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Blackcat30, I've found there are far worse things than
being seen by the mailbox in a robe such as when my room-mate was locked outside the apartment wearing nothing but a shirt ;-) and had to wait for me to cross town with the keys.
posted by
Azur
on May 8, 2006 at 1:02 PM
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I liked this post....
I can relate because the shallow girls are so tiresome. I'd like to get to the point where I wouldn't have cared about getting caught at the mailbox, but I know the feeling. No one likes to be judged by appearances... or at all, for that matter.
posted by
-blackcat
on May 7, 2006 at 4:08 PM
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How nice that you reply with links!
You know, you don't have to answer my wisecracks.
posted by
majroj
on May 3, 2006 at 8:00 PM
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JohnMcNab, if I am on that most comments lists it means
that I've spent too much time blogging
posted by
Azur
on May 3, 2006 at 6:11 AM
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Shallow responses.............
Sadly it was not my best robe.
Blogflogger, you give me new encouragement to worry even less about such matters. It would make my son so embarrased.
to be fair I've never met the women and I do have to admire her lack of care about the opinion of others with regard to her singing.
Smartdog, as the years go on, I care less and less about keeping up appearances.
Admittedly I'd have rather not been caught and it probably wasn't sensible. Imagine if the door had locked behind me ;-)?
I admire those people who can maintain the hair and make up and write books and manage a family but with most of us somhing has to go.
I thought it was the other way round. Aren't first impressions held against you forever?
no, just equal. People who focus purely on appearances who feel superior.
Exactly what's the point? it was like that when I was growing up here. There are a few people around that I can relate to.
, I don't begrudge her focusing on her appearance but it's OK to focus on more cerebral pursuits. Vive le difference. All can make it in their own way.
,I don't think she will lose her looks but I think it's best not to determine our success on looks alone
she has no time to blog.
Talion, it has to be said that I too was summing up her at a glance (oh and from the earful of country karaoke) I think we all make these comparisons
Una01, we all make these comparisons. yes the book by the cover analogy was it but I was trying not to be so obvious. Bon voyage.
it would be very funny because it is so unlikely. no, it's not possible to have a brain and a personality and a buff bod. Don't you look at other ordinary people and wonder at their stories? I do, but at least I can make em up
posted by
Azur
on May 3, 2006 at 6:10 AM
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There's a list about most comments? Creepy stuff.
posted by
johnmacnab
on May 3, 2006 at 5:55 AM
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At least you were wearing a robe.
If not, may I suggest a lovely apricot mud mask before and during your excursion?
posted by
majroj
on May 2, 2006 at 11:08 PM
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Azur - My garbage collectors and neighbors have seen me in every ...
... possible state of dress and (nearly) undress, dolled up and screwed up. I have no shame. Woody-woodpecker hair, high heels kicked off the night before, sleep t-shirt, and a coat or jacket, flying out the door to meet the garbage truck at the curb. They give me wolf whistles, and I curtsy. I used to make my son whimper with some of the getups I'd don to run him to school. He lived in fear of a wreck, or (gulp) my needing to exit the car while in sight of the school. I drive to the roadside coffee kiosks in my PJs on a regular basis. I have a baseball hat I sometimes wear, and people don't know whether to say "thank you mam" or "sir". Screw those vapid, shallow women! (Sorry about commenting and running up you click count.)
posted by
blogflogger
on May 2, 2006 at 6:44 PM
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Azur,
But you have had the last word, at least here, and that is the ultimate "writer's revenge" on people too shallow and superficial to know or see the you that cares about other people, that is a good friend, writes well-crafted articles, and has been places.
If all she has is the SUV and the peroxide hair, well, what's left in a few years, but an empty shell?
posted by
Blanche.
on May 2, 2006 at 6:11 PM
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Thank you for the comments about the shallow girls
I will reply soon. My name has entered the list of most comments this week and I must let it fall of that list again. I have a rule about not being on that list. Please bear with me
posted by
Azur
on May 2, 2006 at 5:53 PM
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Azur
The prying eyes of neighbors can be intimidating indeed. Realizing that you are who you are regardless is a little bit of freedom in this overbearing world.
be well
-smartdog
posted by
smartdog_670
on May 2, 2006 at 1:14 PM
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Bravo, Azur.....This was a juicy one.....
I still love the picture of you in the robe running out to the mailbox and the SUV quickly coming 'round. Hilarious. See, I wouldn't go out to the mailbox in a robe. But that's why I liked this post and admire the strong and sensible woman you are. You are the winner here....I'm not shallow but I am insecure, and that's not a good place to be either.
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on May 2, 2006 at 12:24 PM
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About the peroxide blonde in the big SUV
What they used to say about guys with big trucks -- they were compensation for some self-perceived insufficiency -- probably holds true for one who doesn't dare to be the least bit out of fashion. It takes a bit of self-confidence to let yourself be seen in your most private comfortable state of dress. (Assuming here that you hadn't done your makeup or hair.)
posted by
Pat_B
on May 2, 2006 at 9:08 AM
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First impressions
are so rarely lasting.
posted by
malcolm
on May 2, 2006 at 9:00 AM
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The score is blonde 1, Azur 10. Don't you feel deliciously superior?
posted by
johnmacnab
on May 2, 2006 at 7:18 AM
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Yep forget about her (I wanted to write it like you but could not remember
how you wrote it) I use to always care what people think...now I realise whats the point...
posted by
_Symphony_
on May 2, 2006 at 6:38 AM
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Are u really speaking for all the girls in ur town?
posted by
Straightforward
on May 2, 2006 at 5:19 AM
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Azur
I wonder: is that what 'making it' is all about? I want nothing of it!
posted by
avant-garde
on May 2, 2006 at 4:00 AM
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Hi
I'm lucky, I've never really been the "cool" kid so I've never felt the need to conform. Don't you feel a bit sorry for them - what do they have to fall back on when their looks fail?
posted by
fionajean
on May 2, 2006 at 2:30 AM
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Azur, perhaps she was driving to the shop to get herself enough biscuits
to take back and place beside her computer to get her through her day's addiction of blogging. ...No, that can't be my neighbour. No, that would be too much of a coincidence. But I have peroxide hair... and I do karaoke... and the SUV... and she was in a robe... the mailbox was empty... surely not....?
posted by
_dave_says_ack_
on May 2, 2006 at 1:02 AM
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Azur
It's strange how we sum people up at a glance. We fill in the blanks as we see fit while simultaneously believing what we don't see doesn't exist. I'm right about my impressions of people enough of the time to trust my instincts, but wrong just enough not to write anything in stone.
posted by
Talion
on May 2, 2006 at 12:24 AM
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Azur, I sometimes compare myself to others
in a like manner. I am glad you are tied with the glossy woman.
posted by
una01
on May 1, 2006 at 10:57 PM
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I loved the ending Azur....
...I guess you just don't ever know....never judge the book by its cover and all that crap. I've never been one of those girl girls and always felt like the misfit when it came to small talk but now I can almost do it! I'm so proud of myself!
Hahaha!
posted by
ginnieb
on May 1, 2006 at 8:22 PM
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It would be funny if she surprised you and turned out to be someone
important in the literary world and that you surprise her and turn out on the front of a magazine sometime.
posted by
Ariala
on May 1, 2006 at 5:26 PM
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Azur, I know this feeling only too well, only I live it as a "housewife" in
middle class suburbia. No one knows that I went to school in Baghdad, or that I lived in Thailand for a time as a a Buddhist nun (Well, almost. I never took the FINAL vows). Anyway, I feel you on this one. I just laugh at their inability to buy a personality.
posted by
Renigade
on May 1, 2006 at 5:25 PM
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