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My take on this question you posed makes me think he or she was being conative, rather than cognitive or affective. I read an article by Mortimer Adler once where he claimed these three thinks exhaust all the ways our intellects can operate. By Conative he means appetitive or funneling into himself. Cognitive would be like business talk. Affective is what you wanted him to be, dicussing the affects of the world upon himself. He was judging you, but not yet ready to reason with you. I could only speculate as to his motives. Thanks for sharing- Chuck
posted by
Crittergno
on October 27, 2009 at 8:38 PM
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It could be their personality. I tend to be an open book, but others are quite reserved.
posted by
mariposa75
on October 26, 2009 at 6:40 PM
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Straightforward
Once a distant cousin sister of mine who had then recently got married, I was accompanying her in a bus on our journey home from her in-laws place. She excitedly started a conversation about who were who's where she was married. I wasn't really interested and pretended to sleep. She then asked me to share about myself. I being somewhat reticent, couldn't, much. A similar situation arose with my girlfriend. Both were disappointed. Probably girls by their very nature, are more inquisitive than boys, I'm not sure though. Even in my blog I don't write in the first person.
posted by
anib
on October 24, 2009 at 10:39 PM
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When there's someone I consider to be close to, I'll respect who and how they are. Myself, I tend
to share to much. Listening more and talking less would do me good.
posted by
yellowrose55
on October 22, 2009 at 12:28 PM
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I think this depends on whether the key people in your life have respected your privacy or not. There are some people I can share my thoughts with and some I can't. The latter are those who are too intrusive, or too keen to tell me 'important' news about others, or only really interested in talking about themselves.
posted by
elinjo
on October 22, 2009 at 11:11 AM
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The ideas you propose are definitely some reasons. Some people just really keep to themselves.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on October 19, 2009 at 4:45 PM
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I don't think there is a clear cut answer! I have a friend that shares when ready! She is just a very private person and I accept that! Some get upset but it is important to be a friend and be there not to know everything in my humble opinion! But I did think the later part of your entry was on the money for a reason! There are people I would never knew anything about me, gossip-mongers for example! I know it would never get back to me the way it left! sam
posted by
sam444
on October 19, 2009 at 3:32 PM
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Straightforward
I love to talk. In any event I’ll take that relationship. Too many people live on another planet. BC-A,Bill’s RJLst
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BC-A
on October 19, 2009 at 4:56 AM
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