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Hi Northsage, how are you. Hope all is well?
posted by
Straightforward
on August 31, 2010 at 7:14 PM
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thanks for the comments back real friend.
posted by
Kabu
on July 15, 2010 at 6:33 PM
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Wow! I had no idea! I know you can't go back there but what a dilemma! I hope she can see her way to move in with you otherwise she will find herself in a care facility! Please keep an eye on the depression, it can overwhelm a person so quickly! There's living to be doing so take hold and you have made the sacrifices, now live! sam
posted by
sam444
on July 15, 2010 at 4:28 PM
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Re: Depression is an insidious illness it creeps up on a person and they don't
Kabu (and Wiley),
Thank you for your heartfelt comments and caring, about someone that you only barely really know anything about. You are both compassionate friends, who have been severely tested, as have we all!
You know what it is to feel love for those, who appear to enjoy making this hard. I can only assume that they are crying out in their own pain, and I am sure that this is unintentional. Why would anyone who is needy, want to become MOREso? You are right, they wouldn't.
As far as Marilyn's son is concerned, I fear NOBODY! My nine millimeter Makarov makes me his equal any day of the week. He is less than half my age, and outweighs me by a hundred pounds or more, but HE has respect (read that abject fear) of my eight little 9mm friends, believe me. He once found where it was kept, and stole it, intending to sell it so he would not have to worry about my ability to dependably defend myself, but upon finding out that I was about to call the police, he returned it. I guess that he fears the involvement of POLICE, even MORE than he fears what I may do!
Believe you me, I am more to be feared, than the police, when he threatens the lives of his mother or me. He is extremely lucky that I have excellent self-control and bountifull good sense, unlike HIM!
Don't worry about me, my friends, I'll bounce back regardless of whatever happens to me, but thank you for your real, genuine concern. You are true friends, and knowing that is the only actual wealth, that one can take with them, to the grave. True FRIENDS are forever! Bless you both.
Guy
posted by
northsage_45
on July 15, 2010 at 3:34 PM
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Depression is an insidious illness it creeps up on a person and they don't
even know it's lurking, except for feeling tired, sad, irritable, unable to cope very well.
Well there is enough here in this Blog to make all your negative energy understandable, and your friend Kabu mad as a hornet on your behalf.
Let us address the issues. Not blogging is of course a symptom of depression ....no one reads me or is interested in my blog so I won't bother...and I am bored with their writing..... anyway. Of course feeling sorry for ones self is a wonderful part of depression...that's the best part for me.(I am diagnosed depression/anxietybut don't tell anyone.) Wallowing in the depths of no one loves me, and dragging up the list that proves it...Oh it helps one to spiral down further, a great symptom.
Next the party....that was a real bummer and I feel that some malaction was spread maliciously against you.... Marilyn's mob maybe? well I don't know of course but I really am sorry, and if it had been possible, we most certainly would have been there with you. This is certainly a good start for falling into depression...no show to your lovely well planned party.
But on going, slowly and steady is Marilyn herself....your feelings for each other ...none of my business......perhaps nothing is here...but your blog, to me see,... it is a cry for help...... but being a constant care giver is a terrible job. Loving devoted partners have beaten up the care receiver because they have reached their limit. Needing care can turn a real sweetheart into a monster. My cousin who died, used to ring a bell once she was bed bound..........I could have broken it over her head.......
Marilyn's family....I would have insisted on a restraining order long ago. No one under any circumstances needs abuse. I am the Queen of abuse, and it is only after you have escaped that you realize how terrible it was. My heart just aches for you. When people write about abuse they always think in terms of the woman...well fair enough...often....but men are abused way more often than ever reaches the tabloids; and this is clear and unrefutable abuse, and it is being allowed so more than one person is abusing you.
Lastly I would go straight to the whoever one goes to and find out exactly what will happen if Marilyn sells the house....sounds hocus pocus to me. You are her care giver...you should be paid they can't take that away now or ever.....doesn't matter if you both live in her place or yours. Never heard such nonsense.
I can see why with all you have endured and then recent miseries...it has brought you tumbling down. with concern your friend... Nurse Kabu.
posted by
Kabu
on July 15, 2010 at 2:40 PM
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northsage45
Thank you for reading me my friend.More importantly I am very sorry to read your post but as I am on anti-depressants and have been for years, I certainly have great compassion for your situation. That is something I shall pray about and I pray strong words to da Man!!!!
As to my 'beginnings and endings' post you left such a wonderful uplifting comment in, I do appreciate and thank you my friend.
I must point out that I have lived a new beginning after leaving a life full of the misery of grief suffered for years, and the outcome with Kabu as you know, is a God given miracle.
Make your very necessary move with all the joy in our hearts for you while you seek out your own personal joy again, keep the faith that nothing bad will happen to you, and if that 'Boyo beast' assaults you again I'll bloody well drive down there.
†
posted by
WileyJohn
on July 15, 2010 at 2:34 PM
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depressed
I am so sorry that you are having so many issues with your personal life. I for one know that family can be a pain in the ass..as I have them in my family as well. And on a lighter note I seem to be the winner so far in page views of your post..I do enjoy reading your column. So keep up the good work Guy./LB
posted by
MsJudy
on July 15, 2010 at 11:04 AM
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Whoa, Guy!
Here's a big hug (((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))).....I don't know what else to do after reading this one! Well, today is my anniversary to my mental health issue...I won't go there but I hear you on the depression. You're right, and Wiley's right....it is all just a ride with beginnings and endings, ups and downs, ins and outs and some of us seem to have to do the steering for those who are carsick for most of the journey - wait, that's really stupid sounding....gotta go get some coffee....anyway, buck up, buttercup!
posted by
Krisles
on July 15, 2010 at 7:54 AM
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