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JohnMcNab, it does matter
posted by
Azur
on December 21, 2005 at 7:20 AM
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MayB
You may be able to step back from the career aspect of writing, but as long as you keep writing, does it matter?
posted by
johnmacnab
on December 21, 2005 at 6:51 AM
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Mayb,
I hope your turn for creative fulfillment comes soon. I believe it is a lot to ask to put the burden of the career and monetary responsibilites on your shoulders while your partner focuses solely on his own creative endeavor. Could I? No.
posted by
Blanche.
on December 20, 2005 at 2:40 PM
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BrightIrish, thank you.
You are right that it is hard work and requires a strong bond. Somehow one must be selfish and giving at the same time
posted by
Azur
on December 20, 2005 at 12:58 PM
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That's a good plan Nickie_Fleming
posted by
Azur
on December 20, 2005 at 12:56 PM
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Merry Clickmas!
You've been clicked!
posted by
Masky
on December 20, 2005 at 10:22 AM
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MayB,
I think you should persue your dreams as well. It is fine (and good news) that your partner is succesful, but I'm sure you'll hate him and yourself if you give up your own dreams. If you are succesful too, you can easily hire help to do the housekeeping, right? No need to worry over trivial matters anymore.
posted by
Nickie-Fleming
on December 20, 2005 at 7:45 AM
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MayB
I hope your partners book is a success and I'm sure that you will share in the joy. With a finacial burden lifted and I truly believe that together you can work out the other details and work together so that both of your dreams will be fulfilled. A bond is formed in love and each of you are a aspect of the others being and the others world and with love you'll find the way to help eachother acheive your dreams.
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posted by
BrightIrish
on December 20, 2005 at 7:27 AM
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Take turns, and still share at least some domestic duties.
You can't have two partners of a duo both running full tilt in any one direction.
The question then would be whether you "switch" formally or just by picking up individual duties, by the calendar or the clock or circadian rythmns or whatever.
My wife and I did it, and it would have been impossible for either of us to attend and complete school without the other's help.
posted by
majroj
on December 20, 2005 at 6:40 AM
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I wish both of you the best in the New Year! I hope the novel does make it to the big time and therefore give you more time to write too!
posted by
Ca88andra
on December 20, 2005 at 2:51 AM
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Mayb,
I'm having trouble reading this blog, as the font size seems to be a couple points smaller than usual, which is a bummer, because I always enjoy your blogs. Could you re-format and up the fonts for this blind blogger?
posted by
Blanche.
on December 19, 2005 at 4:20 PM
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Hi.. I really wanted to read and comment on your post but I can't seem to read this very small print without a struggle. Sorry!
posted by
BrightIrish
on December 19, 2005 at 4:18 PM
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MayB
Call me a cynic but I wouldn't give up my dream to let my spouse follow his. How do you know he's the only successful writer in the house? If you give up your dream, don't you think you might resent him in future? What if you guys split up? As your spouse, what does he think? Does he want you to give up your dream? And lastly, a marriage is supposed to be two people supporting each other.
posted by
fionajean
on December 19, 2005 at 1:08 PM
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Your couple must be distinguished one. What you raised up is very normal but my prayers are that the novel of your partner should scale the last burden. When it is over, there will a far reaching joy. P lease do accept my warm greetings and Merry Christmas in advance and God Bless.
posted by
Flame-thrower
on December 19, 2005 at 8:34 AM
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No MayB
I support my partner and he supports me, but I could never ask him to give up his dreams for me any more than he would ask that of me. Postpone them, perhaps, but to give them up would make me unhappy and in the end that wouldn't be good for our relationship.
posted by
MerryAnne
on December 19, 2005 at 8:07 AM
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That's a tough one MayB!
I do play the doting partner but in turn I'm supported as well. I know that's not what you're asking and I know your dreams and tenacity are strong. Tough one. Awesome news for your partner...I sure hope it goes all the way!
posted by
ginnieb
on December 19, 2005 at 6:51 AM
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I would perhaps step back a little (if that's possible)
but I wouldn't give up my dream for my partner. I'm such a pessimist that I would be thinking about the 'what ifs.'
posted by
word.smith
on December 19, 2005 at 5:11 AM
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Short answer: No
No, I wouldn't be happy as the doting partner any more than I am as the too-scared-to-write writer right now.
I could do the doting partner thing, yes. Could I be happy doing so? Again, No.
posted by
missjohn316
on December 18, 2005 at 11:25 PM
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