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JoeLove
I've thought of that too...I'm letting time be what determines where I'm going to be...
posted by
cosy
on September 20, 2005 at 8:08 AM
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Cosy my concern would be
if this is going to be the first of many friendships that your boyfriend tries to run out of your life.
posted by
Joe_Love
on September 20, 2005 at 6:56 AM
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Hey Scribber!
I thought of that...
posted by
cosy
on September 15, 2005 at 5:12 AM
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right, tell the boyfriend to get lost.
posted by
scriber
on September 14, 2005 at 2:43 PM
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Midnight many thanks!
I uploaded it with the help icon. :)
posted by
cosy
on September 13, 2005 at 6:50 AM
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and sorry, but I don't know crap about posting pictures. Maybe try the Help column?
posted by
Jaxson-Pete
on September 12, 2005 at 2:31 PM
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Cosy,
Sorry, I can't see them either!
posted by
Jaxson-Pete
on September 12, 2005 at 2:30 PM
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Midnight can you tell me please if you see the pictures
I posted in the following post???? I see them but no one else seems to.....help.
posted by
cosy
on September 12, 2005 at 2:28 PM
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Midnight it really helps to know it can work out for both...
thanks BIG for your words!!
posted by
cosy
on September 12, 2005 at 2:25 PM
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Cosy,
I agree 100% with what Quirky said. As a lesbian, I've been in a similar situation. My best friend and I were very close, but not sexual with each other. Her b/f was jealous, my g/f was jealous. We treasured each other and weren't about to let them keep us from being friends. It took some time, but it all worked out.
posted by
Jaxson-Pete
on September 12, 2005 at 2:22 PM
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Yep...I know!!! We actually met in the rooms of AA...
he has nine years of sobriety...it just happened...and I am glad it did. We go regularly to meetings...love Cosy
posted by
cosy
on September 12, 2005 at 1:30 PM
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This is why 12 step programs say to
keep away from relationships for the first year. I know it seems like a big issue, but this will only be a side track to take your focus away from where it should be....you. Your wants and your needs, your ability to make your own choices. That is what recovery is all about.
posted by
Schatz
on September 12, 2005 at 1:20 PM
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Cosy
You have to do what is right for you this time and they will have to lump it.xx
posted by
mcbreeze
on September 12, 2005 at 10:48 AM
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Oh Quirk...I agree so much...
I'm going to have him read these comments 2 see if they help...or should I not show him? Talking hasn't helped. Thanks...
posted by
cosy
on September 12, 2005 at 10:40 AM
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No you should not have to choose, but obviously he feels threatened because she has expressed her affection for you in a way he is uncomfortable with (my take on that anyway). Can you have a discussion with him about that, and explain that you feel you don't want to throw her friendship away because it means a lot to you? If that doesn't work...he's not worth it because no one who cares about another would ask them to throw away a friendship for those reasons.
posted by
Julia.
on September 12, 2005 at 10:36 AM
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Miaella...I would only hope he'd understand....
. Thanks 4 dropping in girly.
posted by
cosy
on September 12, 2005 at 9:03 AM
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Timmy...threatened by a woman???
I know...I hope so...love Cosy...thanks 4 stopping in!
posted by
cosy
on September 12, 2005 at 9:03 AM
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cosy
It sounds like he may feel threatened. True friends are hard to come by......still, you should not have to choose between the two. If they both love you, the will work it out
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on September 12, 2005 at 8:34 AM
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cosy
Never fair to have to choose between two...two people who care about you and respect you...should be able to come to some amicable terms...out of love...if nothing else.
posted by
MiaElla
on September 12, 2005 at 7:52 AM
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He would've never stayed with me to hel out in the 'state" I was before...
He's told me! He say's it isn't distrust simply a matter of respect....but whichever, is it fair to shut one out 4 the other? Thanks FactorFiction...
posted by
cosy
on September 12, 2005 at 6:56 AM
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Was this boyfriend there for you when you
needed him as she was? Will he be there for you if you need him in the future? My first instinct is that if he does not trust you then I personally would not keep him unless he was willing to work on overcoming that distrust. And if he could not get over it, he'd go. But that's me.
posted by
FactorFiction
on September 12, 2005 at 6:47 AM
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