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Here is to hoping that things sort themselves out.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on September 21, 2011 at 11:25 AM
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Good for you, How easy for him to let you feel shame and guilt for his
actions. That is not as it should be.........Again....his choices are his own and he owns the consequences for his actions.
You have one life to live .....I pray that you choose to live it...your life...not what suits him.
posted by
Kabu
on September 21, 2011 at 9:33 AM
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Re: I will start with a big hug.....for you HHHHHHHHHHHHuuuuuuuuuuugggggggggg
Thanks, Kabu, I needed that hug. And I will try to do what you say and let go of it all. Maybe it was just "guilt & shame" that kept me from walking out 3 1/2 yrs ago. We have just talked on the porch and again, he says he thinks it's OK for him to go there without me so I'm going to try and fill my "time" with much more productivity than to be thinking of what he might or could be doing. And I told him that if by chance, you know I don't believe in chance... he happens to meet up with the other emotional affair woman, I told him that would be proof for me that that was his decision about our marriage and I told him there would not be any more confrontation or arguments. It would be over.
posted by
Butterfly-1950
on September 20, 2011 at 3:15 PM
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I will start with a big hug.....for you HHHHHHHHHHHHuuuuuuuuuuugggggggggg
. Who has tried to lay all your husbands behaviour at your feet? He is an individual with freedom of choice. He chooses to yearn for a woman outside of his marriage and he chooses to go to the casino with or without you and he chooses to allow his gambling problem to possess him.
You forgave him, you are an amazing person, and perhaps that was the right thing to do. Your jealousy issues and suspicions of the .......man would not be tormenting you if he had turned his life around and placed you at the center where you should be. Only God should matter more to him than you and if he put God first, he would not treat you like he does.
Please love, let go of the guilt you feel for your human emotions because this man chooses to give you reason to wonder and worry. The problems are his not yours xxxxx Kabu.
posted by
Kabu
on September 20, 2011 at 2:45 PM
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