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Julia.
posted by
jacentaOld
on November 12, 2006 at 7:35 PM
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Julia............
posted by
jacentaOld
on November 9, 2006 at 3:26 AM
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Julia, where are you, my Furby-lovin' friend?
posted by
MaggieMae
on November 7, 2006 at 5:04 PM
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Julia.
Julia, I feel bad for you, because I do understand how it can hurt to see things change, that meant so much. I find it difficult at times to know that life will never exactly be like the past moment in my life again. You put a lot of yourself into your beautiful garden and it is very understandable that it makes you sad to know that it is no longer receiving the care it needs and that it's beauty is gone. At least you can have the satifaction of remembering how much you enjoyed it and you know the pleasure you received by seeing the fruits of your labor flourish.
Doesn't life seem like a series of letting go of the past, the good and the bad and moving forward to new goals and satifactions? This world seems to be an ever changing experience. Take care Julia and I wish you the best always!!!!
posted by
jacentaOld
on November 6, 2006 at 6:16 PM
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Julia
One cannot look out the rear window when driving forward onto a new boulevard luv. But I understand the pain of change luv.
posted by
WileyJohn
on November 5, 2006 at 8:19 PM
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Perhaps the new tenant will notice after a time
that the garden does not maintain itself and may fall into gardening at a later date. You never know how things work.
It's time to pour yourself into cultivating your new life
posted by
Azur
on November 5, 2006 at 1:50 PM
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Hi Julia
I'm think of you and hoping all is well
posted by
MysticGmekeepr
on November 3, 2006 at 2:27 PM
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Julia., just dropping by to say hi, and hoping you're having a good day.
posted by
Blanche.
on November 3, 2006 at 8:23 AM
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Where ever we go
We carve a place out of this universe and call it our own. When we move on, the universe reclaims our space and then someone else comes along and makes it their own.
It's not that what you did is not respected, it's that now she must make it her place and whatever that means. You've already moved on, so you shouldn't expect it to remain yours.
posted by
Whysper
on November 3, 2006 at 6:01 AM
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Where ever we go
We carve a place out of this universe and call it our own. When we move on, the universe reclaims our space and then someone else comes along and makes it their own.
It's not that what you did is not respected, it's that now she must make it her place and whatever that means. You've already moved on, so you shouldn't expect it to remain yours.
posted by
Whysper
on November 3, 2006 at 6:01 AM
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Perhaps there is something in her life that she is lavishing as much care and attention on as you did your garden.
posted by
babe_rocks
on November 2, 2006 at 1:57 PM
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I know it is hard to let go. But better keep good memories than think of
Something you can do nothing about.
posted by
Whacky
on November 2, 2006 at 12:26 AM
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Julia, This happens a lot to people who have loved and cared for their gardens. I know how you feel and yes, it probably would have been better if you hadn't asked.
posted by
TAPS.
on November 1, 2006 at 10:57 PM
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It is not nice when hard work
is not appreciated by others. Her loss not yours
posted by
Tanga
on November 1, 2006 at 10:45 PM
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posted by
MasonGarrett
on November 1, 2006 at 8:54 PM
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Julia...
I imagine it's kind of like a woman I used to love, now married to another man who doesn't appreciate her. Sad.
That hasn't happened to me but I imagine it would be similar.
posted by
A_Norseman
on November 1, 2006 at 2:42 PM
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Keep it in your memory how it was - but I know
I would not want to know who lived after me when I had moved on
posted by
AbsolutelyPositive
on November 1, 2006 at 12:53 PM
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Julia
The house we sold to move here was much the same way. I toiled in the yard constantly, fixing this and creating that. It was lovely. I went to the woods and hand-picked native trees and carefully transplanted them. I brought home truckloads of rocks from the creek beds and made designs.
Then some Mexicans bought us out. The took down the split rail fence and yanked up the trees. They tore down the gate so they could drive their vehicles into the back yard. They took out the above ground pool that I spent 1000 dollars on to get running. The put up satellite dishes, hung sheets over the windows, and cut my poor Post Oak tree to ribbons.
The first time I rode by it and looked, I could scarcely believe my eyes. I mourned those poor trees the most. Eventually, I accepted that we made a huge profit on it, and I eventually got this place looking good. Some people!
posted by
avant-garde
on November 1, 2006 at 12:41 PM
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I hope so, too, Julia, put all that experience into creating something else
posted by
Blanche.
on November 1, 2006 at 12:39 PM
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Julia
I am sorry. Some of those things that make us hurt will be the foundation for great things in the future. Where are you living now. I know you were in California?
posted by
Justi
on November 1, 2006 at 12:37 PM
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Maggie--
It's easy to say, not to easy to do (at least for me).
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2006 at 12:34 PM
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.dave.--
I know. As I said, I suck at letting go and moving on...I am working on it though!
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2006 at 12:33 PM
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strat--
thanks...it seems hard to fathom how someone could just disregard a wonderful garden, but everyone has different things that they value I guess.
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2006 at 12:32 PM
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blanche--
putting whatever we desire out to the universe via visualizations, prayers, focusing with intent, journaling etc. is definitely the first step to creating. I will have another garden one day, and I hope it will be ten times as beautiful as this one was.
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2006 at 12:31 PM
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manda--
I know, I feel fortunate to have been given the land for as long as I had it, and I did make good use of it.
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2006 at 12:29 PM
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jemmie--
giving in to the temptation to ask or to drive by, that is a colossal mistake...it almost never turns out good!
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2006 at 12:28 PM
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offbeats--
yes, I was hoping they would see it as a wonderful gift, but alas...
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2006 at 12:27 PM
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Julia, I was going to say exactly what Dave said. You can't look back, go forward.
posted by
MaggieMae
on November 1, 2006 at 11:49 AM
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It was a mistake to ask, Julia. Once you've moved on, looking back can hurt
posted by
_dave_says_ack_
on November 1, 2006 at 11:11 AM
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I suppose everyone has to put their own mark on some place.
But it sucks to watch yours be allowed to so callously disappear. It's like a waste of good karma.
posted by
strat
on November 1, 2006 at 8:26 AM
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Julia, the past is what makes us who we are, the experience of creating
that garden, having made that sanctuary for yourself, will be with you always, and you know that you can do it again, only differently. I am visualizing homes, I have no real means of getting one, yet, but I do believe that putting it out there is the first step.
posted by
Blanche.
on November 1, 2006 at 8:10 AM
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Julia, I know it hurts. Something good did come from your garden. For six
years, you enjoyed the beauty of God's creation that He used the garden to bless you with. Looking at it that way, I don't think your love, care and time was a waste at all.
posted by
Amanda__
on November 1, 2006 at 8:03 AM
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I know exactly what you mean!!!
When I lived on Maui we had a beautiful garden. I drove by the house a while after we had moved out, and everything was gone. It was heartbreaking.
posted by
Jemmie211
on November 1, 2006 at 7:59 AM
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schatz--
thanks. I know there is much wisdom in what you said. There can still be some good to come from what I created, somewhere down the road. And I can always create another garden...but here in this new cold climate, I will have to wait until Spring!! ack.
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2006 at 7:48 AM
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Julia
Dang, if I moved into a place that someone had taken time to garden I would consider that a blessing. Your cottage sounds like it received a lot of TLC while you were there. I know it's hard to let go, but alas we all have to do it sometimes ( for our own well being)....Can you imagine having gardens for flowers and veggies? That would be a dream come true too.....
posted by
Offy
on November 1, 2006 at 7:46 AM
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Troosha--
that's a good rule to follow, I wish I had never asked her...then I could just imagine that it is going to be beautiful forever. I learned my lesson on this!
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2006 at 7:45 AM
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blanche--
I don't really think that will happen, and I dare not hope for it. I just need to try to move on and not look back. I enjoyed it for a long time and now it's returning to the universe.
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2006 at 7:44 AM
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Your garden will always be there in your heart. Unfortunately, the seasons
turn and things change. Maybe someday she will remember that beautiful garden and be inspired to create one of her own. We never know why or when, but things come full circle. I am sorry for your sadness. Be well.
posted by
Schatz
on November 1, 2006 at 7:44 AM
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Julia
I, too, am an avid gardener and have made a hard and fast rule that I never return to a home I've moved away from. I've always moved within the same city so it would be easy enough to do. I just don't want to see how the fruits of my labour have gone to shit. I just start a new garden......
posted by
Troosha
on November 1, 2006 at 7:43 AM
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lovelyladymonk--
thank you for visiting today.
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2006 at 7:42 AM
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Julia, hopefully it won't all be for naught, and somehow someone else will
step in to take care of the garden before it completely goes to seed.
posted by
Blanche.
on November 1, 2006 at 7:26 AM
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posted by
lovelyladymonk
on November 1, 2006 at 7:21 AM
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afzal--
It is really hard to bear, and I'm sorry it brought up sad memories for you. I always thought of my garden as being filled with little "plant children" that I painstakingly cared for.
posted by
Julia.
on November 1, 2006 at 7:18 AM
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Its really very sad post .
I think you are fond of nature . I had a garden in my village and when my mother had gone to see my younger brother to delhi my cousin spoiled the whole lot of plants and damaged the garden just to hurt me . You have reminded me with the situation I faced then. Nice post .
posted by
afzal50
on November 1, 2006 at 7:11 AM
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