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lustorlove
Maybe you did a mistype there. You said it occurs to you that you want to retire WITHOUT any money. I have to think it's the other way around.
posted by
terpgirl30
on September 7, 2006 at 12:29 AM
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I just live one to the other, and now it dawns on me I realy want to retire without any money
posted by
Lanetay
on September 6, 2006 at 10:45 PM
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Lustorlove
You know, finding out WHAT you want, and what makes you happy is the KEY. That's the HARD part. Most people fall into patterns and then continue doing "it" because they are good at "it".
Watch TV, Read etc. What turns you on? A question asked me in a career workshop was: All things being equal, what would you want to do. People limit their options because they don't have the education or they don't think they have the personality to succeed---they think. Yet they are drawn to this thing. It's not work for them. The actual execution of the task is part of the fun. That's how I've always been with newspapers. It's like working a big jigsaw for me.
Maybe you should go to a career workshop. I so scoffed at this one. I knew what I wanted to do, and what I was good at it. For me, taking the test reaffirmed it all. The test I took used 1)ability, 2)likes and 3)values. Then you were showed the many options that fit into these categories. Many were things you just wouldn't think of.
That blank canvass is scary, Lilane, for sure. I'm feeling that with my new house and life. I will be living alone when I've always defined myself as that person who makes major dinners for a family. Who am I now? In speaking with a cousin who shared his retirement plans (something he fell into which relates to something he liked as a child), it really put me in a mood to discover all these things about me.
Take that time for yourself! I had a quote on my wall. A writer spoke to his dying mother. She said something soooo profound to me....She told him she always had the feeling that she was meant to do something but she had never figured out what it is. From that talk on, the writer make it a point to face that question head on.
posted by
terpgirl30
on September 6, 2006 at 10:35 PM
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photocopying
I know how it feels to have never met a goal in life and now its time to reitre (almost) and I need someting to keep me going. But I dont know what it is yet.
posted by
Lanetay
on September 6, 2006 at 10:13 PM
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10,000 pieces
No one can help out really. It has to be explained along the way. The ironic part is the husband spent no time taking care of all of this stuff, so his answer is --- um, I don't know. Because I did the right thing, I'm paying for it now. In the end, however, it will prove my point that the money that bought our house was mine solely...and then some. It's worth it to me to do.
posted by
terpgirl30
on September 6, 2006 at 10:47 AM
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Actually Passion,
the cousin story was a watershed thing for me. That's how it started...as kids. She's had really, really bad stuff happen to her as a grown up. Somewhere in my 20s I was doing the hypothetical -- "who would I change places with" and the lightbulb went on. You don't get to pick out PIECES of the person's life if you trade. You get the whole life. I came to the conclusion that for all the icky stuff that's happened here and there to me, I wouldn't trade with anyone. I know I got through the things I've been through. I don't know if I would have gotten through my cousin's stuff, for example. Great lesson for me.
posted by
terpgirl30
on September 6, 2006 at 10:45 AM
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btw, thanks for sharing about your cousin...
Some people seem to have such lovely lives, don't they? Everything always works for them, life is good and pleasant. They have children and spouses that love them. They have careers and hobbies they enjoy.
*sigh* My life has been more like a train wreck though.
posted by
Passionflower
on September 6, 2006 at 10:03 AM
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10,000 pieces???? Holy Cow!!! That's outrageous!
And hardly believable....poor girl! Do you have a good friend or relative who could help out?
posted by
Passionflower
on September 6, 2006 at 10:01 AM
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