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Nanaroo,
Sisters are a blessing, but they can also be somewhat of an irritant at times. Maybe she simply needs some of your wonderful positive energy. I'll bet she's been missing her sister...Blessings!
posted by
ms_bradrock
on February 22, 2006 at 9:28 PM
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You inspired a post from me tonight... check out my brain drain blog.
posted by
-blackcat
on February 22, 2006 at 8:54 PM
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Nanaroo,
Hey, could be worse. My sister won't return my phone calls since I told her last summer that I didn't want to hear about her carrying on with a married man. I told her I love her and she's my sister but she's going down a bad path. Anyway, I think you have it right: if someone is doing something that really bugs you, like the makeup and hair thing, then you can find a tactful, loving way to tell her it's driving you batty!
Good luck!
posted by
Blanche.
on February 22, 2006 at 8:52 PM
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Lucy
I'm trying to get her to learn to ride- she's been a passenger and I think would really love riding.
Well, you sister you- I am going to sign off because it's time for our Wednesday night party...
I will email you in the AM
posted by
Nanaroo
on February 22, 2006 at 6:36 PM
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Nana
How cute!! Hey, you could always take her fishing, that will break the best of those harden obsessive, over groomed women (even if they are sisters).....
posted by
Offy
on February 22, 2006 at 6:32 PM
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jacenta
thank you!
posted by
Nanaroo
on February 22, 2006 at 6:03 PM
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Nanaroo...
After seeing your photo on the side of your post, I can't help but notice you are beautiful just the way you are. I am sure your sister loves you for you, even if she is into elaborate makeup and clothes!
posted by
jacentaOld
on February 22, 2006 at 6:00 PM
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Lens
thanks, I know it will too!
(p.s. I have more fishing stories coming!)
posted by
Nanaroo
on February 22, 2006 at 5:56 PM
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Nanaroo
Nothing's ever set in stone, including our family relationships. Always developing, always unfolding, always progressing. Reading between the lines in your post, I can tell your sisterly love will rise above the every-day irritations
posted by
Lensman
on February 22, 2006 at 5:53 PM
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original influence
thanks!
posted by
Nanaroo
on February 22, 2006 at 5:09 PM
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Great pic! Sisters will be sisters!
posted by
Original_Influence
on February 22, 2006 at 4:53 PM
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AC
you do look a little like her! You'll just have to come and visit us in California and we'll see about the crazy part!
posted by
Nanaroo
on February 22, 2006 at 4:39 PM
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angel
you are such a sweetheart, thanks!
posted by
Nanaroo
on February 22, 2006 at 4:35 PM
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You know, Nanaroo, I keep looking at these pictures and you really
have not changed a bit! I am so jealous!
posted by
anglofinspirtion
on February 22, 2006 at 2:10 PM
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nanaroo
We are a society obsessed with beauty, and bombarded with false images of what it means.
posted by
avant-garde
on February 22, 2006 at 1:47 PM
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Your wish is my command!!!
Check out
Episode 25 of the Road Trip Sagas and let me know what you think.
posted by
Passionflower
on February 22, 2006 at 1:38 PM
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Nan ~
Your sister sounds like me.... Hope I don't drive u crazy.
posted by
AC_Allyn
on February 22, 2006 at 12:52 PM
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BC
thanks, I can't tell you how much your help with getting this figured out means to me!
posted by
Nanaroo
on February 22, 2006 at 10:39 AM
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Hold your head up high. You're beautiful and confident! Don't change
your clothes or your attitude for her. She'll just have to accept you as you are! (and maybe she already does!)
(I have sooo been there)
posted by
-blackcat
on February 22, 2006 at 10:38 AM
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BC!
Yup- that is IT! I dress like I shop at Costco (discount store) which I do- I'm not skinny like she is, I don't have a ton of nice clothes or three apartments full of shoes. My favorite shoes are my motorcycle boots. I don't like wearing much makeup and I hate all the pressure to look good. Yeah, you hit the nail on the head.
It's no fun to feel inadequate, is it?
posted by
Nanaroo
on February 22, 2006 at 10:34 AM
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If I had to guess... I'd say you might feel like if she's that critical of
herself... then what does she think of you? Do you feel like you need to dress better and look better around her? (I have a friend like that.... so I know that it can make you feel inadequate or judged at times...) Am I close?
posted by
-blackcat
on February 22, 2006 at 10:31 AM
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BC
yes, we're really close by phone. I think part of the problem here is that I haven't looked inside myself to figure out why that behavior bothers me so much- if I can figure that out, I probably will be able to deal with it better.
posted by
Nanaroo
on February 22, 2006 at 10:29 AM
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You must know the insides of her from your long distance communicating....
I'm always upfront.... it can backfire, but I'd probably joke with her about our differences. Maybe you can learn to roll your eyes and find her superficial tendencies endearing instead of completely annoying? LOL
posted by
-blackcat
on February 22, 2006 at 10:24 AM
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NAN
Sounds like the relationship that I have with one of my sisters. The drama, the mega makeup however she and I have not progressed past the phone yet. I emailed her last night suggesting we talk more often and of yet no response. Sisters
posted by
ALWAYSALOVER
on February 22, 2006 at 10:08 AM
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babe, passion, shellyb, and mira, thanks!
I think I will find a way to gently explain to her that when she looks in a mirror and does something with her makeup literally every 5 minutes it is very distracting and bothers me- I can find a way to do that diplomatically- I'm the queen of diplomacy! It's not out of line to ask someone to modify their behavior...
but I do agree with earlier comments that I could look at why that bothers me so much--
posted by
Nanaroo
on February 22, 2006 at 9:33 AM
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Hi
Only a direct and honest approach to your sister makes sense.
posted by
mira1
on February 22, 2006 at 9:20 AM
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Nanaroo.......I can relate. My brothers and I were so close growing up, but things have happened, and they both have changed. I love them both, but things are so different now. 
posted by
shelly_b
on February 22, 2006 at 9:19 AM
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Do be honest and up front with your sister-
Sound lines of communication are paramount to keeping any relationship healthy and vital.
posted by
Passionflower
on February 22, 2006 at 9:17 AM
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You're so lucky to have all those b and w pictures from the past. Maybe try to interest your sister in some of your activities? You can meet each other halfway, I know you can.
posted by
babe_rocks
on February 22, 2006 at 9:16 AM
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MedusaNextDoor
thanks! You guys are so helpful-- I feel better about it already! Wow, where do I send the check?
posted by
Nanaroo
on February 22, 2006 at 7:40 AM
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Heck, Nanaroo, Dr. JPT said it nicely....
We are all different in how we view the world, ourselves, and each other. If she's picking on you to wear this or that, etc., then you have every right to 'correct' her and tell her to stop that behavior. But if she just likes nice clothes and make-up, etc, well, then I would probably enjoy her company, haha...I am obsessed with staying slender and 'young' and with the right clothes and so on. Is it shallow? Not really, because I am kind-hearted to everyone around me. I would never tell someone to wear makeup or cut their hair...
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on February 22, 2006 at 7:35 AM
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ginnieb
thanks, you're right, life is too short to carry unresolved differences.
posted by
Nanaroo
on February 22, 2006 at 7:31 AM
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DrJPT
thank you, very insightful comment! I appreciate it!
posted by
Nanaroo
on February 22, 2006 at 7:28 AM
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Hmmm..
I understand what you are saying, yet does it seems that you want her to be how you want her to be as opposed to accepting her as she likes to be? If turned around, how would you like it if she told you to fix your hair differently or wear different clothes? If she does that, then both of you may need to stop and think about how the control of the other may continue the differences.
Each develops their own style. The person who wears it faces people everyday and they know how they prefer to present self. You may need to over look this area. I can understand how it can be troublesome, yet on the other hand it may build walls that can never be moved.
Handle with care and love. This is just my opinion!!
posted by
Dr_JPT
on February 22, 2006 at 7:02 AM
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Cute pic Nanaroo!
Reminds me of my sister and me! We all seemed to have those straight, short bangs! It's best to level with her...you don't want to miss out on a relationship with her....life is too short.
posted by
ginnieb
on February 22, 2006 at 6:59 AM
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