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The peace will come and go .... just keep your sanity ....
.... it doesn't matter anymore why it happened - it only matters that you make sure it doesn't happen again. Counseling is great, as long as you don't end up still angry and berating your ex to anyone who will listen - rebirth means leaving all that behind. Good luck my dear :)
posted by
VictoriaP
on March 27, 2008 at 9:09 PM
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is...not it...lmao
posted by
EmmaCunnan
on March 25, 2008 at 12:35 PM
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Counseling
I understand what it is like to be berated on the way to a counseling session, then as soon as you are called in, this strange angel appears, then the second it is over, back to the ass you know.
When you are together, nod a lot. Doesn't mean agreement, but you at least get a little respite. When you leave, come here and write until your eyes blur.
When you go by yourself, talk about the stages of grief. Divorce is the death of something you at least intended to promise to last forever. After the Big 'D', it is like a re-birth. You find your friends choosing their loyalty, including in-laws who often choose the ex over their own child. You both will go through the stages, but however you choose to see it, is what it will become, with or without stbx. You already care about how your children will handle it, but maybe you can remind yourself how important your sanity it in the end.
always here
posted by
EmmaCunnan
on March 25, 2008 at 12:33 PM
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hes finally gone????? if so CONGRATS and God bless you stay strong
posted by
quietguy7
on March 25, 2008 at 12:11 PM
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There will be ups and downs for a long time to come
I have been divorced for a little over 4 years now and there are times when I still feel responsible for my ex-wife.
I think it has little to do with the fact that we were married and a lot more to do with the fact that during our years together we became family to each other and now even without the husband wife thing there is still some of that.
To this day several times a year I still get a call when she needs to talk through her life with someone (she left the marriage - I don't think I ever would have, but that doesn't mean her decision wasn't a good one). I'm happy to be there for her, but don't imagine it will always be the case, I'm not sure at this point.
posted by
jefco
on March 24, 2008 at 1:44 PM
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It's good to have peace .
posted by
afzal50
on March 23, 2008 at 2:51 AM
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Peace is most essential. i am glad you have peace. sam
posted by
sam444
on March 22, 2008 at 3:36 PM
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