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trisha
In spite of life's horrors, of which you seem to have had your share, you are a survivor and a helper and comfortor of others. It is so important to break the chain of family abuse problems. I wonder what kind of life your mother had as a child to make her the woman that she was and the parent she so clearly failed to be.
posted by
TAPS.
on May 11, 2007 at 11:39 AM
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THANK YOU
I am a mother of five children, have had my share of abuse and destruction from a sick father and husband,,, and like you and your sister, have fought against my demons all my life. But the hardest emotion of all I have suffered is feeling so guilty for those demons that they have to deal with now which make their lives so difficult as adults...that I have not been the mother I should have been to my children. So many times as I have struggled with myself and my chronic depression I was unable to give my kids the time and attention that I knew they needed, and I was the only one that could give them that as their father walked away from them and never looked back. Yet through it all, when I couldnt do anything else I would tell them I loved them and that I was so sorry that I was sick. I did not say a bad word to them or hurt them, and although many many days saw me in bed and unable to speak or show affection, I did not walk away.....my whole point is , after reading your story about your mother, I now realise that I have been carrying this guilt around unnecessarily all this time and that I was NOT a bad mother, after all, my kids now tell me how much they love me and THEY are now here for me when I need them- why should I still feel I have failed them?? !!.....THANKYOU for sharing and opening my eyes. What you have been through has made a difference to at least one other life. 
......Waterkat
posted by
WaterKat
on May 10, 2007 at 12:18 AM
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Trisha
Love her, let her know she is somebody. I know you probably do that already. Just continue to impress that upon her.
posted by
snubnose
on May 8, 2007 at 8:02 AM
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trisha
Some very intense emotional stuff. It must be hard to write about it at times - but there is a good side as well. I wish the best for you and yours.
Be well,
-smartdog
posted by
smartdog_670
on May 7, 2007 at 8:57 PM
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Very captivating and touch post .
I had tears in my eyes reading about your heart felt thoughts for your sister .
posted by
afzal50
on May 7, 2007 at 5:22 PM
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And to think, I thought my mother was bad.
Meanwhile, I thought strippers actually made pretty good money, though? I guess, maybe, it depends on the club's location.
I don't say that the bird is "good" or the bat is "bad."
But I will say this: at least the bird is less nude.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on May 7, 2007 at 1:09 PM
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trisha
How do you deal with it when your sister relapses? It must be so very hard. I'm terribly sorry.
posted by
FoliageGold
on May 7, 2007 at 1:00 PM
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