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Ann & Ben
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 27, 2006 at 7:24 AM
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posted by
A-and-B
on July 26, 2006 at 3:42 PM
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TAPS
Thanks...you may have something there. I know that the whining slows down if I ignore it..but it takes so long. LOL
I'll have to try that!
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 26, 2006 at 10:51 AM
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Timmy
LOL....I don't think he'll understand that concept.
Besides, he's on my heels all day long...where shall I ground him to?
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 26, 2006 at 10:49 AM
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sunny
Play let's make a deal.............stop whining and I won't ground you
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on July 26, 2006 at 10:38 AM
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Sunnybeach, I don't have time right now to read all the comments so someone might have already suggested this. I have had lots of practice with this because I have worked with children of that age all my life. The thing that has always worked for me (because I abhor whining at any age) is to say to the child, "I will not hear you or respond to what you want until you talk to me in your normal voice." At first they don't even understand what you mean and don't believe you but if you stick to it they will begin to try. Sometimes, if this is new to the child, it will take as many as eight or ten tries, moving down in pitch each time until they get it right. I just keep saying, "I know you are trying but that is not your normal voice yet." When they finally get there, I always reward them with my full attention and solutions to their problem or get them what they were wanting. If it is tattling that they are trying to do, we deal with that after they reach their normal voice because that is another thing that I cannot stand.
posted by
TAPS.
on July 26, 2006 at 10:03 AM
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Tanga
I'm gonna look up Nanny 9-1-1 and see how that goes!
Maybe you can give it a try too.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 26, 2006 at 9:58 AM
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avant-garde
Thanks for the tips! I'm gonna check out Nanny 9-1-1!
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 26, 2006 at 9:57 AM
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BlondeAmbition007
Thanks! Looks like I'll have to check into this Nanny 9-1-1!
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 26, 2006 at 9:55 AM
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Sunny
I would agree with Avant.....Nanny 911 rocks! Her techniques seem to work.
I don't have kids....so I can't give any advice from personal experience. 
posted by
BlondeAmbition007
on July 26, 2006 at 9:53 AM
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OFFBEATS
I thought maybe you guys were telling secrets about me. LOL. Just kidding!
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 26, 2006 at 9:45 AM
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Sunny
HUH?
posted by
Offy
on July 26, 2006 at 9:39 AM
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Sunny
Ok! I didn't know if you was allowed to come out and play today!!!
posted by
Offy
on July 26, 2006 at 9:38 AM
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OFFBEATS
Are you guys talking about me?!
LOL
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 26, 2006 at 9:37 AM
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OFFBEATS
Just got back from therapy! LOL. I'll be with you all shortly!
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 26, 2006 at 9:37 AM
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Sunny
Yes...why aren't you playin with us today?
posted by
Offy
on July 26, 2006 at 9:35 AM
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OFFBEATS
I'm here! LOL. I'm in PA. Does that answer you're question?
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 26, 2006 at 9:34 AM
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Sunny
Where are you?
posted by
Offy
on July 26, 2006 at 9:32 AM
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Well
Having a 4 year old myself, I would say to listen and ask what is wrong. Repeat his request, so that he knows you are listening, and then explain why it can't happen the way he wants it to. Offer alternatives, or maybe even a reward for choosing something else. I learned that from Nanny 9-1-1.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 26, 2006 at 12:40 AM
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I wish there was a simple solution
If you find an answer that works please post it, I could do with some advice as well.
posted by
Tanga
on July 25, 2006 at 11:46 PM
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Rumored_Intelligence
LOL. Do they EVER grow out of it?
My daughter still whines at 9yrs. It was a lot easier and still is, to get her to stop than is my son.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 25, 2006 at 10:05 PM
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the old imitation trick used to work...I'd whine like daughter was doing...
I can remember her stopping, looking at me, and saying, "Dad, you look funny." I just said with a grin that she did, too...end of whining....
now she just whines when she wants me to co-sign a loan.....
posted by
Rumor
on July 25, 2006 at 9:57 PM
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Shelly....I guess that's true. LOL
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 25, 2006 at 4:12 PM
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Sunny, SHE WASN'T!!!!
posted by
shelly_b
on July 25, 2006 at 4:10 PM
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Shelly
Wow! I can't believe how stupid some people are. What was she thinking? LOL
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 25, 2006 at 4:08 PM
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We actually had a teacher that taped a kid's mouth shut, because they
wouldn't stop crying. They were fired, of course! DUH!! idoit.
posted by
shelly_b
on July 25, 2006 at 4:02 PM
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OFFBEATS
LOL...So how many years worth of earplugs will I need?
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 25, 2006 at 3:59 PM
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Passion
No....and yes
LOL
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 25, 2006 at 3:58 PM
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Sunny
At 4 years I don't think they have learned shut up yet~LOL!
posted by
Offy
on July 25, 2006 at 2:28 PM
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Did the kid ever shut up?
{bet you can tell how good I am with kids}
posted by
Passionflower
on July 25, 2006 at 2:00 PM
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Bel....LOL
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 25, 2006 at 11:33 AM
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Passion
Done that, it doesn't help...trust me
And no...they don't
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 25, 2006 at 11:33 AM
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Passion
Yes they do, they call it a car ride!!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 11:27 AM
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Do they make baby Valium????
posted by
Passionflower
on July 25, 2006 at 11:27 AM
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I think I'd jump around and whine too. And act awful!
So she could see what it looks like...
posted by
Passionflower
on July 25, 2006 at 11:26 AM
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BC
Hahahahahahahaah
I need something that won't require too much explaination should I need to take him to the ER!
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 25, 2006 at 11:24 AM
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my answer was duct tape! ROFL... so funny... Okay, I'll think of
something else. Hmmm.... Crazy Glue?
posted by
-blackcat
on July 25, 2006 at 11:22 AM
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I'm reading Family First to get a few tricks up my
sleeve.
If there's anything in relation to that topic, I'll let you know.
posted by
Cringe
on July 25, 2006 at 11:14 AM
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LOL Bel!
I've tried the whining.....The duct tape is still just a good thought!
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 25, 2006 at 11:10 AM
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LOL Cringe!
As soon as you figure it out, please let me know!!!
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 25, 2006 at 11:09 AM
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Sunny
you tried the duct tape or the whining??
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 11:09 AM
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FLIGHTPATH
I try. LOL.
The WHOLE house is FULL of fun stuff to do...that doesn't deter him.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 25, 2006 at 11:08 AM
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Bel....LOL....duct tape....don't you think I've thought of that?! LOL
Actually, I've tried that with my son, and it either has no affect, or it starts him laughing, but still doesn't stop him!
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 25, 2006 at 11:07 AM
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As soon as I learn that answer, I'll stop whining myself!
posted by
Cringe
on July 25, 2006 at 11:06 AM
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Distract them with something fun to do.
posted by
reasons
on July 25, 2006 at 11:05 AM
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Duct tape!!!!!!
Actually what I used to do to my daughter was when she starting whining I would imitate her. It made her crazy but she did stop!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 11:03 AM
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