vane--
you are welcome.
posted by
Julia.
on August 18, 2005 at 7:17 PM
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georgia--
his comments are put downs thinly disguised as humor...kick his ass!! (just kidding, but you might want to have a retort handy to throw back at him!).
posted by
Julia.
on August 18, 2005 at 7:16 PM
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avant--
I'm not sure about that. Perhaps subconsciously we do know, the trick is tapping into that.
posted by
Julia.
on August 18, 2005 at 7:15 PM
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jollyjeff-
It might not feel better at the time, but I do think it's better in the long run.
posted by
Julia.
on August 18, 2005 at 7:14 PM
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blackcat--
yes, I agree.
posted by
Julia.
on August 18, 2005 at 7:13 PM
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Quirks - Remember the adage...
Fool me once... shame on you... fool me twice shame on me.
posted by
Transcendental_Child
on August 18, 2005 at 6:12 PM
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my point
exactly, avant garde. Oh, I will, quirky, don't ya worry 'bout that
posted by
jayelle76
on August 18, 2005 at 5:51 PM
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Isa--
Bad experiences like that can leave deep wounds...but they can be overcome. I still have many, but I continue to work on healing them.
posted by
Julia.
on August 18, 2005 at 5:37 PM
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jayelle--
thank you for reading, and for your comments. Please come back anytime!
posted by
Julia.
on August 18, 2005 at 5:36 PM
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ginnie--thanks.
similar, yes I suppose you're right...
posted by
Julia.
on August 18, 2005 at 5:35 PM
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ariala--
yes, that's very true...we're all human, so it's natural we'd find ourselves on both sides of the coin. Forgiveness, self awareness and self respect are all so important.
posted by
Julia.
on August 18, 2005 at 5:34 PM
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quirky, please forgive me,
but I think you have succeeded in becoming a clone of ariala. I'm sorry, I know it is all my fault. Hem
posted by
Hemlocker
on August 18, 2005 at 4:56 PM
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it is all about them. Thanx for reminding me.
posted by
Vanidad
on August 18, 2005 at 4:35 PM
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Hey Quirky
I'm one of those people with a self-effacing sense of humor, especially at work. If I make a mistake, (like today, the first day of school, I took attendance but forgot to email it to the main office after the kids left a very informationally intensive 10 minute homeroom), I say "Oh, big surprise that I would forget to do that! I'm sure you're all shocked!"
I've worked at my school for 14 years, and my close colleagues know that I'm good at what I do, but there's one relatively new teacher who has lately reacted to my comments by saying things like "What's wrong with you? Are you slipping into another dimension or dementia or something?" He'll smile a bit when he says that, but I can tell he's trying to make himself look smarter at my expense. I hate the whole thing because I want to be my "quirky", happy self and not be constantly serious and defensive if I mess up occasionally on little stuff. I also want to be friends with my colleague, but I'll be darned if I'll let him use MY sense of humor against me! So, what do I do?
posted by
Georgia
on August 18, 2005 at 4:34 PM
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quirky
i think we all know when we're being lied to, but we want to believe it anyway.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 18, 2005 at 4:16 PM
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at least if you get burned you know you're human
posted by
jayelle76
on August 18, 2005 at 2:47 PM
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I agree quirky
it's better to trust, even if you get burned now and then
posted by
jollyjeff
on August 18, 2005 at 2:44 PM
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you're telling me
posted by
jayelle76
on August 18, 2005 at 2:27 PM
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Honesty is always the best policy... it's a shame not everyone uses it.
posted by
-blackcat
on August 18, 2005 at 2:23 PM
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Sometimes there aren't signals going off. I trust easily - still, even though I've been let down a lot too - but I like to think I can tell when people are lying. But I still get fooled. Maybe most of us just want to think everyone is sincere.
posted by
jayelle76
on August 18, 2005 at 2:18 PM
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Well, Quriky, as u can tell by reading many of my posts....naivette...
That seems to be the problem. I trust too easily and innocently. I blame myself for at least some of the times. There are signals going off that I have chosen to ignore but you can't give the benefit so quickly. Easy to say, I know.
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on August 18, 2005 at 2:12 PM
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Quirky...
i have been betrayed a lot by ppl i trusted...i have sometimes hated myself for being that naive...it has made a suspicious person of me...i barely trust ppl...i don't want them to take advantage of me any more...it has left deep wounds inside of me...
posted by
Marshallengraved
on August 18, 2005 at 2:11 PM
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Never! You've gotta trust other people at some stage
posted by
jayelle76
on August 18, 2005 at 2:06 PM
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Absolutley Quirky...
...wonderfully written! That's kind of similar to the adage..it's better to love and be hurt than never to have loved at all.
posted by
ginnieb
on August 18, 2005 at 1:55 PM
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I think we all have to learn these lessons in life and sometimes we make
mistakes on both sides of these issues...as you wrote recently, forgiveness is important and also self-respect. Like I told this guy recently...it's one thing to be compassionate and kind, but quite another to enable a user. One must use discernment.
posted by
Ariala
on August 18, 2005 at 1:46 PM
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