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Re: Sira
Thanks Kaboom! After talking about it (both here and with my mom) I'm feeling much better about accepting the spoiling, and not feeling guilty about her feeling guilty!
posted by
Sira890
on August 19, 2008 at 9:28 PM
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Re: Sira
Naut,
I am enjoying the "icing", don't get me wrong. I mean, really: what girl doesn't like a bit of spoiling every now and then?
I agree with you and the wise Corbin--in the long run, I'm better off.
posted by
Sira890
on August 19, 2008 at 9:27 PM
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Re: When I was growing up.....
Thank you for sharing this Corbin! It's the first time I've heard things from a younger siblings perspective, after they've grown up and learned some hard lessons.
And I think you're right--ultimately, I was the lucky one.
posted by
Sira890
on August 19, 2008 at 9:25 PM
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Re: It is very complex situation
Matters concerning emotions and family politics are always complex!
posted by
Sira890
on August 19, 2008 at 9:22 PM
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Re: The oldest kid is the one parents make all the mistakes with.
Very true Pat. And now that I think about it, mom hardly ever goes out of her way to spend time with my little sister these days. I guess she got all Dani-ed out over the years!
posted by
Sira890
on August 19, 2008 at 9:21 PM
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Re: Speaking from the point of view of a mom
We had a great chat Bel! Thanks for reading
posted by
Sira890
on August 19, 2008 at 9:19 PM
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Sira
you turned out better, dear, than your little sister, yes, plain and simple, you did.
You can enjoy your mom's 'spoiling' to its fullest!
posted by
KaBooM62
on August 19, 2008 at 5:26 AM
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Sira
There may be something to the notion that your Mom's is trying to 'make up' for things she thinks you didn't get as a kid, but I think Corbin is absolutely right - in reality you got the better deal! In a sense, you got the cake, she got more of the icing! So now, if your Mom wants to decorate you with a bit of icing, just enjoy it...
posted by
Nautikos
on August 18, 2008 at 6:59 AM
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When I was growing up.....
I was 8 years younger than my brother.......and he had gotten all of the controls and rules, while I got all of the goodies.....new GTO, no problem, college, of course. And it took me a decade to recover from it. My brother was level headed, building a solid financial base, land, etc. Me, I wanted to see the USA and go from state to state working in the world of Politics.....with nothing to show for it.....it took a few wake up calls to make me realize i needed to make something of myself, by myself.....
Trust me....Your mom gave you the better deal in the long run.....and even though she may feel guilty about it......maybe a word or two would take care of that guilt. But let her get some enjoyment out of this new direction. This was a special read!
posted by
Corbin_Dallas
on August 16, 2008 at 6:00 AM
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It is very complex situation
posted by
Kayzzaman
on August 16, 2008 at 5:09 AM
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The oldest kid is the one parents make all the mistakes with.
When a second one comes along, they've learned which battles are worth fighting, so your perception that your younger sis got more is right on target. My little sis was 3 years younger, she's also demanding and willful. After awhile a mother comes to appreciate and feel grateful to her more cooperative child, and after all the hoo-ha and chaos of the growing up years, she's got time to spend with the one she wants to be around... :)pat
posted by
Pat_B
on August 16, 2008 at 4:08 AM
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Speaking from the point of view of a mom
I think that phone call would mean the world to her.
posted by
Bel_
on August 15, 2008 at 10:57 PM
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