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How tragic and very sad for you and your cousin....
posted by
Troosha
on August 5, 2009 at 10:27 AM
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My condolences.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on August 2, 2009 at 4:09 PM
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I lost my dad to cancer. He dad a lung-type. They operated and he was ok for 2 years. Then it went to his brain too. I've also lost many friends to cancer. It is a great enemy.
posted by
mariposa75
on July 31, 2009 at 7:43 AM
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So sorry for your loss.
posted by
Amanda__
on July 31, 2009 at 5:56 AM
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This is too close to home for commenting my friend.......
suffice to say the anger dies down, the pain recedes, but most of the questions remain unanswered; I wish you strength to get through this difficult time; many blessings and thanks
posted by
mariaki
on July 31, 2009 at 4:48 AM
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Symphony - This brought sadness and tears to my eyes because I am doing exactly what your cousin did to her dad. I am so close to my dad and he's undergoing chemo for colon cancer right now. He needs blood transfusion ever so often as a result. I hold him and hug him all the time and I really hope when the day of reckoning comes, I will be able to withstand it. It is a nightmare and I feel for you. There are no answers, no matter how hard we try to find it as to the why of it. And after reading this and knowing there are so many out there who have gone through this - it just makes me realize that life cannot be taken for granted. There are days you smile and days the sadness overtakes and consumes those smiles. I think just be thankful for the time you had with him. I am sorry to hear this.
posted by
shobana
on July 30, 2009 at 10:10 PM
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I lost my mom to cancer and didn't even have time to process she had it!
It is maddening and the saddest thing to go through...I feel for your friend and for you, watching on. May you feel better soon...sorry to hear about all this.
posted by
Ariala
on July 30, 2009 at 6:35 PM
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I lost my dearest friend and brother-in-law that quick! She will and you will learn to cope and live with it! Time is the healer and just be there for each other! I have you in my prayers! sam
posted by
sam444
on July 30, 2009 at 6:15 PM
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sorry you are going through this you and your cousin, sometimes people think we know something when we have been neglected and never told makes it worse. Head up and try to smile
posted by
Lanetay
on July 30, 2009 at 3:22 PM
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its own not it's own- smile
posted by
Azur
on July 30, 2009 at 2:39 PM
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Symphony, this kind of thing is very tough to deal with but you both will
My father was diagnosed with cancer, we looked after him entirely at home, it went to his brain. This took a couple of short months. He was 47. In saying that I am not saying i am an expert in this or have answers.It was just my experience.
Yes, you should certainly seek from the doctors as best an explanation as they can give. And acknowledge all the emotions you feel. All are valid. Acknowledge them and let them pass.
However, somehow it should be acknowledged that doctors sometimes cannot answer perfectly. They can make their best estimate of
what happened. They make the best decision they can in the moment. In short they are human, and when cancer takes hold of a person
and spreads, it has a life of it's own, defying people and medicine. No two cases are exactly the same.
Your uncle sounds like a very loving and kind man. And your cousin and yourself should always remember that he loved you both,
and he would only want you to live life in the best way you can. So do not let life stop but live life in full acknowledgement, joy, and
respect of his love and hopes and for you both.
posted by
Azur
on July 30, 2009 at 2:38 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss... What can one say at a time like this... Wods seem so inadequate when pain is so deep, so recent. I can tell you that if you have questions you need to talk to the Doctor in charge... He has to explain to you what went on... and the whys as far as he knows them so that you can get some closure.Your cousin is going to need you. and you her. The best y ou can do for her and for yourself is to let time take the edge of the pain off Think the gift that his life was and not about his passing I have always liked this quote... though I don't remember who exactly it is from: "Life is not about how many breaths we take but about how many timesit takes our breath away" G-d bless you and your cousin and give you the strength to endure this . If I can help in any way please E-mail me... anytime. xoxo
posted by
Sinome
on July 30, 2009 at 12:58 PM
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