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Both Ciel's and Annicita'a advice is good. I think you already know it won't be easy, but it is possible; many have succeeded, which makes all the angst worthwhile.
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adnohr
on October 29, 2013 at 5:37 AM
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FSU, Thank you friend for all your prayers and kind words.
posted by
dancin_grandma
on October 22, 2013 at 8:14 AM
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I think you are right about the angst! Thank you for the encouragement. 
posted by
dancin_grandma
on October 22, 2013 at 8:13 AM
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Re: Annicita
I need to print this out and read it everyday to remind myself!
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dancin_grandma
on October 22, 2013 at 8:12 AM
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Re: She may well have expectations, unconsidered and assumed
Thank you for the suggestion. I think you may be correct about the gratifying conversation!
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dancin_grandma
on October 22, 2013 at 8:11 AM
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focus on the changes she makes and what else she could do rather than the past...dont react to the bad but compliment or show positivity in some way when she does demonstrate any change for the good.
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Annicita
on October 21, 2013 at 7:25 PM
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I think I understand your concerns. My wife's one and only niece has moved back into our area after having left ( in somewhat of a huff, I might add ) 10 years ago and moved to another state. She's 35 going on 12, and can be quite a handful. I know your exact situation is somewhat different, but I have a feeling that much of the angst will be the same! Good luck . . . 
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JimmyA
on October 21, 2013 at 2:01 PM
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She may well have expectations, unconsidered and assumed
and might benefit and even welcome a conversation in very clear terms what she can actually expect, and what the priorities of the household are, that she will be one, only one of the focuses of attention and caring. Even that she will be expected to focus some of her attention beyond herself.
If it is all clarified with love, and caring that this work out well for everyone, it could be a very gratifying conversation.
I hope all goes well for all of you!
posted by
Ciel
on October 21, 2013 at 12:32 PM
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I will continue to keep you all in my prayers.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on October 21, 2013 at 11:25 AM
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