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Please VOGUE, know you can chat here...I may be late in responding however due to busyness but...I will check ---- I know what you are about to go through. I can empathize. My mother passed in 2003 but I was the lead and the only one for a while that had to take care of my Mamma's affairs ~ and there were days Angel, I just couldn't keep it all together, only pulling it together by God's Grace... is all I remember in how I got through. I am moved to tears for you ~ Much Love and yes, please keep in
touch. xoxoxo Elyse
posted by
elysianfields
on May 11, 2008 at 8:11 PM
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Vogue, I am so sorry that you had to do that alone. I wish I could come help you.
Your mother's cardigan will surely be a wonderful things to have. ~Peace and Blessings, OTA
posted by
Blue_feathers
on May 11, 2008 at 3:28 PM
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vogue
When my Mom died several years ago, I wasn't there, though my brothers were. I flew in for the funeral, but they had arranged everything. To this day I feel a little sad that I could not play much of a role, and, strange as it may sound, envy you a little bit that you can do for
your Mom what I couldn't do for
mine...
posted by
Nautikos
on May 11, 2008 at 4:44 AM
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If you read Conversations with My Mum
You know that my relationship with Mum is not easy and never has been. You have to make allowances as they get older but dear G-d mother can be so 'politely' rude and hurtful. That is why I do not view it as compliment when people say I am like her. We are poles apart.
But on the other hand they are our mothers and we love them dearly and miss them. 
Sorry for your loss.
posted by
Norwood
on May 11, 2008 at 3:51 AM
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Find one really good memory,
one that makes you smile, and hold it with you while you carry out the duty you have to carry out. Every time you sigh, and sit down and think, I can't do this, go back to that memory and smile. Every time you shed a tear, go back to that memory and smile. You'll get through it, we always do, we have to.
And you're right about sometimes wanting a partner to share things with. That's the downside of living alone. But when you are feeling better, think about all the good reasons for not having a partner, there are plenty of them too!
posted by
shahdlou
on May 11, 2008 at 1:56 AM
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I feel your pain.....
Even though my mom is still living, she's 84 years old and I have been
blessed to have her for so long I can't imagine life without her. She's
my best friend. Of course I do have five brothers and seven sisters that
I haven't been very close to lately. We live so far apart. My prayers and
thoughts are with you this mothers day. Your friends at Blogit are as close
as your keyboard. Be blessed.
posted by
Kolekshuns
on May 10, 2008 at 10:38 PM
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Vogue, make it a good experience
and you know you can if you want too. Ask a friend to join you if you can. I have done this in the past (asked freinds to join me and joined them). Focus on the good times and put to bed the sad memories. Leave something positive behind in the town she died, even if you have no more ties there. This would be important for you (Sorry! I put n my therapist hat!!!)
posted by
Greenfields
on May 10, 2008 at 9:07 PM
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Vogue
I'm so sorry to hear that. My prayers are with you.
posted by
Loribeth215
on May 10, 2008 at 6:57 PM
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Vogue
My condolences luv, that is a terrible loss for you. Keep you chin up and God Bless you.
posted by
WileyJohn
on May 10, 2008 at 6:11 PM
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Re:
I know it will be two years since my mom died, but dont give up celebrating this day
posted by
Lanetay
on May 10, 2008 at 8:55 AM
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vogue
allthough my brother treated me poorly while my mom got worse and past away, I am glad he is the one that took care of all her items. But she had many things that were antique, I have no idea what he did with them. She passed away it will be two years in July, 1 month from being 91.
posted by
Lanetay
on May 10, 2008 at 8:54 AM
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Hugs....
Mother's Day must be tough for you. You have my sympathies.
posted by
metalrat
on May 10, 2008 at 8:12 AM
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I feel this post all too well. My mom died about 2 years ago and I refuse to celebrate Mother's day even though I am a mom. I plan to visit her gravesight on Mother's day. My sister was the executor and she went through the same heartfelt feelings as you. I wish you all the best. From my
to your
.
posted by
cmhnord
on May 10, 2008 at 8:04 AM
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CYBER HUG!!! I am so sorry this is a painful time for you! sam
posted by
sam444
on May 10, 2008 at 8:04 AM
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