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well dear....
You're welcome my way anyday, anytime. :o) However, you will never do it if you logic it out. It's not logical to begin with. Kids are lots of trouble, they get sick, they're dirty, they talk back, they do stupid things, they break your stuff, ruin your stuff, take your stuff. They are also the most amazing creations on the planet. They love you, need you, hug you when you're down, ask fun questions, make you laugh so hard you think you can't breathe anymore, suprise you at every turn and give you a reason to stay alive when everything else is black. They cost a lot of money........but you know what? They're worth it. I would be totally comfortable financially right now if I had no kids, but on the other hand, I might not still even be here. You spend less on you, it works out. I wholeheartedly endorse people who are loving and caring becoming parents. You would be an awesome parent....and I have that on good authority! My kids absolutely adore you!!!!
posted by
desertsong
on September 19, 2003 at 11:44 AM
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Desertsong - that is the one difference between us ..I just can't do that ..I seriously think about it but I just can't do it because I tell myself that it won't work. I get all logical about it. I think - if I lived somewhere other than NY I'd probably be more willing but in NY ..I'm making almost 40K and still struggling to survive paycheck to paycheck.
BB- My bf already knows that I will not wait forever. On the other hand there are still times that I have to really think about whether we are meant to be married. Some days if he were to ask me .I'd say no ..others I would say yes. So I think both of us are still thinking about it a little. But yes I do feel the pressure ..cause I have to decide in another year or so because if the answer is no ...then I will have lost time - and then Desertsong ..I might be moving and heading your way.
posted by
Okie
on September 10, 2003 at 5:47 AM
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You can come up with a plan for anything you want but you know what?
these things happen when they happen.
You meet the right guy when you meet the right guy. People live far longer now.
But focus on now. That is what matters. If you want this guy to get serious tell him. If you don't want to spend years waiting for him, always risky I think, move on.
posted by
beachbelle
on September 9, 2003 at 11:27 PM
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uhhhhh
you can't do it that way............if you wait til you can afford it, it'll never happen. I can't afford it, but somehow I manage...
posted by
desertsong
on September 9, 2003 at 10:55 PM
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as a matter of fact ...
I have thought of that ..but ...unfortunately I would have to find a stable home and a tiny bit of savings before I can take that leap. It is a possibility though ..believe me.
posted by
Okie
on September 7, 2003 at 6:22 PM
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ok, this is gonna sound terrible....
but have you ever thought of doing it my way??
posted by
desertsong
on September 7, 2003 at 1:05 PM
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