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These posts are all good conversation materials.....
I'm trying to read them all and I'm falling asleep. lol I guess I'll come back to them tomorrow.
See you then. 
posted by
MaggieMae
on November 6, 2005 at 4:35 PM
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I always strike back, Quirky...
because many people try to take advantage of you on the net...what i like best is dissing them in a freestyle...i gotta let my rage out...forgiveness is very very difficult for me, i admit it...
posted by
Marshallengraved
on November 3, 2005 at 2:10 AM
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I was going to comment
but it looks like all the bases were covered. Good post
posted by
offThepath
on November 2, 2005 at 11:47 PM
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Quirkyalone,
I think hurt turns into anger. It sometimes takes a conscious effort to put it in the proper perspective and just let it go. Let's face it, people do not always edify other's. They can dish out hurtful words and of course that puts us on the defensive. I've found and used the method of putting them in their place in a professional sort of way and then say, "You need a hug." It really does work. It actually triggers an apology, because they know they were in the wrong. In one particular case, I even received an unexpected hug.
posted by
jacentaOld
on November 2, 2005 at 5:29 PM
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I wish I would have read this
before I sent this letter to this guy at the jail who wrote me and asked me for money. I let him have it, and it wasn't very nice. I suppose I felt like he was insulting my intelligence. I told him if he wanted people to connect with him, like his estranged sisters, than he needed to stop taking and give. Who am I to judge him? Well, take care
posted by
Flumpystalls3000
on November 2, 2005 at 4:43 PM
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Geeee
That'd be a tough question - take a while to ponder through.
I like your choice of topics,
Jo
posted by
brisbane_artist
on November 2, 2005 at 11:32 AM
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quirky--
Wow, sounds like a food fight among a pack of dogs. I guess, being basically isolated and past the worst shit with my former family, i.e., emotionally disturbed mother and sister, I don't have much knowledge of such experiencs--though cyber versions often appear on Blogit, usually around politics and religion--what else? Forgiveness is a magic word. I haven't forgotten, but I can forgive. Blessings to those who can.
posted by
Hemlocker
on November 2, 2005 at 11:00 AM
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Sadly,
forgiveness is too often considered synonymous with capitulation.
posted by
strat
on November 2, 2005 at 6:24 AM
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We're human...
...and that is why it is so difficult to forgive.
How many times have you heard someone say "I can forgive but I can't forget"? It can't be considered true forgiveness; of course, you'll not forget the wrong that's been done you, but continuing to nurse it by making a statement like that means you don't want to let go.
The only way to truly forgive and let the bitterness go is to let God help us forgive. After all, when Jesus was on His cross, dying from the torture inflicted on Him, He forgave those responsible. If He could forgive them, His power and grace can help us forgive, too.
posted by
songbirdshafer
on November 2, 2005 at 2:26 AM
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Quirky....
This is a very good post, to forgive is essential for anyone who wants to have contentment in their life. 
posted by
BrightIrish
on November 1, 2005 at 7:24 PM
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Quirky
You're so right! Letting go is the only way to peace. I guess we humans are loathe to give up our competitive nature, even when it hurts us. Great post!
posted by
Georgia
on November 1, 2005 at 7:13 PM
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Quirky
Forgiveness allows us to grow..to harbor it inhibits our growth. It feels good to let go of things that could otherwise bog us down in negativity!! Good post!
posted by
Offy
on November 1, 2005 at 6:27 PM
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Great reminder to us all...
I'll have to keep this one in mind, as I have been known to hold grudges. I can generally forgive, but never forget. Thanks for sharing this one, it will definitely help me in those moments of weakness.
posted by
LifeByLisa
on November 1, 2005 at 6:15 PM
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Powerful, wise post Quirky
We are human, riddled with imperfections, yet we are meant to be constantly striving and reaching for the stars of light, IMO.
posted by
Katray2
on November 1, 2005 at 5:52 PM
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Never saw it Quirks,
Ya hafta fill me in.
posted by
word.smith
on November 1, 2005 at 5:48 PM
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Quirky
I remember that exchange I had with Dennison Mann. My only regret is that I chose to lose my temper with him. You are absolutely right.
posted by
avant-garde
on November 1, 2005 at 3:43 PM
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I agree with MW. I had the same issues with my dad...I guess I haven't really forgiven him, just given up on trying to get him to see I was angry and at him. Mostly because of my baby sister; I didn't want her to grow up with her big sister and her Daddy always fighting...sometimes, I guess, it takes more than our own personal strength to forgive people.
posted by
Tandra
on November 1, 2005 at 3:10 PM
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Quirky,
Its a lot easier for me to forgive or just totally forget someone personally attacking me, but when they attack my chums, that's when I see red. I really have to throw a leash on and a muzzle. Shadow
posted by
Keshet
on November 1, 2005 at 2:22 PM
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People get tired of hurting, too, and sometimes they hurt back but not at an appropriate person.
As a friend of mine said recently, "It's so easy for people to be broken."
posted by
curator
on November 1, 2005 at 12:52 PM
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Quirky
I think it's much more in consonance with human emotions to lash out at the giver of the verbal abuse. Forgiveness of that person is indicative of living and thinking on a higher plane than the usual. If you can truly do it, you are blessed.
posted by
Pooch116
on November 1, 2005 at 12:04 PM
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Quirkyalone
I was thinking along these lines myself today
posted by
MiaElla
on November 1, 2005 at 10:26 AM
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Quirkyalone
I was thinking along these lines myself today
posted by
MiaElla
on November 1, 2005 at 10:26 AM
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word...
If only life could be like the movie, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind...
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2005 at 10:06 AM
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I think because we tend to rehash in our minds
what went before. It's almost as if we enjoy living over and over the misery that someone else causes us and once we start to focus on what he/she said or did, it's hard to move on from that point.
posted by
word.smith
on November 1, 2005 at 10:03 AM
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MW--
Yeah, they do...we expect all that of them as our parents and when they fail, it can be so hard to allow that...I would give anything to have a Dad around when I was a kid, for Baby Quirky...but it ain't gonna happen, so what use is it to drag around the weight of unforgiveness?
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2005 at 9:37 AM
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Quirky
You are probably very right about that. I suspect with our parents, they are probably the hardest to forgive because of the expectations we place on them as parents.
We expected and had the right to be protected, loved and nurtured...somehow those losses tend to stick with us longer than any.
posted by
Bel_
on November 1, 2005 at 9:34 AM
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cosy--
spiritually enlightened is a good way to put that. thanks for reading!
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2005 at 9:33 AM
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Medusa--sorry--
story of my life, Day late, Dollar short. But better late than never?
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2005 at 9:33 AM
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Dave--
Right you are, young chap!
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2005 at 9:32 AM
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jojo--
and me too! lol.
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2005 at 9:31 AM
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MW--
Oh no, you DO have it in you to forgive her, but you have made a conscious choice not to, probably because that seems like the easiest way to deal with it. In reality, it isn't. But don't get me wrong, I have the same issue with my father. I am still trying to forgive, but not there yet.
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2005 at 9:31 AM
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Quirky
to be honest forgiveness has come somewhat hard for me when it comes to certain people in my life...but other than those two people I've been spiritually enlightened by learning to forgive wholeheartedly.
. Lovely post!
posted by
cosy
on November 1, 2005 at 9:21 AM
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Quirky...I needed those words yesterday...Where were you?!
Like Dave CRyer says, it's tough here in Blogit cyberspace sometimes...I have a trigger temper and my feelings are easily hurt and then taking my poison pen out can be lethal. Good post.
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on November 1, 2005 at 9:08 AM
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Tough one. Particularly with reference to our own community. So much easier to fall out when we can distance ourselves from the other with cyberspace.
posted by
_dave_says_ack_
on November 1, 2005 at 9:01 AM
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Quirky
That is an excellent question. I guess it all comes down to ego doesn't it? I know it's hard for me to accept someone else's negative opinion of me. Everyone must like me!!
posted by
jojostar
on November 1, 2005 at 8:56 AM
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Because sometimes
The hurt tends to eat you up. I can't say I ever forgave my mother, I have some serious, serious issues with her. But I also refuse to carry the hate and anger with me. The older I get the less hate I feel. This is not a person I will ever allow into my life as she is dangerous to my emotional well being but now that I have a life that is good, when I consider hers what I see is a miserable, pathetic woman who could have done better for herself. I feel pity (not sympathy but just pity).
Do I have it in me to forgive her? I honestly don't think so.
posted by
Bel_
on November 1, 2005 at 8:55 AM
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