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It doesn't eat me up.

I just cling to my non-productive manner as a standard and use it to judge others as either more amateurish, or bourgeois ("boozhy", as we used to intentionally mis-pronounce it back in the post-Woodstock days). Props up my ego, and I use as good a set of manners as I've learned here to filter out my sarcasm...most of the time.

How'd Joni Mitchel call it. Oh, yeah, "The Boho Dance".

"And you were in the parking lot
Subterranean by your own design
The virtue of your style inscribed
On your contempt for mine" *

Jealously is a "sum-zero" competition. I don't compete, so there's no jealousy.  I can enjoy most bloggers, or not, based on whether they interest me or not...and most don't, anymore, and so don't get my comments or "clickership".

 

*copyright Black Crow Music

posted by majroj on December 18, 2005 at 10:39 AM | link to this | reply

Mayb,

I just read your subsequent post, and followed that one back here, with Hemlocker and Talion's quotes.  I have followed your posts off and on over the course of the last year or so (when you were teaching journalism) and at times, I would have feelings similar to Talion's, and definitely similar to Hemlocker's, but I am glad that you are writing here, giving a perspective of a working professional writer. 

 

posted by Blanche. on December 17, 2005 at 8:17 PM | link to this | reply

MayB
With so many of us aspiring wannabees, I think it should be encouraging to read someone who is having some success.  It isn't always easy for you either.  Sharing your experiences gives the rest of us knowledge about this writing business that we otherwise might not acquire..

posted by Tiel on December 16, 2005 at 3:37 PM | link to this | reply

Yes, I'd say you are determined. I find it strange that someone wouldn't comment to another person here because they feel inadequate...I guess I've never met another writer who made me feel that? You may feel free to drink at my watering hole any time! lol.

posted by Julia. on December 16, 2005 at 2:31 PM | link to this | reply

MayB
I read you more than I comment because I have had that feeling you might bite! I know you don't, but it is hard to communicate with someone of your gifted ability. I will say in all honesty, I consider your posts to be a learning experience for me.For that, I thank you, and believe you deserve a raise too!

posted by Offy on December 16, 2005 at 2:23 PM | link to this | reply

MayB
I must admit, when I joined this site, I thought you were "full of it," lording your success over the heads of the wanna-be's and never-will's. Why else would a "professional" waste valuable time here? I'm happy to say my knee-jerk reaction (with the emphasis on jerk) was unwarranted and had more to do with me than you. As I became more confident with my own words, yours took on new meaning. I could see them for what they were instead of what I needed them to be.

posted by Talion on December 16, 2005 at 1:41 PM | link to this | reply

Just Commenting

I have never been on that side to actually envy others.  I have been continually on the side where people envy me.  All can say it to continue doing your thing.  I have had it because of my intelligence, and diligence.  I recently earned a doctorate and the leaders in the school system put out a destruction mission.

I am still standing.  As the only person with a doctorate in educational leadership, my degree is higher than the superintendent's.  He certainly had and still has the opportunity to put things in motion for himself, as opposed to attacking me and my character.  Anyway, GO FOR IT!!

posted by Dr_JPT on December 16, 2005 at 1:27 PM | link to this | reply

I agree with the other comments here
your words are an inspiration to me.

posted by malcolm on December 16, 2005 at 9:44 AM | link to this | reply

May
You have a very strong aura about your writing.  You reveal not only confidence, but intuitiveness, in regard to writing and market strategies.  I like your style; however, I also recognize that your human being, like the rest of us, who isn't "on" all the time.  I like that you can relate to those who are sometimes intimidated by you, but the truth is, we all pull our pants on the same way.  Bravo to you for who you are!  And bravo to you for your stick-to-itiveness!  Blessings!

posted by Masky on December 16, 2005 at 8:17 AM | link to this | reply

For this reader, your efforts and determination are motivational May

I hope you continue sharing your experiences; your journey is interesting and admirable.

posted by Katray2 on December 16, 2005 at 7:16 AM | link to this | reply

You've worked hard MayB
And it's obvious that hard work pays off!  Blogit would not be the same without you!

posted by ginnieb on December 16, 2005 at 4:23 AM | link to this | reply

MayB
Maybe it's not the waterhole itself, but the company we drink with that affects the wuality of the water. Great to hear about your renaissance of sorts - it's inspiring to me.

-smartdog

posted by smartdog_670 on December 15, 2005 at 10:31 PM | link to this | reply

Wow, I always wanted to go to France or China.

If I get to drive 6 hours for a two night retreat, I'm thrilled. I feel rejected by most people, so I try not to worry about and focus on working.  That's been going well, but I have hardly any friends and no published writing.  I bet your the water hole lioness.  Have a great evening

posted by Flumpystalls3000 on December 15, 2005 at 8:12 PM | link to this | reply

This is a beautiful post, MayB, and so is the quote from Hemlocker.   I definitely do not feel in your league but, I have no envy.   You are what you are because of the work that you have put in.  I am where I am because I went a different direction than writing except for my own enjoyment.

posted by TAPS. on December 15, 2005 at 5:48 PM | link to this | reply

MayB
I don't envy you, but I do admire your courage and professionalism, MayB.

posted by johnmacnab on December 15, 2005 at 5:37 PM | link to this | reply

Gypsyredhead, thanks. It's comments like that which make Blogit such good value. Where else can I get an instant pick me up?

posted by Azur on December 15, 2005 at 5:33 PM | link to this | reply

Luckily for me Ariala and Scoop, I don't measure success by money otherwise I have failed dreadfully ;-0

posted by Azur on December 15, 2005 at 5:31 PM | link to this | reply

I think many measure success with different rulers

posted by scoop on December 15, 2005 at 4:40 PM | link to this | reply

Success isn't measured by money...it's measured by doing that which
makes one happy...and if happiness and money follow, well, so much the better.

posted by Ariala on December 15, 2005 at 4:04 PM | link to this | reply

MayB... I guess some might be intimidated by any kind of success...
personally, I have a lot of admiration for the way you put yourself out there and the talent you have. Keep up the good work!

posted by RedHeadedGypsy on December 15, 2005 at 3:58 PM | link to this | reply