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brianne_amai
The problem was that he didn't really want to learn what made my body happy so whatever happiness I did get was thanks to myself... I guess that's what bothered me the most about our sex life.
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 7, 2007 at 8:02 PM
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Re: brianne_amai
of course its not the same! but it helps......and you strike me as someone who needs to learn how to really KNOW your body because you've complained of not having the best experiences in sex with your ex. the more you know yourself, the better it is when you're with someone.
posted by
brianne_amai
on October 7, 2007 at 12:19 AM
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brianne_amai
It's not the same at all
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 5, 2007 at 6:54 AM
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I'm sure I'll offend someone, but...
Girl, you need to invest in a vibrator!
posted by
brianne_amai
on October 4, 2007 at 3:55 PM
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Ciel
I know what you mean, Tim and I didn't have a real realationship so at the end, letting it go wasn't as hard as I thought it would be.
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 4, 2007 at 7:22 AM
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A question to consider when you look at what you fear losing:
Is it something you actually have, at the moment, anyway?
I realized in ending relationships that what I was trying to hang onto, I didn't, in fact, have.
posted by
Ciel
on October 4, 2007 at 7:19 AM
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lustorlove
Why didn't you ever find someone? Maybe it's not too late or maybe it's better that way... I wouldn't know, I am in the middle of this myself
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 4, 2007 at 7:13 AM
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Pat_B
I am starting to get used to all those things, having the freedom and not having to pick up after someone but at the same time I do miss those things in the list. What you say holds a lot of truth... will he (whoever comes along) enrich my life or not? That is defninitely the question I need to ask myself.
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 4, 2007 at 7:13 AM
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divorcee
I have been single for almost 24 years after a 20 year marriage. I am at times very lonely and would love to have a real good realtionship, but now I am set in my ways I dont think living with anyone would work out. But I too miss many of those things you mentioned. The date thing and the sex sounds good to me. You will meet someone someday, I never did, oh well.
posted by
Lanetay
on October 4, 2007 at 6:59 AM
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Ever heard the term "Single Blessedness"?
Once you get used to taking a book with you when you eat alone at a restaurant, once you get used to coming home to tranquility and order, once you get used to not having someone saying you're stupid or crazy on a regular basis in a variety of ways, once you get used to deciding when you can come or go, whether to change any detail of your physical space, once you get used to being your own best friend, the question changes. You ask if a particular man with his own particular good and bad points, would improve your life or make it more difficult. Since my own divorce I've met a handful who were entertaining up to a point, but none I wanted to pick up after.
posted by
Pat_B
on October 4, 2007 at 6:53 AM
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opheliablue
LOL
The sex? Naw, don't miss it. LOL
Human? Hmmmm, interesting. Good to know!
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 4, 2007 at 6:41 AM
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Soul_Builder101
For me? What a strange concept...
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 4, 2007 at 6:40 AM
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Tattered_Knight
I am tring to reinvent myself, LOL
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 4, 2007 at 6:40 AM
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LOL
...that was really funny (though I know there are serious parts to it too)
So, do you miss the sex or not? You didn't mention that :P
Not having to worry about who's the next jerk that will come along, I already have my own jerk. - hahaha
And no... it doesn't make you pathetic at all, I don't think... just human.
posted by
opheliablue
on October 4, 2007 at 4:08 AM
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Le Divorce
You have covered all the bases! Now live for you!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on October 3, 2007 at 10:49 PM
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le divorcee
You don't have to be Mrs. Somebody in order to be someone. Why not be Miss somebody?
posted by
Tattered_Knight
on October 3, 2007 at 10:15 PM
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FineYoungSinger
Very true
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 3, 2007 at 1:12 PM
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if there isn't just one reason for being a Mrs. Anyone, which is
"I'm Mrs. _________ Because he is worth all the love I have to give", It's just not worth it.
posted by
FineYoungSinger
on October 3, 2007 at 1:01 PM
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