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mneme
Thanks.  I've pretty much figured out that if it were true, more likely than not, he'd have to seek other medical attention to prevent this kind of thing....and he hasn't.

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on October 14, 2006 at 7:56 PM | link to this | reply

Sunny,
I've just happened across your blog and I wanted to offer some support.  From what I've been reading he isn't the type to stand on his own two feet.  I'd be checking the internet for information on his "condition".  He might be being honest, but surely if he's married then it's his wife's concern (I'm beginning to feel sorry for her too.)  He doesn't own you and sees that you are compassionate, so I agree with Moxie; be careful.

posted by mneme on October 14, 2006 at 7:52 PM | link to this | reply

Pat_B

Thanks for those great suggestions.

He doesn't really see his son...only when I am there. He doesn't have a LOT of desire too. His main interest is me.

My daughter isn't his, and he's not allowed to see her.

 

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on September 28, 2006 at 9:27 AM | link to this | reply

If I were in this situation and had good reason to doubt
my ex's truthfulness, I'd play dumb.  It's possible the optometrist knows what he's talking about, just as it's possibly a lie made up for the heck of it. If/when he suggests you pick him up or drop off the kids when his current victim is out of the apartment, smile (even over the phone a smile reflects in the voice) and say, gee, I'd like to, but it's not convenient right now.  I've got tickets to...  or an appointment with ... (have a list prepared in your mind) and say something so sweet and phony even he will recognize it as a ploy... I guess you'll just have to miss this visit, the kids will be so disappointed...   Oh, well, you can see them next time.  Don't let him ruffle your feathers.   

posted by Pat_B on September 28, 2006 at 9:23 AM | link to this | reply

Ann and Ben
Hahaha 

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on September 28, 2006 at 6:20 AM | link to this | reply

Moxie_Maven
He doesn't have any sense...that's the point. 

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on September 28, 2006 at 6:19 AM | link to this | reply

babe_rocks
But for a few seconds? His eyes didn't stay that way, and he wasn't told they would get better in a few months?

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on September 28, 2006 at 6:17 AM | link to this | reply


posted by A-and-B on September 28, 2006 at 5:52 AM | link to this | reply

It's safe to say I've been where you are coming from...

hard to tell what is real and what isn't. Remember the story about Peter and the Wolf? That's exactly what it is.

About the eyes, though. He should have enough sense to get them checked himself if it's that bad. Could be something serious, could be a simple laser surgery. Be thankful for your health!

posted by Moxie_Maven on September 27, 2006 at 10:40 PM | link to this | reply

My dad used to lose his vision for a few seconds.  It was mini strokes caused by pieces breaking off the placque in the carotid artery upon which he had surgery and no more problems.  At least that is my understanding of it. 

posted by babe_rocks on September 27, 2006 at 10:04 PM | link to this | reply

Moxie_Maven
He's been one to play on pity from the very beginning.  You wouldn't believe some of the stories he's told me, back when I hadn't even met him yet.  It's why I'm so leary to believe anything he says.

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on September 27, 2006 at 6:20 PM | link to this | reply

Maybe he is one of those individuals that think they can get more attention with your pity so by playing on your sensetivity feigning ailments he is actually self-inflicting health issues. Reeling you in like a fish on a hook until you are caught back in the net. Sounds rather co-dependent to me. Be careful!

posted by Moxie_Maven on September 27, 2006 at 12:57 PM | link to this | reply