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- Go to I bit my tongue off to keep from "getting into it" with a blogger!
this was a good post. Glad I didn't miss it.
It seems that 9 out of 10 days, I can bite my tongue. It's that 10th day that's still a problem.
posted by
-blackcat
on September 8, 2006 at 1:02 PM
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Ypunday--
Oh I didn't (obviously) know that about the hosta! Now it makes sense, lol.
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 8:58 PM
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and now, to all of Blogit...LOL.
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 8:57 PM
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I agree with you.Julia because in the other world, I would
1. try diplomacy and after a bit, tell it like it is
2. i would invest in the real face-to-face relationship. Here it may be more energy than you or I have with "people" who introduced themselves correctly or otherwise on Blogit.
thanks for comments on haiku--the Hosta is also called a praying plant--that variety or subspecies. After U left TAPS- had a great praying mantis eat a hummingbird, w/ pciture to prove it. LOL
posted by
ILLUMINATI8
on September 6, 2006 at 5:13 PM
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Even if I can only admit it to myself, lol
posted by
Blanche.
on September 6, 2006 at 4:55 PM
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blanche--
you know what they say, admitting is half the battle. at least I think they say that, lol.
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 4:49 PM
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Julia, I've had to ask myself that so many times, "what am I doing here and
why?" Every time I think about leaving, I miss the people I care about, and I miss the outlet and expression and just opening up a New Entry window and spilling out my thoughts too much. I don't always like the person I become when I get into arguments, either, and I can't always admit that.
posted by
Blanche.
on September 6, 2006 at 4:42 PM
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blanche--
it's just that I don't really like who I "become" when I get caught up in rank chasing. Yes it's igsignificant in terms of my real life but I much prefer nice, quiet blogging with a few good friends and readers, LOL.
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 4:39 PM
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Sorry, Julia, I wasn't clear, I meant your previous comment to Avant about
being chewed up and spit out by rankings madness. I get it, too, but it is reallly small potatoes.
posted by
Blanche.
on September 6, 2006 at 4:33 PM
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blanche--
I don't understand what you mean, what folly would WHAT be??
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 4:30 PM
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Julia, what folly that would be, it's a small world, this place
posted by
Blanche.
on September 6, 2006 at 4:27 PM
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avant--
I won't lie, it does look nice up there but I'm going to have to leave again before the ranking madness takes hold of me, chews me up and spits me out, lol.
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 4:25 PM
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troosha--
thanks for the link, I'll check it out!
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 4:23 PM
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Julia
Congrats on the #1 slot. I know you missed seeing it.
posted by
avant-garde
on September 6, 2006 at 3:40 PM
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on the same topic (I think)….check: Something to say
posted by
Troosha
on September 6, 2006 at 3:37 PM
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Julia
I'm so glad you're back.
posted by
avant-garde
on September 6, 2006 at 1:39 PM
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Vibrance--
uh-oh, the other 20 faces are shaking in their boots now! lol.
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 11:28 AM
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strat--
he sure did! That Talion is one smart dude!
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 11:27 AM
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Julia of the 21 faces
Tomorrow's post on my blog....
LOL
Vib
posted by
Vibrance
on September 6, 2006 at 11:23 AM
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Talion definitely pegged it.
posted by
strat
on September 6, 2006 at 11:19 AM
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tanga--
thanks very much, I appreciate your comment.
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 11:14 AM
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Vibrance--
well okay then! I just asked and they said there is room for one more in here, LOL.
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 11:13 AM
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.dave.--
thanks for your astute, very non-dotty comment!
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 11:12 AM
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how disappointing
I always wanted to be Julia of the 20 faces...
oh well next life then.
love
vib
posted by
Vibrance
on September 6, 2006 at 11:12 AM
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Spitfire--
Yes it sure is!!
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 11:11 AM
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vibrance--lol.
You can't impersonate me. I already have, like--20 personalities!!
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 11:10 AM
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Taps--
you are right--intelligent debate can sway a person's opinion but arguing probably won't ever accomplish a thing!
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 11:09 AM
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Yep, definitely emotionally, Julia
posted by
Blanche.
on September 6, 2006 at 11:08 AM
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of course YOU!!!
hehehe...
I often write poetry from a guy's perspective... at least try... I just like to write....
<
love
vib
posted by
Vibrance
on September 6, 2006 at 11:08 AM
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blanche--
do you mean to say that sometimes the decision is made emotionally?
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 11:07 AM
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avant--
"hollow" indeed--thank you for your comment.
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 11:06 AM
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I'ts always a judgment call, Julia
And sometimes, I admit, in my case, judgment has nothing to do with it.
posted by
Blanche.
on September 6, 2006 at 11:05 AM
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Talion--
hehe--great comment--thanks!!
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 11:05 AM
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vibrance--oh really?? whom do you impersonate? LOL.
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 11:04 AM
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blanche--
I agree that there are times when speaking up is necessary. In this case, I felt it was the wisest choice to walk away.
posted by
Julia.
on September 6, 2006 at 11:03 AM
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Julia., I really like Terpgirl's comment, that so much bad happens because
no one will speak up. I agree that, for the most part, over daily trivialities and differences of viewpoints, it's pointless to get into a tiff, especially on the Internet, where as the joke goes, "Arguing on the Internet is like winning the Special Olympics, the winner may have won, but they're still "special"."
Lack of empathy for others, specifically when it's aimed at someone who is struggling with an emotional burden, needing to tell someone, and just finding their voice, is one thing that I find cruel and intolerable. I do think that pointing out that when someone has made a cruel, unempathetic or just plain ignorant comment to or about someone's suffering, is almost a moral obligation.
posted by
Blanche.
on September 6, 2006 at 10:55 AM
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no point arguing over a point of view
because it changes, and sometimes what we write here is just in the moment...
i don't even always write from my point of view, especially in poetry. I just impersonate another person..
love
vib
posted by
Vibrance
on September 6, 2006 at 10:47 AM
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Julia.
Simply by observing the antics here, I quickly learned that telling a fool what a fool he is only results in a fool that's mad at you. As you say, who needs that?
posted by
Talion
on September 6, 2006 at 10:46 AM
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Julia
What have we won by joining in an affray, but a hollow feeling of defeat? I feel the same way.
posted by
avant-garde
on September 6, 2006 at 3:05 AM
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Julia, I have found that it never really changes anything to argue.
posted by
TAPS.
on September 6, 2006 at 2:53 AM
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J,
Totally agree. And, walking away is so much less stressfull (if not just plain stress free) than feeding into the world of negativaty of others. For sure. 
posted by
SpitFire70
on September 6, 2006 at 2:48 AM
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Good post, Julia. If it's in your power to say it, it's also in your power
not to say it. The power of silence, of nothing said, can equal or beat the power of a great deal said.
posted by
_dave_says_ack_
on September 6, 2006 at 2:02 AM
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I agree
it is much better simply to walk away. Some people have different opinions and one should respect that, one does not have to try and change others if one can simply walk away. Wise post.
posted by
Tanga
on September 5, 2006 at 11:52 PM
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Julia
You know, I make the point about the anonymity all the time. I just wasn't thinking of it here. You're absolutely right. In this forum people will say things they wouldn't dream of saying to someone standing face to face.
I'm just thinking you got into that normal debate. Yeah, I back out of the abnormal ones myself. Then, as a rule, I stay away from those blogs that draw those sorts of people.
posted by
terpgirl30
on September 5, 2006 at 11:01 PM
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bhaskar--
I'm not sure I fullly understand your comment, but I thank you for the visit, and for letting me know you were here!
posted by
Julia.
on September 5, 2006 at 9:37 PM
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bel--
It WAS you! LOL. Of course I'm kidding.
You're right, walking away did save me a lot of stress.
posted by
Julia.
on September 5, 2006 at 9:35 PM
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terpgirl--
if you enjoy a healthy debate with your girlfriend that is cool, but too often in the virtual world people seem unable to keep it polite. My guess is that the anonymity of it makes them more bold...
posted by
Julia.
on September 5, 2006 at 9:34 PM
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Afzal, A-and-B and mysteria,
I thank you very much for reading and for your comment.
posted by
Julia.
on September 5, 2006 at 9:32 PM
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Azur--
I am of course "assuming" they don't read me because of that little thing called a comment, of which theirs is conspicuously absent in my posts...lol. But then you knew that!
posted by
Julia.
on September 5, 2006 at 9:31 PM
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Julia
I am again using the same comment given to you in my blog earlier: Opposition unites. From what draws apart results the most beautiful harmony. All things take place by strife. .... Heraclitus
posted by
Bhaskar.ing
on September 5, 2006 at 8:47 PM
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Whew! I thought you were talking about me! LOL!
Seriously, I think you saved yourself a great deal of stress by simply walking away.
posted by
bel_1965
on September 5, 2006 at 8:47 PM
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Your response to the person they they were harsh
may have, indeed, fallen on deaf ears. But what of someone else who had just wandered into the conversation. So much bad that happens in the world happens because everyone assumes they are the only one who has a dissenting opinion. How often have you heard that..."I was going to say something, but everyone else seemed to be going along with it." It's sort of how mob mentality starts.
I'm not talking drag out fights or those kind of debates you know will be lost on the entire group because the person writing has a particular audience and they have a real extreme point of view.
My best friend of 30 years and I have often made it a point to take opposite sides of a debate/conversation...just to really get all views. More often than not we agree, so it's funny when people think we're disagreeing. I'm a journalist, I often just want to make sure I've asked enough questions to make a choice I personally can live with.
This certainly goes way beyond what you're saying here. I've bit my tongue at Blogit many times, so I get what you're saying. I have heard so many talking about keeping the Blogit peace recently that it is making me reconsider my view of this as a virtual world to debate issues, take a look at different sides, etc. For heaven sake's most of the "don't make waves" speeches I've seen in the last week were in the OPINION section. That's almost funny.
posted by
terpgirl30
on September 5, 2006 at 8:31 PM
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Hi Julia...yes, it is VERY honorable to let your feet do the talking
Good for you !
posted by
mysteria
on September 5, 2006 at 8:22 PM
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posted by
A-and-B
on September 5, 2006 at 6:24 PM
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nice post.
posted by
afzal50
on September 5, 2006 at 5:54 PM
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I agree that
reading some makes me see my life as blissful for a moment anyway
posted by
Azur
on September 5, 2006 at 5:30 PM
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?
posted by
Azur
on September 5, 2006 at 5:29 PM
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But how do you know
"they" don't read you
posted by
Azur
on September 5, 2006 at 5:29 PM
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