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Thanks Mysteria
I am still away from work but I'm beginning to get better so I'll probably be back Monday. Should only be for a short time before they reasssign me though.
posted by
jollyjeff
on October 28, 2005 at 7:23 AM
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inkedforlife
Goodness...great suggestions. I can totally see what you mean about criminal activity and convenience. It is a scarey world and it is best to be prepared, but not to the point of self imposed imprisonation. I have too much to live for to be scared all the time. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts and ideas. Much appreciate!
posted by
mysteria
on October 27, 2005 at 11:44 AM
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Lensman
Totally Kewl story about your sister's name and the coincidences of life. I have often be accused of being psychic and being a witch. I used accused in the most gracious of ways of course. And I consider it a compliment... especially coming from you-ins! 
Let's hope we can be psychic together a lot!!! Very Neato!
posted by
mysteria
on October 27, 2005 at 11:39 AM
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jollyjeff
I probably look vulnerable to the extent that I am still looking for my mom and dad and carry on a bit like a little girl. I am trying hard to get past this idiocity and live in the present. I hope you are doing well and still away from work. I know how crazy my job made me. I am so happy to be away from the insanity... ((((((Jeff))))))))
posted by
mysteria
on October 27, 2005 at 11:36 AM
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MiaElla
Wow...this quote you left me...so pretty and sad too..~Beautiful girl slipping into the cracks to avoid a callous sidewalk.~
Thanks for sharing it with me. Like I was saying to SIlvermoon....I hope that my past experiences will not forever sway me away from the beauty that is life..
posted by
mysteria
on October 27, 2005 at 11:34 AM
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SilverMoon7
Hi...WoW, I got a lot of help from voicing this blog. I am very easily mislead lately and I am having trouble knowing which way is up. I believe that guy was up to no good, but who knows. I got pretty scared by him, as it was way too many miles just to be bumping into him. I think that my past experiences with people have jaded me. I hope to be able to get beyond that and find my innocence again. I don't want to miss opportunities by hiding and being scared all the time. SilverMoon7 thanks so so so much for your support and encouragement. Moochies!!!!
posted by
mysteria
on October 27, 2005 at 11:32 AM
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Whacky46
I am pretty good at instinctual stuff. But being that I have been a little disoriented lately, it is helpful to get input from bloggers when I get confused. There is a wealth of help here. Thanks for dropping in and I'll see you at your bloggity blog blog
posted by
mysteria
on October 27, 2005 at 11:27 AM
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For your safety
I have studied crimonology and one thing I noticed about your story is this. You walk six to eight miles every day. Obviously you are more than likely taking the same way. You need to change up your habits. This man in my opinion was conviently at to many places. Grant it he does match the sterotypical rapist or serial killer which could have triggered an unnatural reaction. But he couldv'e been watching you for days and just now got brave enough to get close. Luckily you scared him. My sugesstion to you is take 3 different routes at least and alternate them. Most victims of crime arfe merely victims of their own routine, and that is one of the biggest way a crimminal will pick you out of anybody else is convienence.
IFL
posted by
inkedforlife
on October 26, 2005 at 10:31 PM
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Mysteria
Thanks for such a great response. I do feel protective of you and I'm glad you're looking after yourself.
My eyes opened wide when you said this: "Witchicity...it is an amalgom of witch and felicity. I'm not sure I even know what felicity means."
You're either psychic or you're on a wavelength. I have two younger sisters. One is named Claire and the other is named Felicity. Felicity has always been proud of her name because it's so unique, and she's told us all about it. So I know what felicity means. It means happiness.
And I say love, too. Take care...
posted by
Lensman
on October 26, 2005 at 10:25 PM
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Lensman
Thank you for your indepth and thoughtful response to this post. I feel you like the brother I did not have. Very cool. I am so opressed by my mindset...You are correct about that. Sometimes I am big and strong, and I can get angry. I wish I would have gotten mad instead of scared. I am totally gunshy in some ways. A nervous wreck you'd never hope to see. I am very moody too which is interesting to say the very least. I notice when I have a walkman and clearly evident headphones on, I am not accosted by freaks as often. Also, I try to look unapproachable to most people. I wonder if I saw you if I would be able to tell that you have a super heart? Sometimes I can just tell that someone is special...know what I mean? It's witchicity some might say. I say it cause I like to make up words. It is an amalgom of witch and felicity. I'm not sure I even know what felicity means. I think it matches though.
I have taken your advice to heart. I have to practice to remember to apply it when the time comes. Not that I am anticipating it...at least I hope I am not. I am, it seems programmed to anticipate the worst. Oh! Sheesh! Life can be so difficult!!! Argh! Like Chuck B says...
I say love...
posted by
mysteria
on October 26, 2005 at 10:05 PM
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Gubby
Lest I forget! Thanks for the L
ve. Righteous...
posted by
mysteria
on October 26, 2005 at 9:54 PM
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Gubby
I am so confused lately with what my gut tells me. I feel things but I am not sure how tuned in to reality I am. I guess one might say I need some grounding or something.
Your concern and thoughts are meaningful to me beyond measure and no I am not just kidding...
posted by
mysteria
on October 26, 2005 at 9:53 PM
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PS *love and concern* 
Can't think of anything REALLY nice to say, but I wish you the very best, okay?
posted by
Gubby
on October 26, 2005 at 11:41 AM
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I won't say instincts are ALWAYS right. But if you have a gut feeling there is at least a
reason why you got it: you can work from there. A very large part of my mental power comes from never ignoring instincts, working out where they came from, and following them. And when the stakes are high, it's so much better to play safe.
posted by
Gubby
on October 26, 2005 at 11:39 AM
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OMG What an outpouring of love and concern
This may be the reason I posted this story to begin with. I seem to need to be comforted. You know, told that everything is going to work out. Be okay. You know? Why I worry is baffling to me. I know it is completely senseless. Why I am ruled by fear is another mystery. I need to relax. I have been handling so much. Coming to the blog really helps me sort out my spin and confusion. People here are nice to me and understand and help in ways I can only say for sure are based in love. It is a healing thing...
posted by
mysteria
on October 24, 2005 at 9:00 PM
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Always best to follow your gut...
Life will get better..our stories are very similar in nature, and I can say that with prayer, meditation and therapy my life has turned around...not saying that's what you should do, merely that's what worked for me.
In any situation, follow your gut...it told you he was bad, most likely he was...no one innocently follows you mile after mile...it just isn't the norm. Glad to hear you're safe...God that had to be scary.
Stay safe...and BTW, Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
posted by
LifeByLisa
on October 21, 2005 at 11:36 AM
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I think you were being cautious...
and with every right to.
Stay safe!
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 20, 2005 at 4:59 PM
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For all what you have been through, I think you are a wonderful person
with a heart of gold and I think you are one brave girl.....I admire you...
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 20, 2005 at 5:25 AM
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I went to a seminar on rape once
And the basic message was that rapists attack women who seem vulnerable, not women who are attractive or dress provocatively.
posted by
jollyjeff
on October 19, 2005 at 11:06 AM
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mysteria
You know how many women would probably still be alive today if they had trusted their instincts.
~Beautiful girl slipping into the cracks to avoid a callous sidewalk.~
posted by
MiaElla
on October 19, 2005 at 10:31 AM
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Hi Mysteria
As has been mentioned, it's good to follow your instincts and it's better to be safe than sorry. The thing that concerns me about your post, though, is that your past experiences have clearly created a mindset in you which seems to be robbing you of what could be a good and happy life. By that I mean that I get the feeling you're retreating from the world and spending a lot of your time by yourself, at home. This is a good way to feel safe from those who would harm you, but it also cuts you off from good people who could make life better for you. I know you've come to feel like a magnet for trouble, but the law of averages, I believe, would say that the vast majority of men would not look at you and think, "There's someone I feel like assaulting." The majority of men just aren't like that and have better things to do with their own lives. In fact, the first instinct in most men would be to run to your assistance if they saw you being assaulted. But I sure understand how a string of assaults by men through your childhood can engrave a suspicion and fear of men in your mind. Just out of curiosity, when you're out on your walks, have you ever paid attention to how you walk? I've read several times now (and I've mentioned it to my sisters, too) that if a woman walks slowly with her head down and looks tentative or shy or worried, she draws undesirable attention to herself because she looks vulnerable and weak. However, if she walks quickly and briskly with her head up and keeps looking around herself and stares people in the eye, she gives the impression of being much more of a handful to any attacker. They'll skip over her and look for an easier-looking target. Being careful about the neighbourhoods you walk in and the time of day you walk is a good idea, too. By the way, when you were assaulted, you did the right thing by screaming and fighting. That's the best thing to do. Sorry, this is getting long.... Anyway, hope things improve....
posted by
Lensman
on October 19, 2005 at 9:39 AM
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Given the circumstances, mysteria dearheart, I don't think you overreacted. The guy in the van might have been lost, or had stuff to do back and forth and innocently crossed your path, or wondered if you were okay or lost (you have to admit, most people don't walk six miles in a week, much less at once on a single day!). Or he might have been stalking you. The fact is, you don't know and he disappeared, and you're safe. Considering how it is in this day and age, and everything that you've been through, you did not overreact. You recognized the potential danger, walked away, and looked for someone who could help. That is what's important here. NOT whether you were right or wrong, but that you took proper action to protect yourself in a questionable situation. That takes intellegence and strength. What else could you have done? You could have ignored your instincts, smiled, walked up to his window--and anything could have happened then. You did not let yourself be a victim (let's face it, sometimes you DO have choices). Recognize the choices you made, and use that knowledge to shore up your weak spots. You done good, kiddo. You're stronger than you give yourself credit for.
posted by
SilverMoon7
on October 19, 2005 at 2:38 AM
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It is always a good idea to listen
to you instincts. They seem to be right.
posted by
Whacky
on October 18, 2005 at 11:16 PM
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