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I'm sure most people have lost a loved one near or close
And I must say through experience, it may be a tad tougher when it is a child that you had a hand in bringing into this world. I lost my father in 2003, and a son in 2005. The emotions were alive and real in both cases , but the death of my son seemed a little more emotional. I don't know if this is a typical response to many. I believe there are factors of how deep was your love for whichever loved one or friend. IE--There are degrees of love just as a fire has many degrees of heat intensity.{Is it a common stoves fire, or a volcanos lava fire?}
posted by
Grandpa3
on February 18, 2016 at 10:45 AM
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Re:
Annicita,
This is what I have been told regarding making a transition: Whenever a person lingers from crossing over is because that person feels as though the loved one(s) are not ready for them to leave. If your Mom has been very ill, and in a great deal of pain she may be ready to go. If this is the case your sister and you must release her. You must tell her that she can go and that you all will be fine and that you all will do what you all need to do. I imagine that will be hard for you all.
If this not done it may be a while before she goes or it may be soon. Nevertheless, her mind should be eased so that she will not be worried about you and your sister. I have known of the lingering of several people because the loved ones was holding on to the terminally ill. The dying end up suffering more than they should. Death and dying is hard for those of us who remain.
May God Bess you and your Sister
Keep in Touch
Dr. Dianne
posted by
drdianne
on February 16, 2016 at 10:28 PM
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My mom is 81 and I think she is just ready to cross but waiting on me and my sister to take over what we need to do
posted by
Annicita
on February 16, 2016 at 8:19 PM
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Re:
Former Student Intern,
It is my hope and prayer that these posts will enlighten. I am not just talking the talk, I am also walking the walk.
Please continue to express your thoughts and concerns. I welcome them.
Dr. Dianne
posted by
drdianne
on February 15, 2016 at 6:58 PM
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Re:
CCt,
You are sad when you lose someone because it is human nature. It is the nature of MAN to miss someone when thay passes on.They are doing just fine, we are the ones that are bereaving and grieving. They are in no pain, sorrow or sadness. It is just hard for us at times.
Dr. Dianne
posted by
drdianne
on February 15, 2016 at 6:54 PM
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Re:
Amanda,
If ever you want to share more thoughts and concerns, you may. It is better out than in.
posted by
drdianne
on February 15, 2016 at 6:44 PM
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Re:
Amanda,
This is the hope that we all have, hope that we will see them again one day. However, that concept does get a little deep. I will expound my thoughts and concerns on reuniting with loved ones in future posts. keep the faith.
posted by
drdianne
on February 15, 2016 at 6:43 PM
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Hi,
I lost two close friends in six months. I will see them in Heaven one day.
posted by
Amanda__
on February 15, 2016 at 9:51 AM
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Well when I first lost someone. I had this brave thought. Why was I sad, why did I feel sorry for my loved one. I pondered over this and decided that really I was feeling sorry
for myself because the one I had lost could feel no pain. Trouble was I was not really strong minded enough to feel this absolutely and I usually settle for the cold ache that accompanies a loss. 
posted by
C_C_T
on February 15, 2016 at 9:11 AM
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Reading your entry puts things into perspective.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on February 15, 2016 at 5:28 AM
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