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Elinjo
I am no stranger to tears these days (having lost my mother only a month ago). They come at the strangest moments sometimes but I have learned that there’s no need to choke them back. In fact, they can be extremely healing. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
posted by
Troosha
on November 12, 2009 at 8:35 AM
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Elinjo
How very sad...To lose a parent at such a young age must be devastating. I 'lost' my mother in a different way, through divorce, which wasn't quite as bad. Also, I was little older, thirteen...
posted by
Nautikos
on November 12, 2009 at 5:45 AM
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thanks for sharing this look into your past. I know
it must have been hard for you to do so. My heart
goes out to you.
posted by
Samantha39
on November 11, 2009 at 8:33 PM
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I can't imagine losing a parent at such a young age, especially when one is not allowed to grieve.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on November 11, 2009 at 8:25 PM
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How sad for you sometimes adults just forget that children have real
feelings and need to mourn their own way.The giggling I guess was just a formof emotional relief.It is difficult forme to cry I find it really hard. I was taught not to cry not to make a scene.
posted by
Kabu
on November 11, 2009 at 2:31 PM
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Elinjo
I'm sorry that your dad died and you couldn't cry straight away for as long as you needed.
I cried today for my brother, and he died in 1944. Thank you for sharing with us luv
posted by
WileyJohn
on November 11, 2009 at 12:45 PM
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your dad must of been pretty young when he passed, how sad this was for you
posted by
Lanetay
on November 11, 2009 at 8:29 AM
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Excellent writing of a hard memory.
And you're right about the blessing or kindness in tears.
posted by
Pat_B
on November 11, 2009 at 5:52 AM
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Betty, you have recalled the past so vividly and with so much emotion....tears are cathartic, as is expressing oneself, and I hope putting it down has helped. I hope you and Ina and family are doing well. Nita
posted by
Nita09
on November 11, 2009 at 5:35 AM
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Your crystal clear memories of your youth, were well written.
Betty,
My heart cries for what was the overshadowing sadness of your early formative years. I am amazed that you didn't turn out to be a bitter, miserable and vindictive person, instead of the lovely, loving, and gracious lady that we all know as Elinjo. You have overcome so much, in the way of adversity, pain, and toxic family life, it is surprising that you remember any of your childhood fondly. I think that even had you grown up in a wealthy, overly-indulgent family, you would never have grown up to become a spoiled, petulant diva type of woman, because you were born blessed with intelligence, empathy, and a generous spirit.
Add to that, the fact that you are an extremely talented writer and storyteller, and it is no surprise that you have a large audience of readers, eager to have you spin us another yarn.
What a pleasure it is to be a part of the blogit community, with writers like you, Naut, Food, Kabu, Wiley, Mal, Vogue, Sam, Muley, Snowview, Taps, Cricket, Benzinha, Strat, Isis, and all the enormously talented others, that it makes me feel fortunate, to have been accepted among you.
Guy
posted by
northsage_45
on November 11, 2009 at 5:34 AM
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So amazingly written - about a very painful time in your life. I know a few people who, even as adults, laugh instead of cry at highly emotional events. it seems to be a natural reaction to some - and especially for a kid who's slowly processing grief. Thanks for sharing this....Mal
posted by
gapcohen
on November 11, 2009 at 5:17 AM
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God bless you Elinjo ~ This whole account was told so well. Every emotion was touched in me... so moving. (((Elinjo (Betty)))) - and yes, I believe in 'tears' ~ Elyse
posted by
elysianfields
on November 11, 2009 at 4:19 AM
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Amazing story! I missed yesterday! But wow! This book of mine is taking so much time! Just when I think I have all the typos, another pops up! I hope you have a great evening! Shelly
posted by
sam444
on November 11, 2009 at 1:50 AM
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Incredible story.
Betty I can't you went through so much.
posted by
Hackthorne19
on November 11, 2009 at 12:33 AM
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Betty - It is so well outlined. Different people grieve in different ways and you were just a child then. It is really a beautiful insight on your growing up years. . Take care of yourself, be safe and have a lovely day.
posted by
shobana
on November 11, 2009 at 12:15 AM
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