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Re: Bel
Naut,
I have a choice to either give them power or stand in my own...I choose my own power and they can do whatever it is that they do. I have a child who needs her mother, a man who needs the woman that loves him and a life that is there for my taking. I'm going to live it!
Thank you my friend. 
posted by
Bel_
on December 16, 2010 at 7:28 PM
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Bel
I think you've made a good start to work through this, but years of pain are not overcome easily. Nonetheless, you're on your way, and and I'm sure the day will come when you're completely free of it...
posted by
Nautikos
on December 16, 2010 at 7:00 PM
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Re: We've both met pure evil, suffered damage & moved on, stronger for it.
LOL Guy,
No murder is not on the agenda. Some people should be sentenced to live with themselves and the results of their behavior. My mother is a lonely miserable human being who claims to despise this man yet she has to deal with him everyday.
He is alone and has nobody other than a son that hates him...We all have to meet ourselves in the mirror at the end of the day, I am glad that I don't have to face what they do everyday when they look at their reflections.
posted by
Bel_
on December 16, 2010 at 5:50 PM
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Re: You are a woman of incredible strength
I'm just a person who deals with life as it's handed to me. I have to admit, I am ready to be able to just relax and not need to have strength at every turn.
posted by
Bel_
on December 16, 2010 at 5:40 PM
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You are a woman of incredible strength
posted by
jollyjeff
on December 16, 2010 at 5:34 PM
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Re: FSI
One of the blessings in all of this is my sister. I didn't have the chance to know her as she was growing up so I feel doubly blessed now.
posted by
Bel_
on December 16, 2010 at 5:28 PM
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Re: Sam
I am working on that...Feb. 1 come hell or highwater, I will be home with my child.
posted by
Bel_
on December 16, 2010 at 5:27 PM
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Re: Bel, so glad you have a sister who understands and your Blogit family
Me too Ariala,
me too. Many may not understand why we all come back month after month, but what I see here in the comments is exactly why we all find ourselves here.
posted by
Bel_
on December 16, 2010 at 5:26 PM
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Re: Bel, you are worth far more than ANY monetary value...
Rumor,
You are such a wonderful soul and a very sweet man. Thank you so much.
posted by
Bel_
on December 16, 2010 at 5:25 PM
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Re: Susan's father
Malcolm,
Susan did what a real mother will always do...protect her family. She is clearly a good and loving mother.
posted by
Bel_
on December 16, 2010 at 5:25 PM
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Re: I had an aunt like your mother. And an uncle like that creep.
LOL! Your Mama was a brilliant woman!
posted by
Bel_
on December 16, 2010 at 5:24 PM
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Re: And now for what I shoulda said...
Pat,
I have a strong sense of self preservation. Those people have stolen enough from me, I sure as heck am not going to put myself in a position to be in legal trouble, they are not worth one more second of my life. So instead, I am going to have a wonderful happy life and let them wallow in their own trash.
posted by
Bel_
on December 16, 2010 at 5:23 PM
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Re: Bel
Justi
Thank you so much for your kind words and prayers are always appreciated. I am much better today and more determined than ever to have the life that I know God intends for me, Pam and Carl. It's in God's hands and I don't have to worry about it.
posted by
Bel_
on December 16, 2010 at 5:21 PM
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I am glad to read that your sister is so supportive of you...Sometimes the best decision is to leave people behind. I feel you are making a wise decision.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on December 16, 2010 at 3:23 PM
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I have had my woes from childhood and I dislike my biological with a passion but I sought to love my kids first and above all protect them! I succeeded for they love to come see me! You need to rid yourself of all this unwanted strife, it is robbing you of a quality today and a brighter future! I had to and it made all the difference! sam
posted by
sam444
on December 16, 2010 at 2:01 PM
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Bel, so glad you have a sister who understands and your Blogit family
who longs to love and protect you always.
posted by
Ariala
on December 16, 2010 at 12:54 PM
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Bel, you are worth far more than ANY monetary value...
its already been said, but get away from the poison as fast as you can..
..and remember, you are not alone.
..
posted by
Rumor
on December 16, 2010 at 10:56 AM
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Susan's father
sounds very similar to this man and she wanted to protect our children from him so hasn't had any contact with him for about twelve years - quite a sacrifice I think and we all love her even more because of it
posted by
malcolm
on December 16, 2010 at 5:40 AM
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And now for what I shoulda said...
What didn't kill you made you stronger. You're clearly not a victim, but a survivor. Get away from the poison as fast as you can. You've invested enough in the past.
posted by
Pat_B
on December 16, 2010 at 5:19 AM
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I had an aunt like your mother. And an uncle like that creep.
He's lucky you've got common sense and chose to throw snowballs at the fence instead of taking a shot at the sonofabitch. Mama had a suggested cure for such behavior. Nail their nuts to a stump and give 'em a dull knife to cut loose with. I like to think about certain predators dealing with that.
posted by
Pat_B
on December 16, 2010 at 5:15 AM
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We've both met pure evil, suffered damage & moved on, stronger for it.
Bel,
I don't call the harm done to me, on a par with what was done to you. The inability to trust others fully and automatically, while an insideous effect of such hubris, can be overcome eventually, unlike your loss. There are especially HOT places in HELL, for such sociopaths, if one is religious.
I feel that if one has purposely committed such criminal intent upon an innocent, they are destined to wind up living the kind of miserable life, that they have earned and richly deserve. Such an individual is far more likely to become a murder victim, or abandoned when sorely in need, themselves. Choose to abandon, & skip the MURDER part.
Patient, patient, be patient! THEY WILL ONE DAY, RUN INTO SOMEONE JUST LIKE THEMSELVES. One of THEM can become the murderer, and the other one their victim! A win, win outcome, for patient victims, and for society.
Guy
posted by
northsage_45
on December 16, 2010 at 3:50 AM
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Bel
Honey I am praying for the love of Jesus to enfold you and take away the memory of this evil man. Yes it is best to go your own way. If you continue to be involved with your mother you can be considered to be as sick, and indeed you will be if you stay with her. God bless you child you have tried so hard. Let the Lord take the load for a while, he is fully capable. I love you dear young woman. Keep going the light is visible at the end of the tunnel now.
posted by
Justi
on December 15, 2010 at 9:10 PM
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Re: Snow balls at a fence how wonderful, we really do think alike. Of course
Sometimes you just have to throw something Kabu!
posted by
Bel_
on December 15, 2010 at 8:03 PM
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Snow balls at a fence how wonderful, we really do think alike. Of course
you can't hold this in forever and pretend and pretend. This is such a great place for venting and know that you are loved and cared about.
posted by
Kabu
on December 15, 2010 at 8:00 PM
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