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avant-garde
posted by
jacentaOld
on May 24, 2007 at 4:27 AM
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Tanga and Mrs T
Thank you. The kids do lose control as we do. I think we set the pace and they follow along, although that isn't always easy to see. Cameron is doing much better. Thanks to you both for stopping by.
posted by
avant-garde
on March 18, 2007 at 3:40 AM
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Rcky
Well, I didn't think much of sharing it at the time, as you know the line of work I'm in. She read it one day and laughed at what I had written about Lucas. I guess she didn't mind too much. I hope your outing went well (or goes well).
posted by
avant-garde
on March 18, 2007 at 3:39 AM
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Bhaskar
Self-exploration is not always easy. Thank you for your kind demeanor and words.
posted by
avant-garde
on March 18, 2007 at 3:38 AM
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Ditto to all the below comments.
Hope Cameron is feeling better...
Mrs T
posted by
Tanga
on March 18, 2007 at 12:51 AM
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Parenting is not easy
but the rewards are great. As parents, we all have days where impatience and frustration can get the better of us. I have also noticed that the more frustrated one is the more the kids play up. I sense that they feel ones frustrations. You are a good parent by acknowledging that sometimes it is difficult to maintain a clear head.
posted by
Tanga
on March 15, 2007 at 11:11 PM
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Hi Avant......kids really know how to push our buttons huh?
I like how you take each situation and learn and grow from them. You're a great father. How do I know? Well, you're a great person! I hope Cameron is feeling better. BTW, I bet she's not all that happy to find out you shared her GI distress with all your readers! LOL 
posted by
RckyMtnActivist
on March 15, 2007 at 7:51 AM
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Avant
Brilliantly written! Especially the last para and the line underneath, puts your stamp in self-exploration.
posted by
Bhaskar.ing
on March 14, 2007 at 4:11 AM
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You're welcome!
posted by
Ciel
on March 13, 2007 at 2:31 PM
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mneme
Thank you. That is very encouraging!
posted by
avant-garde
on March 13, 2007 at 1:30 PM
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Julia
It's easy to look at another and be aghast, but the truth is we
all lose it a time or two.
posted by
avant-garde
on March 13, 2007 at 1:29 PM
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Troosha
Yes. Forgiveness is imperative. Thanks.
posted by
avant-garde
on March 13, 2007 at 1:28 PM
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malcolm
It's hard to live up to your own expectations, and manage the immense stress that comes. Sometimes, I feel as if I were doing a juggling act.
posted by
avant-garde
on March 13, 2007 at 1:28 PM
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Ciel
You have made some cogent points. I have thought a lot about this for some time. I now realize the mistakes that have been made. Things have improved much. Thanks for your support.
posted by
avant-garde
on March 13, 2007 at 1:27 PM
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Whacky
Thanks. Give Bo my best.
posted by
avant-garde
on March 13, 2007 at 1:26 PM
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TAPS
Yes, now you know. I'm relieved.
posted by
avant-garde
on March 13, 2007 at 1:25 PM
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Jomei
It's the biggest challenge I've ever tried to tackle.
posted by
avant-garde
on March 13, 2007 at 1:25 PM
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richinstore
That's very true, and sometimes difficult to swallow.
posted by
avant-garde
on March 13, 2007 at 1:24 PM
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OTA
Thanks. That's very nice of you to say.
posted by
avant-garde
on March 13, 2007 at 1:24 PM
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Chilitree
It has its ups and downs, for sure. Thanks.
posted by
avant-garde
on March 13, 2007 at 1:23 PM
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avant-garde
we've all slipped now and again, and it's at least partly because we want our children to grow up to be good people. Have patience; you will get there. I also read somewhere - which is good to remember - that we know our children for far longer as adults than we do as children. There
is light at the end of the tunnel.
posted by
mneme
on March 12, 2007 at 2:56 PM
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avant--
I know this isn't the same thing, but I have "lost it" and royally spanked my cats a time or two. Boy, did I feel like a fool.
posted by
Julia.
on March 12, 2007 at 11:47 AM
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Avant Gard
Such a special post. It is a difficult job, it is the most important job in all the world. We are all going to miss the mark sometimes. Acknowledgement, forgiveness and change are three constants necessary for the job. Be blessed. (You two are good parents I know that)
posted by
Justi
on March 12, 2007 at 6:52 AM
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Avant
We've all been known to "lose it" and inevitably we wallow in guilt because we know we could have or should have managed the situation better. As parents we're far too hard on ourselves... glad you were able to forgive both yourself and Lucas.
posted by
Troosha
on March 11, 2007 at 5:39 PM
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Great last line
and I have to admit that I get it very wrong a lot of the time. My worst enemy is tiredness which causes me to react badly too quickly and too often. You are doing your best and so am I. I wouldn't not be a dad for anything but I think I will still be learning on my dying day and maybe then the children will understand that I always tried to do the right thing but sometimes forgot to do the revision before the examination. I'm extremely impressed with your heartfelt posts and we're all hear to listen and help if we can. I reckon you're probably a truly great father and I bet your children think so too.
posted by
malcolm
on March 11, 2007 at 2:06 PM
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I think of all the parents who let their children carry on, act out and
simply be obnoxious, and congratulate you for being the kind of parent who believes kids can be better than that. 
Kids need and want to be contained, but have a drive to be uncontained. Containment has to be established with love and adamant insistance, but using anger creates fear and loss of trust. Parents have to be in control of themselves before they can be in control of their children.
I confess, I didn't grasp this until way late in the parenting game. I am grateful my kids have seen past my shortcomings, and still welcome me into their adult lives!
A half dozen episodes of one of those super-nanny type programs can be very eye-opening, especially as regards effective alternatives to corporal punishment, and how quickly kids respond to parental insistance positively-- though it may seem it will never happen, to the parent in the midst of re-training their child's expectations!
posted by
Ciel
on March 11, 2007 at 12:48 PM
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Yikes you had a hard day! It will get better!
A smile
from Bo =^..^= and one
from me!
posted by
Whacky
on March 10, 2007 at 7:13 PM
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avant-garde
Sounds like everyone in the family was stressed out one way or another from the illness. Those things happen. No one manages to be in complete control 100% of the time. It probably was a good learning experience for all of you. It probably is good for us here at Blogit to know that you are human. LOL
posted by
TAPS.
on March 10, 2007 at 6:06 PM
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Avant, my hat off to you. Where's the manual for these decisions eh?
posted by
Jomei
on March 10, 2007 at 5:56 PM
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avant
parenting is never an easy job. You have to live with it. Take care.
posted by
richinstore
on March 10, 2007 at 5:39 AM
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Avant
as one parent to another.. I can say with certainty.. your doing a great job!
posted by
Blue_feathers
on March 10, 2007 at 4:30 AM
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You have earned my respect...
much love and blessings to you.
posted by
Chilitree
on March 10, 2007 at 4:22 AM
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