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some people like myself seem content with status quo, I dont think you are being harsh just real
posted by
Lanetay
on September 20, 2010 at 9:09 AM
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I've always wanted to go on a balloon trip, but like you, wonder about the vertigo.
I don't think you're being harsh. Ed and I have moved away from many former friends, because we've simply moved on in a different direction. And like you , have loved every minute of it.
posted by
Rockingrector_retd
on September 20, 2010 at 8:51 AM
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Hi malcom I suppose people change and may even be a little envious of a happy family, this is no mean feat, these days. I don' t think people have changed much, the only difference is they are not prepared to live a life that their parents sometimes did. I have seen many unhappy marriages where the partners just ignored each other or spoke disparagingly or without a grain of respect. I don't think one can go back and take up where dreams were young, but that's just an opinion.
posted by
C_C_T
on September 20, 2010 at 8:08 AM
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malcolm, not at all....
one can usually sense and pick up on these things, just by the look on someone's face or the "atmosphere" in the room...
but hopefully the fun overrode any of the hesitant feelings....that balloon trip sounds like it would have been fu, but I'm with you - if I'd gone up, I'd have been airsick at the slightest ascent or descent....:)
posted by
Rumor
on September 20, 2010 at 8:05 AM
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Sounds wonderful. I think sometimes it's good to see people who were once good friends, if only to show us how far on we have moved.
posted by
lionreign
on September 20, 2010 at 7:41 AM
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I think we can only answer for ourselves on if we are being harsh. It's easy to form opinions about others but to really know we need to walk a mile or two in their shoes. Perhaps that man was sitting there in envy of you and the choices you have been able to make. Perhaps his manner was to do with his own insecurities. I don't know, I am just saying there are always a range of possibilities and often we may be surprised. I see or speak with my oldest friends regularly. One was going to be a birthday party on Saturday but it was postponed as one of the friend's fathers died that day. Funny thing is we don't talk about the past very much at all, it's just part of the fabric of the friendship.
The balloon ride sounded wonderful. I used to drive near the place where they go from in Kent.
posted by
Azur
on September 19, 2010 at 8:53 PM
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Malcolm
. In any event it was lovely. I love you. BC-A, Bill’s RJLst
posted by
BC-A
on September 19, 2010 at 8:35 PM
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Malcolm
Harsh? Nah, realistic and content with what you've been able to accomplish is more like it my friend.
posted by
WileyJohn
on September 19, 2010 at 7:05 PM
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I do not see you as being harsh. You've got your head on straight if you ask me.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on September 19, 2010 at 6:23 PM
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Dear Malcolm - no not harsh - you see from a parental and family pair of glasses. I for one believe moving on is the 'whole' wide spectrum and experience of life. When we feel fulfilled we don't have to look down or over anyone in life. We want to 'share' generally the good and joy - the bliss we have. No, I consider you're more enlightened and I respect your feelings. and WOW what a joy that Claire must have had - and I for one, would not enjoy ( I don't think) because I have that 'vertigo' feeling as well. She's brave and simply innocent - unscathed, untroubled youth
~ and the Ferrari? okay - wow - You are fun, your family is fun and rich. Elyse
posted by
elysianfields
on September 19, 2010 at 5:10 PM
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Malcolm,
No, my friend, you are not be at all harsh. If you felt looked down upon, my guess is that this man has some past issues that he feels unable-or unwilling-to come to terms with. This is nothing to do with you, nor was it any of your doing. I say, continue your happy life with your lovely family and don't be made to feel less for anything you have chosen not to do or become with your life.
A happy belated birthday to your Claire and I'm glad she and Susan enjoyed their trip! I agree with you though, my virtigo would have done me in, though it must be an incredibly beautiful sight!
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on September 19, 2010 at 2:21 PM
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