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My dad used to tell me this, when I was feeling down, or just needed a hug:
I love you, just because you are. Not because of what you do, or how well you do it. Not because of what you might become, or what you have been. I love you just because you are you, and that's enough.
posted by
Sira890
on June 3, 2008 at 10:42 AM
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azur
it isn't easy always being the one to be there, is it? I hope you are having some down time now and then.. you've reminded me how once, while quite largely pregnant with my second, I somehow twisted my knee climbing up to clean a window .. I called out to my four year old daughter, who was amazing. just having another warm (though small) body to hold was enough.
posted by
mneme
on June 2, 2008 at 4:08 PM
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Overwhelmed. Yes,
I understand. I think this is why sometimes people attach themselves to television. It's a needless object, which sometimes takes you to places you only wish you were. I really dislike watching tv, but I can see why it is so attractive to children. Not that this has anything to do with your blog, but it's what I thought of. I hope you get a little break. Have a nice weekend.
posted by
Flumpystalls3000
on May 30, 2008 at 9:53 AM
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You are doing good!
So here's A rose
and a smile
from me! =^. .^= Bo too!
posted by
Whacky
on May 29, 2008 at 7:01 PM
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yup, sometimes you just have to stand in front of someone and say,
" I need a long and sympathetic hug today, a sincerely empathetic and friendly hug from you today, then you can get back to business, but not before my hug!"
It is scary to ask, scary to admit the need, scary to await the other's decision to hug or not to hug, but it must be spoken out loud periodically, for everyone's good.
Tell each person you meet in only one day and then, get over it.....because we women are only allowed just so much time for our needs, sigh.
I remember, way back when I was younger, needing that understanding and looking around me and finding no one but my mom and fearing admitting to her, but, I did and she did hug and it felt better.
I am so glad that I hardly ever need any hugs or reassurances now, but I have turned into shoe leather, old tough shoe leather from the lack of hugs in that lifetime....
posted by
benzinha
on May 29, 2008 at 6:37 PM
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(((((((((((((((Azur))))))))))))))))))))
I know very well the power of hugs
They really ought to be part of the recommended daily allowance
And enforced with fervor by the love police
BTW You are amazing!
posted by
mysteria
on May 29, 2008 at 8:21 AM
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Azur, you're a wonderful writer and an island of sanity in a tumultuous sea
you've given inspiration to fellow writers and made sense of chaos. If there's no gratitude or grand awards ceremony going in your household it's because because you exude tranquil confidence and stability. There's nothing wrong with telling your kid "I need a hug." Not only would a hug make you feel a hundred percent better, it will do wonders for the kid -- a two-fer. And meanwhile, there's long-distance hugs like Taps' and a side order of envy from those of us who aren't facing deadlines and having to get so much done. Way to go, Azur!
Keep writing!!!
posted by
Pat_B
on May 28, 2008 at 6:10 AM
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We guys are kinda dense, remember.....
Somtimes its nice to be told our hugs are wanted, too.
posted by
majroj
on May 28, 2008 at 5:12 AM
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Azur
Accept a hug from an understanding old man, Azur.
posted by
johnmacnab
on May 28, 2008 at 4:41 AM
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(((((((((((AZUR))))))))))))
That's a hug. I know its not the one you really want. You need it from real arms, and you need real whispers from ones you love telling you how important you are and how much you are appreciated. But, even though that's the best I can do, it is from my heart.
posted by
TAPS.
on May 27, 2008 at 5:02 PM
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CYBER HUG TO THE NTH DEGREE FOR MY AZUR!!!!
ALL MY LOVE AND ADORATION BECAUSE I KNOW YOU WORK VERY HARD AND VERY UNSELFISHLY! SAM
posted by
sam444
on May 27, 2008 at 3:05 PM
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