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elysianfields
....wait....are you....a Godfather fan?...I'm not gonna lie...writing about it helps. And you've pegged me right on the venting...exactly what I was doing. I almost deleted it later in the day and replaced it with a happier post...but then...I decided to allow y'all to see my dark side. Like I said, the Bipolar Writer strikes again (self-diagnosed)! Ha ha ha. Next mood swing, eight o'clock....!
posted by
Darson
on November 11, 2009 at 8:23 PM
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you go ahead and
(vent) and get it out ... 'til you want to
fawget about it Elyse (I promise the older you get, the more it goes away)
posted by
elysianfields
on November 11, 2009 at 7:54 PM
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TAPS
...Well it's certainly nice to know I'm not alone, that's for sure. Bummer that we had to go through that but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, eh?
posted by
Darson
on November 11, 2009 at 9:17 AM
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As Strickgold said, "I don't miss what went with the money..." There must be a lot of us around.
posted by
TAPS.
on November 11, 2009 at 9:08 AM
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elinjo
...Some days are braver than others, that's for sure. Thank you for the compliment, elinjo. I sure appreciate it, I really do. Have a lovely day, my friend.
posted by
Darson
on November 11, 2009 at 8:51 AM
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StrickGold
...there's a price to pay for everything, isn't there...sometimes it's just not worth it. Happy to be relating to others that have been there and done that. Solidarity!
posted by
Darson
on November 11, 2009 at 8:48 AM
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Wow, you are a courageous lady and a very good writer!
posted by
elinjo
on November 11, 2009 at 8:28 AM
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I couldnt agree more
Reading this was like reading my life story. I dont miss what went with the money at all!!!!!!!!!!!
posted by
StrickGold
on November 11, 2009 at 8:12 AM
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Pat B
That is such good advice, Pat. And I know that is true, that what goes around comes around...I've seen it a bit in my lifetime...regarding those that at one point I couldn't WAIT to see them 'get theirs'....but it never happened when I was still angry at them, or when I wanted it to...it happened once I'd softened, and then it pained me to see someone else hurting like that, like they'd hurt me...because I know what that felt like...and it was rotten. And poor Mike is having some hard lessons lately. He's not allowing it to soften him yet, so I fear they'll be repeated in increasing intensity until he gets it. I hope that will be soon, for his sake. He has so much good in him, and such potential to be extremely well-loved. We humans are funny creatures. And verrry good advice not to take satisfaction...I just kinda feel...sad. Ya know?
posted by
Darson
on November 11, 2009 at 7:40 AM
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dancin grandma
Hey! Cool! Let's start a club. Bipolar Writer's International....with t-shirts that say, "I love you!" on the front, and "I hate you!" on the back....What fun!
posted by
Darson
on November 11, 2009 at 7:34 AM
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lustorlove
Okay, have you ever watched that movie OVERBOARD, with Goldie Hawn? My favorite, favorite line in that show is when the butler tells her something to the effect of, 'Rarely does a person get to see both sides. You, madame, have had that rare privilege...' or something like that. She was wealthy, and she was poor, all in the same lifetime....I can honestly say that while it was nice to buy off-road vehicles for the kids for their birthdays, I get a lot more mileage out of them knowing I worked really hard to get them a new pair of jeans they weren't expecting. It is SOOO the thought that counts, not the rest of it. Thank you so much for reading "L.O.L."! (Sorry, everyone I enjoy gets a nickname, eventually.)
posted by
Darson
on November 11, 2009 at 7:32 AM
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abanerjee
Wow, good thought! You're ahead of the game and wiser than the rest of us to just avoid that issue altogether. And that thing with the brain....sounds extremely unpleasant...!
posted by
Darson
on November 11, 2009 at 7:28 AM
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FormerStudentIntern
Yes it can. Unecessary tension. But if that's where your treasure is; your heart follows...as we well know. Thanks, FSI!
posted by
Darson
on November 11, 2009 at 7:26 AM
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hardilaziz
Amen to THAT. If that's what's in your head, there's not much room for anything else....love, kindness, laughter, etc....it can be all-encompassing. Not good.
posted by
Darson
on November 11, 2009 at 7:25 AM
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lovelyladymonk
...You can say THAT again....! I would never dream of saying such things A) out loud and B) with an audience and C) in front of my own dad, who by all rights maybe should've clobbered him! If that were my kids.....wow, there'd have been a discussion. He has to walk on eggshells to even get this kid to answer the phone, so I guess I understand...sorta....nah, my kids would still get it.
posted by
Darson
on November 11, 2009 at 7:23 AM
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All I can think of to say, by way of comforting you about the
thoughtless and cutting remarks of the stepson -- at that age they're totally stupid and self-involved, half the time they think with their genitals and the other half they don't think at all. He's got a few life lessons coming. Try not to take satisfaction when what goes around comes around to him.
posted by
Pat_B
on November 11, 2009 at 6:10 AM
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Money
I love reading your posts! Makes me feel like I've known you all my life--especially after your 'bipolar" comments below! Now I know what is wrong with me. I'm a bipolar writer!
posted by
dancin_grandma
on November 11, 2009 at 3:50 AM
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A very true and clear picture of life
I know I have been on welfare and been up there with a decent income and have been alone for 25 years without a man and now I am retired and almost at the welfare level but I am fortunate to have a good retirement but not enough to take care of my kids.Money cant buy you happiness for sure
posted by
Lanetay
on November 10, 2009 at 10:59 PM
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Hey Darson
Money can often cause gastroenteritis of the brain, and so I haven't any
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posted by
anib
on November 10, 2009 at 10:02 PM
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Money can cause so much tension as can be seen here.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on November 10, 2009 at 7:38 PM
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Money becomes a nuisance if it get into your head and begins to rule the mind!
posted by
hardilaziz
on November 10, 2009 at 7:19 PM
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Amy...
WOW, the balls of some people!...
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on November 10, 2009 at 5:09 PM
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WileyJohn
....sounds to me like there's a few of us that not only have been there, we OWN the t-shirt factory! Ha ha ha ...! ....wish I hadn't been there and done that....perhaps a good tee shirt would be, "Been There. Done That. Didn't Like It."
posted by
Darson
on November 10, 2009 at 2:40 PM
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Darson
You've been there and bought the 'T' shirt girl, another great soul written sharing post. God Bless you.
posted by
WileyJohn
on November 10, 2009 at 2:34 PM
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Sunnybeach7
I'm sorry, Sunny! I was just telling Kabu via email that I was having one of 'those' days. Feeling rather serious, I'm afraid. Writing helped and I'll be better by tomorrow! It's always fun to watch a rather 'bipolar' blogger! Now she's happy; now she's not....round and round we go! I'm not really bipolar (at least it hasn't been diagnosed, let's put it that way, shall we?) Just a down day after so many good ones. Don't know why! It's GORGEOUS outside!
Thanks for reading, Sunny Seven!
posted by
Darson
on November 10, 2009 at 1:06 PM
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Wow! That is a lot of writing there. lol ;-)
I'm not sure that I agree that everyone learns that lesson in life about money.
I think some never do, but spend their whole lives trying to hold on to thinking that money, money and more money will bring them happiness.
It's a sad way to live, I agree.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on November 10, 2009 at 1:02 PM
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Kabu
My mouth is hanging open over the fact that YOU had to give HIM a settlement...what sort of a guy would even take it? AND an affair on top of that? I wish the law were that whoever cheats forfeits all the community property...now wouldn't that be interesting??? Holy Cow, Kabu...you and I certainly could talk for hours and hours....comparing notes. I wish we had something fun in common, like, haircolor or love of corduroy or some other random thing...other than this. Wouldn't wish this sort of thing on anyone. But what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, eh?
posted by
Darson
on November 10, 2009 at 11:56 AM
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That's it....we are kin you are formally adopted by Kabu.We could talk
over the top of each other for hours. OMG.I was checked out once too more than once actually....the man was borrowing fromme AND get this ....I am the one who had to give him a settlement last year when the divorce became final....AND he admitted to a 10 year affair. Your step son just wants Dad's money for himself. $%^^&*&
posted by
Kabu
on November 10, 2009 at 11:20 AM
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