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Sometimes even jokes toun out serious
posted by
adventurer02
on August 14, 2015 at 3:59 AM
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DrJ
I think it depends very much on the context! I think we all play games at times, but I think the important thing is to know when to play and when not to play...
posted by
Nautikos
on June 17, 2013 at 10:12 AM
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That's a tricky one. I seem to have a sense for it because most of my family do it (including me) but then we only do it to each other - not to people who don't understand our nature
posted by
lionreign
on June 14, 2013 at 2:35 AM
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Dr JPT
I'm with you on that kind of thinking about serious comments doc.
posted by
WileyJohn
on June 12, 2013 at 8:52 PM
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JUST JOKING-WHEN TO USE THIS???
I a literal person, I have a problem sometimes telling the difference betwen joking and the truth, so I like people to be upfront and honest with me.
posted by
MsJudy
on June 12, 2013 at 1:06 PM
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I am like that a lot and then I have to explain to those that dont get it what I am trying to say
posted by
Lanetay
on June 11, 2013 at 8:24 AM
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I must admit that I am guilty of being a jokester and I irritate folks from time to time because they can not read me! sam
posted by
sam444
on June 10, 2013 at 9:11 PM
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I understand completely! I have a friend who usually exclaims "I'm only joking" as a way of back-peddling when he says something that he thinks may have unintentionally insulted the other person! Otherwise, you have to guess when someone is serious and when they are joking. It can get infuriating sometimes . . . 
posted by
JimmyA
on June 10, 2013 at 1:37 PM
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It really is a confusing line to use as a joke...
and yes, it is hurtful to say and never follow through on...reminds me of my older brother who always said we'd go to the amusement park when they'd come to visit, but it never happened.
..(to a kid like I was at the time, it was devastating) he never said it as a joke but as something to look forward to...
posted by
Rumor
on June 10, 2013 at 11:39 AM
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Those people who we cannot tell whether they are serious or joking can be very tricky to deal with...It looks to me that you have a good method for dealing with them, the minimizing of contact.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on June 10, 2013 at 10:34 AM
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Annicita
I wish I could take on that attitude but I have such a busy schedule that I cannot operate like that if she needs me to prepare and do for her like a queen when she comes to town.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on June 10, 2013 at 7:11 AM
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UtahJay
That would be okay if I had a simple life and did not need to make sure I would be available and prepared to make provisions. My family like to use the indirect approach, They do not communicate with the one who needs to cook and clean up before, during and after a visit. They are indirect. I need to know if it affects me to be included in anothers plans.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on June 10, 2013 at 7:09 AM
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CCT
You are probably right. She was probing to see what type reaction she would get.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on June 10, 2013 at 7:05 AM
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It is a fast pased world, my friends and family tell me they will see me on this day or that, I don't worry so much about it...When I see them I am happy.
posted by
UtahJay
on June 10, 2013 at 5:50 AM
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Dr JPT
dÝ For myself I don’t want to play those games love. BC-A, Bill’s R®st
posted by
BC-A
on June 10, 2013 at 2:30 AM
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Well I just wonder if she was probing, trying to see what reaction she evoked, did you joyously exclaim that you would love her to come or say that you mother would be so pleased to see her. Of course she might have decided to visit and when the time came she changed her mind.
posted by
C_C_T
on June 10, 2013 at 12:21 AM
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well i guess you could just look for her when you see her
posted by
Annicita
on June 9, 2013 at 7:58 PM
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I am with you on this one. I don't play games either, I find it
confusing and rather hurtful usually. If possible, move on that is me anyway.
posted by
Kabu
on June 9, 2013 at 6:46 PM
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