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I made that suggestion once, Annicita, about something else.... I was told it wouldn't make any difference, because within a day or two he would stop seeing it. Patience is a virtue....!!
posted by
mneme
on August 17, 2016 at 8:30 AM
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How about posting a sign saying please lock door upon entering?
posted by
Annicita
on August 16, 2016 at 3:03 PM
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Re: mneme
Thank you for reading, anibanerjee - I just write how I think, I'm afraid - no special attempt at any style (smile).
posted by
mneme
on August 15, 2016 at 8:30 AM
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Re: Re: Re: I wonder what would happen
That's true, Ciel... and I don't actively 'worry' about it, I just keep quiet and observe... and blog (!) - but I do find myself feeling tense quite often. I try not to pick up after him, unless it's impacting me in the kitchen.
posted by
mneme
on August 15, 2016 at 8:27 AM
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Thank you Naut .. this is also true (smile). He does sit all day watching sport ... just not in his room ! He also has a huge collection of video games, which he will play in his room for about an hour. I'm sure he must be bored, too. For me, too much of our time is spent around the home, providing him with a comfortable backdrop, and we can't be going away for short breaks all the time because I have run out of flexibility (financially) to do that like we used to.
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mneme
on August 15, 2016 at 8:23 AM
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Absolutely, Taps... I take my hat off to parents who have to cope with this. Stepson is physically fine, it's the cognitive part that's awry, and because he presents as pretty normal, it's very frustrating when you know you can't rely on him for even small things. My main worry is his father's health as we grow older.
posted by
mneme
on August 15, 2016 at 8:18 AM
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mneme
At least he plays squash - he could be sitting in his room all day playing video games...
posted by
Nautikos
on August 14, 2016 at 9:00 PM
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Re: Re: I wonder what would happen
I suppose it is up to his dad to get him sorted out then, if Dad will. Sounds like Dad has been willing, instead, to take up the slack.
In which case, I don't suppose you need to worry about it.
posted by
Ciel
on August 13, 2016 at 2:35 PM
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As compared to my 30-year-old grandson who is forever mentally a two-year-old that has never been able to speak and is still not potty trained completely, that doesn't sound too bad.
posted by
TAPS.
on August 13, 2016 at 1:16 PM
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Thanks Kabu... no tantrums ... but as I said to CCT he will raise his voice in protest sometimes. Unfortunately that reminds me of my ex.
posted by
mneme
on August 13, 2016 at 12:11 PM
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True, CCT, he is never violent ... although there are times when he raises his voice (to a high pitch, not shouting exactly) when his dad tries to correct him about something or other, and I find that really upsetting because so much is done for him ... and then his dad has to settle him down again and, basically, get back to building him up all the time, praising him and so on.
posted by
mneme
on August 13, 2016 at 12:09 PM
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Oh BCA... I know, and my kids are fine (smile)... this one is a little different, and really not a kid anymore. I just have to get his dad to try to see that but it's forbidden territory I'm afraid.
posted by
mneme
on August 13, 2016 at 12:05 PM
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Re: I wonder what would happen
Thank you, but not for me to do Ciel, this isn't my house. I do lock it if I am last in, however. Stepson just never does things consistently... the other night he locked up and the bins still needed to be put out, so his dad had to unlock, get the bin, take it down the drive... there is never any sense that the son will take on any domestic responsibilities, nor execute them with any regularity.
posted by
mneme
on August 13, 2016 at 12:04 PM
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Thank you FSI .. very perceptive of you!
posted by
mneme
on August 13, 2016 at 12:01 PM
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Thank you Taps. You may not have picked up that this one is 40, and not standard (he has an illness that is maddeningly unpredictable). Nothing sinks in, it's a lottery as to whether he will think to lock up when he is the last one in.
posted by
mneme
on August 13, 2016 at 12:00 PM
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I think I would like your boy. I know I always liked my four and yours sounds a lot like mine. Boys are always so interesting and do such interesting things. A little friendly persuasion can go a long way.
posted by
TAPS.
on August 12, 2016 at 9:46 PM
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I feel that you have come up with the right reason.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on August 12, 2016 at 6:43 PM
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I wonder what would happen
if you locked the door at night without asking him to do it. Maybe it's the ritual, the asking, then the doing...
posted by
Ciel
on August 12, 2016 at 6:30 PM
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That's the key to child raising love.
posted by
BC-A
on August 12, 2016 at 5:21 PM
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I suppose he's not violent. At least you seem happier at present.
posted by
C_C_T
on August 12, 2016 at 10:42 AM
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Why should he ever do anything for himself around the place? Daddy always has, always will. At least he doesn't seem to throw tantrums.
posted by
Kabu
on August 12, 2016 at 8:42 AM
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mneme
This is quite a flowing style of writing, just as one would speak. And that is to say Good.
posted by
anib
on August 12, 2016 at 7:15 AM
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