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Addiction is a hard, desperate battle for all concerned and losing a parent gradually is also.
posted by
TAPS.
on June 18, 2017 at 2:59 AM
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Recovery happens at its own pace, but it sounds like you have the fortitude and courage that have seen you through the sharpest crises. We don't snap right from crisis to normalcy. I hope the people around you understand that.
posted by
Ciel
on June 17, 2017 at 9:33 PM
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So very true.
posted by
RASSE
on June 17, 2017 at 7:41 PM
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you can't control what they do...you can only be there if they decide to make the change
posted by
Annicita
on June 17, 2017 at 2:32 PM
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RASSE
It's really too hard to make someone turn around from a downhill slide, but there are rare exceptions to be found when the mother is strong-willed, determined and intensely loving, too. I sincerely wish that you will come out a winner. God bless.
posted by
anib
on June 17, 2017 at 8:06 AM
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that sounds like two very separate battles.... very hard losing a parent.. and also hard having an addict in the family.... combining the two is terrible... I hope you have some good support around you.
posted by
-blackcat
on June 17, 2017 at 6:32 AM
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Re: Rasse
Thank you. WileyJohn. I may take you up on that.
posted by
RASSE
on June 16, 2017 at 8:57 PM
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I agree, Kabu. I have been writing her my feelings about all of this today. She meets me only to a certain point. Its always an "I'm sorry" with the added "but". I don't want the "but" added on.
posted by
RASSE
on June 16, 2017 at 8:56 PM
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well actually, she needs to make amends to you, not for your sake but for hers but between you and me you will know then that she is really trying. Just turning up and expecting normalicy from you is her still focusing on her.
posted by
Kabu
on June 16, 2017 at 4:31 PM
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Yes it is tough, you feel like it is hopeless I expect. Grief does not pass easily and no one wants to see a sibling waste a life.Sometimes life truly is unfair.
posted by
C_C_T
on June 16, 2017 at 11:01 AM
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Rasse
I am sorry about your dad and very sorry to hear aout your sibling. I have been sober 49 years now in AA so if you want to talk or write I am at pekoe@nrtco.com.
posted by
WileyJohn
on June 16, 2017 at 9:06 AM
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It's hard, that's for sure. Losing a parent and then having a sib battling addiction. May you both heal.
posted by
Sea_Gypsy
on June 16, 2017 at 1:28 AM
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