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My wife went through something similar, but I am glad she took my last name. One of the downsides was that, her last name was only 4 letters long, while mine is 9! It now takes longer for her to sign her name, something I had never thought about before! Also, her name is now the same as a famous actress ( no, I'm not going to say who! ) 
posted by
JimmyA
on June 3, 2013 at 8:05 AM
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Mia
It's not something that men tend to think much about. I know that when I got married my LSW would have found it strange not to adopt my last name. On the other hand I would have had no problem with it if she had decided to keep her maiden name, but it simply never came up. But things have changed in that respect, and I see one distinct advantage in a woman keeping her maiden name - it makes divorce less complicated...
posted by
Nautikos
on June 1, 2013 at 10:42 PM
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I have that same problem....but mine is because we haven't told my family that we are married yet. We want to have a ceremony with the kids so that they won't feel slighted to not have been there when we did tie the knot.
posted by
Annicita
on June 1, 2013 at 11:38 AM
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yes that is you, so many arent changing their names these days they probably dont know who they are
posted by
Lanetay
on June 1, 2013 at 8:34 AM
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What a wonderful place to get married! I married 6 years ago a never did change my name. My husband, somewhat of a traditonalist, was a little taken aback at first but I just couldn't bring myself to do. He's fine with my choice now.
posted by
Troosha
on May 31, 2013 at 6:38 PM
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Mia890
CONGRATULATIONS MR. & MRS. M
posted by
WileyJohn
on May 31, 2013 at 4:22 PM
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I changed my name twice, first time i felt like you....
after two disasters, I went back to my maiden surname and Oh the paperwork...I will never change my name again. It felt so good to have MY identity back...now if I had only ever married Wiley I would have been more than happy to live and die with his name but I just can't go through the paper work and we are happy as we are. married but with our own names.
posted by
Kabu
on May 31, 2013 at 1:38 PM
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i looked forward to changing my name,
but for the first two or three weeks, I felt I was lying, every time I used it.
posted by
Ciel
on May 31, 2013 at 1:08 PM
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As a man, I have not given much thought to someone changing their name. Now that I am thinking about it, I can imagine how difficult it would be to adjust. I recall my mother telling me that after she got married, she signed the checks with her maiden name.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on May 31, 2013 at 12:36 PM
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Best wishes!
posted by
Dr_JPT
on May 31, 2013 at 12:15 PM
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