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elysianfields
No, no, I am the youngest! And yes, I have seen Hanging Up - once in the theatre and then several times off and on - on TV. I enjoyed it hugely and is SOOOO true of what happens between siblings. In my case, even truer, as Roma was taking care of my Dad who had a tumour for years, while I was away in the US. Many, many deep waters here! Thanks for your cheering.
posted by
Greenfields
on April 29, 2008 at 9:48 PM
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I agree...totally with all your suggestions, meeting alone --- away from husbands and children...just you 3 and of on neutral ground...very good. When my sister and I finally, after years go by, get together,(alone) it's when we simply revive our bond. Oh Greenfields, you're the wise one...did you say you're the eldest?
and there is a movie that I enjoyed with Dianne Keaton, Meg Ryan and Liza Kudrow, with Walter Matthau as their (dying) father...but this one had some interesting dynamics in it...It was called: Hanging Up ~ If you get a chance, take a peak. Have fun ~ will be looking forward to your next blog with keen interest. 
Elyse
posted by
elysianfields
on April 29, 2008 at 9:02 PM
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benzinha, what a lovely comment!
and so thoughtful too. I have many male friends, besides my husband. In this, I never missed having a brother (not having had one, don't know what it feels like!). I like your last sentence very much. Cheers.
posted by
Greenfields
on April 29, 2008 at 7:42 PM
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sam444, thanks
posted by
Greenfields
on April 29, 2008 at 7:39 PM
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jmh256, really?
Isn't that something? Any plans to come together?
posted by
Greenfields
on April 29, 2008 at 7:38 PM
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ZenMom
it seems that it's so easy for misundstandings to be created - due to our insecurities. The real hard work is in making sure that the relationships are kept healthy and loving. Yes?
posted by
Greenfields
on April 29, 2008 at 7:37 PM
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vogue, thank you for your comments.
posted by
Greenfields
on April 29, 2008 at 7:36 PM
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greenfields, women together are very different from other groups.
My sisters and I meet to discuss our children and our husbands ( I have no husband, so I discuss theirs) and we are good and naughty and funny and sad and all things true, because we are sisters alone.
Our mother taught us not to speak if we had nothing nice to say, so we focus on niceties and only speak of insanities when we must, or we'd go mad. If someone speaks ill of a man or child or other family member, we leave it at the table and do not take it to heart nor home with us.
A wife might hate a husband one day, speak of it and then adore him the next and we keep that in mind....we do not let confidences change our opinions too mightily.
Our mother is a saint now in her behavior and so we all fake being saints until it becomes more real. It is possible to sow only love and positive energy and I believe that you, greenfields, do your best at this and that it helps your family enormously.
Two of my three sisters adore each other and we other two are women apart, loved and kind but not as close as the two baby sisters. We had to act more like mothers in our youth and they just got to have fun. It has made us all different.
But, sisters are treasures, family treasures, just not made of the same precious materials. We also adore our baby brothers and speak to them in confidence, but not always, because men feel a need to act upon secrets and women can just hear them and sympathize and let them go.
Sisters are such a blessing and whatever we get from them in time and affection must be enough. What a thoughtful blog post. Thank you.
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benzinha
on April 29, 2008 at 2:13 PM
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I would think the families would encourage this get-together. You are right to want to interact with your siblings independently of others. I like what you are doing, it just feels healthy! sam
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sam444
on April 29, 2008 at 1:02 PM
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My family hasn't been together since my parents divorced fifteen years ago. I agree that face-to-face time is very important.
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jmh256
on April 29, 2008 at 11:17 AM
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Maybe enough time has passed and your meeting will be a positive experience (for you both). What's a shame is that, as you wrote, these hostile feelings are passed down to the next generation and, one should do whatever possible to prevent that from happening. I hope it goes well.
posted by
ZenMom
on April 29, 2008 at 10:18 AM
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Absolutely. Be it sisters or girl friends, there is nothing better than a personal get together and iron out all the difficulties. Have fun.
posted by
vogue
on April 29, 2008 at 9:32 AM
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