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It's a bit like asking if all good food has to have salt in it.
I can think of many kinds of relationships of true worth that are not much-endowed with what is generally meant by "love." The question might be--Can a relationship be of value without love in it. And I would answer that question--Yes!
Of course, besides 'love' it is necessary to define what is a relationship of 'true worth' in order to answer the question.
posted by
Ciel
on August 29, 2009 at 9:18 AM
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Are not all of those qualities an essence of Love in one way or another. Is not Love the creator of all that is good?
posted by
Nileangel
on August 22, 2009 at 1:37 PM
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Re: I think they all matter
and i think you are on the ball
thanks much.
posted by
bythewindowsill
on August 9, 2009 at 12:54 AM
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Re: All of these, and more, are ingredients...
ash, these are intensely wise words, thankyou so very much. and you are most welcome, as are your very uplifting posts. thanks again.
posted by
bythewindowsill
on August 9, 2009 at 12:53 AM
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Re: "Relationships of Value"
what avalid point. we so often disregard our points of view, don't we? thanks immensely
posted by
bythewindowsill
on August 9, 2009 at 12:49 AM
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i am glad to note this calia. very very interesting take, thank you very much. and i totally agree, the loving relationships are certainly the best ...
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bythewindowsill
on August 9, 2009 at 12:47 AM
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ok, NAUT! sorry!!! ha ha ha
posted by
bythewindowsill
on August 9, 2009 at 12:45 AM
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so love is what you think of it? hmmmm..... and does the other person involved have to agree with this definition? i wonder.
thanks RASSE
posted by
bythewindowsill
on August 9, 2009 at 12:43 AM
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Re: love is essential.
as simple as that
. thanks Mandalee.
posted by
bythewindowsill
on August 9, 2009 at 12:40 AM
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they were wise
thanks a ton bill's roost.
posted by
bythewindowsill
on August 9, 2009 at 12:39 AM
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Re: I feel that love must be an ingredient. But sometimes I don't know whether
maybe it is so used because LOVE IS actually intrinsic to all our instincts? and it is misused as much also because like all things omnipresent, even this leaves much to ponder about. what say?
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bythewindowsill
on August 9, 2009 at 12:37 AM
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Re: Bythewindowsill
that's a whole of lot of stuff to take in there. thanks shobana,
posted by
bythewindowsill
on August 9, 2009 at 12:31 AM
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you got it. thanks yellow
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bythewindowsill
on August 9, 2009 at 12:26 AM
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thanks sammie
posted by
bythewindowsill
on August 9, 2009 at 12:25 AM
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Re: respect goes hand in heart with love in a relationship
you would know
thanks kabu. hope you enjoyed yours. the sun is out here and feels wonderful :)
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bythewindowsill
on August 9, 2009 at 12:10 AM
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great!! thanks Soul
. i completely agree. i guess i can assume your acceptance for love as essential too, then? in some form?
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bythewindowsill
on August 9, 2009 at 12:06 AM
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clear thought as always elinjo
. thankyou. but can anything be valued until there is a love for something concerning it at some level? its the shades that come in here, don't you think?
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bythewindowsill
on August 9, 2009 at 12:03 AM
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many thanks TAPS. you are quite right. is that why, then, true Love is such a rare aquisition? and is that why so many fear to commit to it? and is that why, those that have it, feel invincible?
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bythewindowsill
on August 8, 2009 at 11:58 PM
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it is the shades that confuse sometimes, eh? when one cannot be made distinct from the other - respect rescues then, sustains other times. thanks snow
and if there is a place with infinite shades and tints, it is india. how can i not love her?
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bythewindowsill
on August 8, 2009 at 11:51 PM
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Re: troosha
taste
is important, isn't it? that's when the wholesomeness stands a greater chance to reach us. thanks, Troosha
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bythewindowsill
on August 8, 2009 at 11:47 PM
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I think they all matter
posted by
malcolm
on August 8, 2009 at 11:17 AM
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All of these, and more, are ingredients...
in a relationship. The degree of intensity of each varies from person to person, situation to situation. It is only the prolonged absence of some of them that causes long-lasting friction. Open & timely communication is the key.
Thank you for the nice comment on my entry. Good to have you back :)! - Ash
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ash_pradhan
on August 4, 2009 at 4:23 PM
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"Relationships of Value"
Hmmm. I think I'd start with respect for
all points of view, including your own, of course....
posted by
WindTapper
on August 4, 2009 at 8:08 AM
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You've really inspired some deep thinking.
Some of the comments are so interesting and uplifting! I tend to agree with the "reason, season, or a lifetime" poem. Everyone that you meet is there for a reason, but not always there to stay. Sometimes it's just to point you in a different direction than you may have gone on your own. Of course, the loving relationships are the best ones, though.
posted by
calia14
on August 3, 2009 at 8:51 PM
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Bythe
No!
posted by
Nautikos
on August 3, 2009 at 7:29 PM
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I think there are many different levels of friendship. And "love" is somehow a part of all of them....it all depends on your definition of love.
posted by
RASSE
on August 3, 2009 at 7:28 PM
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love is essential.
posted by
Amanda__
on August 2, 2009 at 8:07 AM
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Relationships range from friendship, casual love like my protagonist and her boyfriend to outright passionate romantic love. Indeed the ancient Greeks distinguished different types of love. BCA, Bill’s RJJst
posted by
BC-A
on August 2, 2009 at 8:06 AM
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I feel that love must be an ingredient. But sometimes I don't know whether
I do not know the meaning of this much used and misused word.
posted by
Straightforward
on August 1, 2009 at 7:49 PM
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Bythewindowsill
What an intriguing question! Just a little story first..
Many years ago there was a guy who told a girl that he loved her and she asked him what he meant by love, what love was to him and why her? He told her that it was her ability to make him laugh! She makes him so happy and he wants to be by her side always.
I think love is everything you mentioned, even sacrifice and more but the most important is to make the other happy. You need to see the lighter side of things with a good sense of humor and a touch of gentleness. Just like in Kabu & Wiley John's relationship, they are like kids just teasing each other and falling in love over and over again. That is love in my opinion. At the end of it all happiness is what love brings and is and the rest takes second place. (just my opinion).
posted by
shobana
on August 1, 2009 at 7:21 AM
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Great Question.
The changing shades of love should be there through it all.
posted by
yellowrose55
on July 31, 2009 at 9:59 PM
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I think it encompasses all that you mentioned! sam
posted by
sam444
on July 31, 2009 at 9:14 PM
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respect goes hand in heart with love in a relationship
Have a great weekend love.
posted by
Kabu
on July 31, 2009 at 8:55 PM
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Camaraderie and acceptance.... those I think are crucial!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on July 31, 2009 at 6:50 PM
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I agree with you Nita about the shades of meaning and respect. Collegial relations are very valuable, but these do not necessarily include love.
posted by
elinjo
on July 31, 2009 at 1:27 PM
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I think that love is/includes all that you mention and is necessary to sustain any relationship, be it family, lover, friends.
posted by
TAPS.
on July 31, 2009 at 1:22 PM
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"Love" has so many shades of meaning...and must include respect too. Good to see you back; hope you're enjoying India! Nita.
posted by
Nita09
on July 31, 2009 at 9:43 AM
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Maybe it’s like a tossed salad – one ingredient doesn’t or can’t stand alone.
posted by
Troosha
on July 31, 2009 at 9:41 AM
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